How are you at getting women at clubs?

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Most of those "indie" places usually.



You violently pulsate to the rythmn? Thats probably a fire hazard once you start smoking from the friction

I don't dance either. I just don't see the point. IMO, there are people who are naturally good dancers and those that aren't. Even "good" dancers who have to practice predefined moves and routines aren't natural dancers, IMO. If you're out on the floor and douing choreographed routines someone else came up with, it just seems pointless as it's not spontanious.

Well met. I couldn't of said it better myself....

But to the OP... I have had very little success on this front. I have no clue as to how one effectively starts a conversation with a stranger. To make matters worse if I do start a conversation with someone I can't figure out what to say. Generally girls lose interest in me shortly after a few sentences

I've tried going to hip, trendy nightclubs before, but the music tends to not be to my taste, and I'm too clumsy to dance. Nightclubs are pretty much the anti-aspie place. I've always gone alone, which obviously doesn't help, but I don't know anyone who goes to those places. I've had a few close calls, but I've never taken a woman home for a one-night stand before. It seems, if I kept going, I might eventually get the hang of it and have success. The women seem to assume you're familiar with how the process of negotiating (not literally) a one-night stand/hook-up works—basically that you've done it before and know how it all works. I had one woman, attractive but struck me as a little depressed, who seemed a little into me but seemed to assume I knew how the whole process worked; her friend eventually got between us (literally). I surmise she must have recently come out of a relationship or something and was trying to hook up with someone out of vanity/to lift her mood, which is perfectly fine by me.

Cozy, quiet bars and coffee houses are a far better environment for me to socialize than a crowded, noisy club. I don't talk much, but i dance even less. The ideal socialization environment for me is a pagan bonfire: half the people there are Aspies, Djimbe drumming trumps house music any day, you can dance like a stoned white boy without criticism, and half of the women are already unclothed!

Good but don't like it, feel forced. Just wanna be with friends and dance.

Easier for you and me than a girl. Women have to EXPECT it. I don't get how some of these girls go to clubs and get offended that guys come up and try to hit on them. That's like playing ice hockey and getting offended that somebody chucked you when all you came do was play the game.

im pretty horrible at it. i never felt comfortable walking up to some random girl and grinding with her, as if i was coming on too strong. one time though, when my inhibitions were low and my serotonin levels were high, i would catch someone's eye and dance near her... like playing around and flirting rather than just walking up with my hands and arms at the ready. then i'd repeat again, until it worked - she backed right into me hahaha

very true

im terrible at it, mainly because i go for the other guys ;D

I don't go to clubs at all & I never had any desire to do that but some of my friends tell me that I could easily find a girl there if I offered em drugs

Going to clubs to pull girls is a bad idea. Go to a pub or bar instead if you must.