Devestated after this!

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oh Girsha i am so scared being threatend over the internet

oh that's funny.
but you're not above name calling over the internet?
iiiirony.

emilion i have seen some of your posts which is why i spewed venom at you because you seem to get some kick out of putting aspie guys down who are having trouble with relationships.

you know nothing about me.
so refrain from judging me.
i don't judge you or anyone else here.

sorry if you don't like the female perspective from someone who has
dealt with a lot of s**t with relationships -and life- and come out the other side.

if you don't like it - don't read it.
going out of your way to attack me, says a lot more about you than it does me.

okay sorry i look like an a**hole now. you have been more mature than me so i am sorry about my outburst

I should no better than to pick on a women over the internet.

I get a kick out of telling someone off who thinks Aspie women just have a sweet ride.

I know what rejection is, I know what people laughing at you feels like, for gods sake he's acting like it's a free ride for anyone female.

of course it is!
men flock at our feet, no matter our flaws!
pffft, as if!

I'm gonna play devil's advocate here --

Was it personally devastating? Yes.

Was this person amazingly blunt? Yes.

Do they maybe have a point though? Yes.

I say this with complete sympathy to you, and the knowledge that I too would have crumpled and walked away -- honestly, that's not a fight worth fighting. If they don't want you there, you don't want to be there.

Here's the thing -- speed dating is something that is hard, on a social skills level, even for NT's. It's like being at a very social party with the fast-forward button pressed, new conversation every few minutes.

The people running these events have responsibilities to their paying customers to make sure that they keep the experience as smooth as possible. Someone whose social skills are poor will not be able to keep up, and will literally be a boulder in that river of conversation they are trying to create.

Think of it as being a pro swim meet -- would you let in someone who couldn't even swim? Would that not detract from the overall situation?

My advice -- find another venue. There are plenty of ways to meet people and get dates, but speed dating is not for the faint of heart or the low-skilled. Join a club, find an organization, take a class -- leave the speed dating to the "popular," chatty, douchey people. Honestly, I'm not sure why you even were interested in speed dating -- kinda sounds like torture to me, if your social skills are not your strong point.

emilon so how come women are are far less tolerant of flaws in men.