Dating my ex's sister

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But not those who frequently visit the L&D and you're one of them.





Who said that you should take anything that comes your way?? You said that you are considering it , that means that you really find this girl attractive otherwise you would never give it a second thought, no?




Hmm....whatever man, tant pis.




It was just a concern (and yes, the more you get the older, the harder it becomes) but if you're gonna accuse me of patronizing then tant pis as well.




Then a love life isn't much important to you , that's probably good ....but seriously , why have you even made this thread?




Let me guess, that's a trap question : If I say yes, you're gonna say "ahhh so you're a desperate guy and you're projecting your desperation on me" and if I say no , you're gonna say "Ahhh , so you're patronizing".

No answer to you.

why did you not pick the sister first?

sounds kind of like sloppy seconds to me.

Too many unknowns to evaluate the persona of your ex. (not her sister; since she's all for it). So I would follow Lene below; as your subconscious may be telling you what you already know.

But then again, what if she really is the one?

Self or honor? Fight!

Self.

Self(ish). She went back to Mindanao back in 2004. I'd feel awkward, only because I know they'd talk about me, but if she kept it between us, then **** yeah!

Sleazy? Wrong? According to whom amongst those involved? I am not interested in sex with men, but my personal preference should not affect another's personal liberty.

So many ideas of what things are, which really they are not. These are merely the opinions of past (imagined) situations.

If the other person is offended, weigh your willingness to appease.
If the other person is likely to become violent, weigh your tolerance for injury.
...et cetera...

In essence, what this guy needs is a flow chart of possible causes and effects, actions and results.

Concluding my contributions to this thread, everything has a risk. What I see is that everyone generates opinions of one case and tries to apply it to all cases. This equals FAIL. Now that we have analyzed the most pervasive attempts at 'hard-and-fast rules' and all of the generalizations, I say that, like all things, it is best for the individual to rationally weigh risk and reward for its own situation rather than being ruled by fantastical valuations.

Advice is for consideration, not application.

In Jewish law, if a man dies then one of his brothers should marry and support the widow and her children.

In Tibet a woman would marry ALL the brothers of a family at once. If there were three brothers then she would have three husbands.

If you and her are interested in each other, go for it. Someone else being uncomfortable shouldn't stop you from pursuing a relationship.