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22 Feb 2011, 7:09 pm

Well the person I met up with tonight was rather cool and we got on really well. I got a hug and a kiss at the end of tonight. But we shall see its if we meetup again in two weeks like she said. I gave her my mobile number, she said she would text me hers so wait n see if that happens or not.

Blimey, my ex was so much more simple when we first met. A couple of drinks later and the next morning whoops oh err sorry about us kinda kissing each other last night oh you want to go out? Cool.

No wonder i skipped the whole dating thing its such a weird ritual. Though I can understand its a process of getting to know someone i guess.

I'm not gonna go into any great detail on what we got up too but would be interesting to hear some peoples perspectives on where to go from here?

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22 Feb 2011, 11:59 pm

lol Laz got a shag.

Got no advice for you i'm afraid.

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23 Feb 2011, 3:15 am

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lol Laz got a shag

Pfft Laz has got many of those in his mis-spent youth, laz would prefer companionship these days not brief encounters.

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Got no advice for you i'm afraid

That bad aye

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23 Feb 2011, 3:47 am

Laz wrote:

Well done. If you've got her phone number, then I would try phoning her to find out how it went as well as to perhaps ask her if she would like another date.

No more updates yet from my side, unfortunately.

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23 Feb 2011, 11:08 am

I usually try to only send messages to the ones that are listed as "frequently responds". Even then, they rarely do, and the ones that do often only reply once or otherwise lose interest quickly...

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23 Feb 2011, 11:37 am

Laz wrote:

The hug was a good sign.

Not giving her mobile# is a bad sign.

So you just have to wait.

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23 Feb 2011, 12:10 pm

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The hug was a good sign

Indeed

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Not giving her mobile# is a bad sign

Indeed, though this is London its full of nutters and BS'ers

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Well done. If you've got her phone number, then I would try phoning her to find out how it went as well as to perhaps ask her if she would like another date.

My god man whats wrong with you aspies who LIKE speaking on the phone we need a seperate diagnosis for you lot :lol:

I think the ball is firmly in her court so to speak with regards to future correspondance so i'll wait and see im patient like that. Will probably send her a message in a few days to feedback to her. But I think getting into someones face would be overkill. I know i'd feel quite uncomfortable with someone appearing to be far too over keen

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23 Feb 2011, 1:09 pm

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My god man whats wrong with you aspies who LIKE speaking on the phone we need a seperate diagnosis for you lot :lol:

When did I say that I liked speaking on the phone? I've never been in your position myself, so I only repeated advice I found elsewhere. Nevertheless, if you don't like talking on the phone then I suppose the best way would be to send her an SMS.

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06 Mar 2011, 4:41 pm

It's been 2 weeks since I sent her that email and she hasn't replied. She also hasn't logged on to OKCupid since 21 February. What could this mean?

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06 Mar 2011, 4:43 pm

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It's been 2 weeks since I sent her that email and she hasn't replied. She also hasn't logged on to OKCupid since 21 February. What could this mean?

1- She found a bf

or

2- Got bored of okc

Either way, move on.

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06 Mar 2011, 4:50 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

Jono wrote:

It's been 2 weeks since I sent her that email and she hasn't replied. She also hasn't logged on to OKCupid since 21 February. What could this mean?

1- She found a bf

or

2- Got bored of okc

Either way, move on.

How do you know if they've lost interest as opposed to just busy? The thing is, I've got her email address and she's got mine. I'm completely and utterly sick and tired of moving on because I've been doing that on OKCupid for half a year and not a single person turned out to be interested enough to have a date with me. It looks like it's just not going to happen. I may as well go ahead with my plan to disclose my AS on there.

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06 Mar 2011, 5:17 pm

or

3- got bored of you

4-are really busy.

Girls on online dating usually use subtle ways of rejection, they don't say it to your face. It would be way better if they do ,but they just don't. They avoid any possible confrontation on that matter.

They just block all your contacts , your okc, your email , your IM .... and "disappear". If you send them an email , they would reply by denying it or by creating some excuse such as being too busy.

(Happened to me once, I added her on my other msn account and she appeared online while she appeared offline on my original account, sent her an email why , she replied that she blocked no one. Another girl, I knew she blocked me by mere coincidence so I asked her for explanation , she said that she was just appearing offline, but she was really lying because an acquaintance told me she was online on his list).

and the fun part, that it happens mostly randomly and unexpected , you think that everything is going on fine between you two: interesting frequent conversations , talking about common interests , no quarrel, no fighting , nothing ,la vie en rose ...and suddenly *poof* , she disappears for good.

Half-year already?

In that case, do it. Disclose it.

You have nothing to lose.

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06 Mar 2011, 5:26 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

Boo, when you say "too busy" is just an excuse, does that also apply when they use that excuse after not replying for 2 weeks but in the same message ask you for your email address? Because that's what this girl did to me and I assumed it meant that she was interested and we would go off OKCupid to email each other. That's why I started this thread.

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Half-year already?

In that case, do it. Disclose it.

You have nothing to lose.

I suppose, yes.

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06 Mar 2011, 5:31 pm

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I can't read her mind but....

...you have to expect anything man. Expect any thing.

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06 Mar 2011, 5:48 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

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I can't read her mind but....

...you have to expect anything man. Expect any thing.

It just seems illogical that she would ask me for my email address and then email me hers if she wasn't interested. The only explanation I can think of is that she lost interest when I sent her the email using the address she gave me. She was on OKCupid at the time I sent her the email and so I sent her an IM message to tell her that I just sent it. That was the last time she logged on to OKCupid as well.

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