Maaan, the friendzone is tough!

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Love it. Another one for the collection

A story about the Friend Zone...

my mum went to the salon today and when she came back she said "remember L, you used to go to her 5 years ago... well anyway I havent seen her for 5 years either. Remember she was engaged back then? Well she told me today that she had been engaged to the same guy for ages, and then was engaged to another guy, they both turned out to be jerks, and she realised that she was barking up the wrong tree going out with guys like them. Anyway, she had this male friend, and after the second engagement didnt work out, she looked at him and thought "Why dont I go out with him?" So she asked him out, and he said "What took you so long?" Apparently he had been waiting for quite a while for her to take an interest. Well, now they have a baby together..."

so that is the story, I was told just today by my mum, and this demonstrates that being friend zoned may not necessarily be a bad thing.

I dont think she was friend zoning anyone consciously. She probably just thought "I will go out with this guy" and then the other guy remained a friend. Women dont "friend zone" in the way men think they do, they just like having friendships of both genders. Sometimes a woman will have a male friend that she might date but factors may get in the way, timing etc. Other times she may have a friend where attraction is not a factor.

The friend zone is something the infatuated party creates, no matter the gender.

I dont really believe in it. In many ways I wouldnt be friends with a male I wouldnt date anyway, as I tend to go for personality, so If i like his personality enough to be friends I would also date him.

I dont know. Every person is different. and the person that you may not be ready to appreciate in 2005 you may appreciate in 2010, especially if you have a wide circle of friends and they are not a close friend but someone you see often. There is no one size fits all theory. I think if you are a male you should be friends with many females, as you may end up not only dating one of those females, but they can introduce you to friends. And it is nice having a friendship with the opposite gender.

The "friend zone" is very easy to avoid. If the girl loves you, she loves you. If she doesn't, don't try to get closer to her as some buddy. Wish her luck and move on.

Well yeah it is not good if you have a crush on someone to be their best friend and watch them dating other people... you can be a distant friend though I guess. But as in the case of this girl, their feelings can change over time, so I think perhaps dont put all the eggs in one basket... if things are meant to happen they will. I once took 7 years to get together with a guy. It was a disaster though when it actually did happen...

I don't put much stock in fate. If you want something bad enough, take the necessary steps to get it. Sure, you could end up getting rejected but at least you tried rather than sitting at the sidelines waiting for 'the one' to notice you in 'that way'.

I find there are forces at work beyond our understanding.