Should I post my REAL height/weight on a dating site?

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For the second time,
I didn't mean to imply I was willing to lie.
I'm not.
I meant: should I put my real number out there or not enter that information at all.

I also had no idea this thread would grow to three pages after I made up my mind. WP for ya. Thanks for all the input. (I nearly typed "fish" just then...)

And, for the record, I fail to see how wanting to be judged by the content of your character as opposed to how much space you take up characterizes a "princess mentality".

Exactly.

So AA requires you to put your exact weight in your profile? Weird (it's usually considered taboo to ask a lady her weight)
Most dating sites just make you put a choice of thin/average/athletic/a bit extra/overweight. I'm stuck somewhere between thin and average so it's a bit hard for me.

I don't see what the big deal is as long as you have a picture on your profile and that picture is reasonably representative of what you look like.

Do they have a curvy option instead? I personally like girls with curves or pleasantly plump or womanly or whatever you want to call it. i'm sure there are guys of my same inclination out there. A lot of guys don't have a good gauge on number of pounds anyway, since they don't usually weigh themselves as frequently as women. Weird they'd ask you for an exact weight. Bleh.

I've got a fairly good gauge going on these days actually. 130 seems to be a good weight for girls of average height 160 for the girls that get up to almost 6 feet. Of course there is some forgiveness for extra weight in the right areas. I'm 162lbs right now, I've gone as low as 150lbs when I didn't have money to eat and 170 at the height of my weighlifting. I think I would be much better off at 180lbs and missing about 5lbs of fat. I probably weigh myself every time I go to my grandmothers and half the time when I go to Publix.

Much to my surprise, men love big girls. Last year I was living with a coworker of mine who was roughly 5'9" and about 350 - 400 lbs. I'm not really one of those that can guess weight just by looking, but nevertheless she was, as Gabriel Iglesias would say, in the range of DAMN! At work, we all agreed it'd be amusing to see the responses she'd get on Craigslist if she posted an ad. Yes, sleaze central, but home girl got replies for DAYS!

The problem with this, sadly, is that while men may be sexually attracted to bigger women, or for some other reason, society's standards look down upon a relatively good-looking or decent man going out with a bigger girl. That's bollocks if you ask me, a bigger guy.

What I have learned, however, is that taking care of yourself and exuding the love for and confidence in yourself that everyone should embrace begets a better, genuine response from potential lovers. Now, I don't mean hit the gym Biggest Loser style and diet like mad. Be stylish in your own right. Be tidy; take that extra couple of minutes to do your hair the way you like it and fix little details. When you say 'whatever', so will others. And when you're getting ready to go out where you might meet someone, be it with friends to hang out or to the... Well, that's about all I do, so God knows where you'll go, but when you are getting ready, put some upbeat music on, sing along, and just love yourself in the mirror while you get yourself together. Tell yourself you're beautiful, because you are. And when you can have fun with yourself in the mirror, that will show when you leave the house.

In turn, when you talk about yourself on an online profile, you'll be more likely to say things about yourself with confidence. So when you go fill out an AA or OKC profile, and it asks your weight, you'll say, "Yeah, I'm big! What's up?!" And I feel the need to quote RuPaul, "If you can't love yourself, how in the hell you gon' love somebody else? Can I get an Amen up in here?"

I don't even KNOW my weight

Anyway, I would just leave that option out if you're not comfortable with it. Don't you have a photo on there? Most photoless profiles on dating sites aren't gonna get much I don't think. I could be wrong though

btw there's nothing wrong with not finding bigger women attractive. Some guys don't like skinny girls either. I have preferences when it comes to physical attraction. If I was just looking for friendship, size would mean nothing. For a dating site though, physical attraction IS important to most people. Doesn't make them a bad person

I think you should remain upfront and honest. Someone for whom the weight matters will not allow your personality to win out over his preference when he learns later. I agree with all the others who say it's better to spare yourself the aggravation of hearing from those clowns.

If you're overweight, you might want to consider a BBW matching site, which brings men who dig bigger girls. There's some creeps (like there are creeps everywhere) but you're basically putting yourself in a place where men aren't stupid about weight... in fact, they like it. If you posted your specs here, I missed it so I'm talking blind, but that's my recommendation to avoid the hassle of fatphobic buttheads.

Why is it "being stupid about weight" if you juts don't like fat women?

Aren't these men who are into "BBWs" being equally "stupid about weight" just in the opposite direction?

There's nothing wrong with having different tastes in women