Girlfriends?

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I think all the guys I have been out with have been worth it because

1) I met wonderful men and got to know them and had great times with them

and

2) Even the relationships that werent good I at least learnt from them and grew... I really dont regret any of them, even the ones which caused me pain, as they had some kind of purpose in my life.

3) And some of them I still exchange the odd email with them and they will always be important people in my mind.

I'll quote Iron Jawed Angels here.

"When you're alone, you can do whatever you want. Nobody's there to hold you back, or make you feel seriously guilty. When you're in love, it's not that way anymore"

Are relationships worth it?

This is really a matter of economics.

First, find a sane partner. One that's not:

Needy
Possessive
Controlling
or Mentally Ill

Second, you need to also not be all the things above

Third, ask yourself:

Am I fine giving up time I could spend doing something else to obtain personal attachment and affection to another person?
What can I give to another person in relationship?

and this is the biggest one

Do I love myself?

Because if you don't love yourself, you can't love another person. Your lack of an ability to love yourself will only kill the relationship.

Oh and relationships aren't a panacea for misery and woe. They provide a shoulder to cry on, and someone to be happy with, but there'll still be times where you down, and even when you feel lonely.

You get out of a relationship, for the most part, as much as you put into it. Therefore, if you think it's worth it, you will make it worth it, all other things equal (and healthy)

Girlfriends bring for me thus far.

Culture, understanding of humanity, controllable social interaction, random trips to different country's while unemployed to vacation. They also bring understanding of intimacy. More importantly higene tips and clothing options.

Less importantly they bring the darkest, rudest most undeserved selfish backstabbings you may ever feel while alive. Yet, this feeling tends to be mutual at times and its a risk you take to further your understanding.


So yes. Girlfriends rule.