Date went well...

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Calls yesterday, was to introduce myself and to leave a voicemail on the second last call, this is exactly what every dating site says

We go out on a date, had a great time

I called the day after which you are supposed to do if the date went really well, first call no answer, second call left a voicemail and left it alone.

You are counting the calls in a week not in a day!

ok, so you called twice.... then you made a "joke" about how she should answer the phone because you won't bite. i am an aspie and don't read things very well but i would have picked up on your irritation very easily as that is not a funny joke. that kind of irritation would turn me off because it is too intense too quickly. she may not feel the same way and she might still go ahead with something more, but contacting her too often at this point will probably kill the chances.

there are so many reasons why she wouldn't answer the phone, and unfortunately you don't have control over any of them at this point. she will contact you... or she won't. she might be into you... or she might not.

It was nagging because as hyperlexian says, your tone comes across as annoyed that she hasn't replied yet. You come across as basically telling her to pick up her phone, albeit in a 'jokey' passive aggressive way.

In a long term relationship, this probably wouldn't be too bad but as this is just after the first date, it sort of sets the tone of things to come; Whether you agree with it or not, a lot of people will find your response too intense.

Just leave things be and see if she gets back to you. Don't put your life on hold, but don't contact her anymore; she knows you're keen, she'll get back to you if she feels the same way.

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Ok i'll shut up now, i'm sorry

Talking on the phone i find is one of the hardest things for me, i hate talking on the phone but i expect atleast a hello or a thanks for your call but... Not sure who's worse women or men at playing mind games but if you go out with someone and have a fantastic time, answer that call!. If you didn't then tell them so

I'll say no more

Sorry it's bugging you. That's how the romantic world usually operates unfortunately. Wish it was easy.

ok, that slayed me. so funny!

If she was really excited and interested, she would answer the phone or text back after a while. You all know this.

Don't blame everything on WeatherFreak's persistence and his faux pas.

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yes, there are both sides to the situation. she may or may not be interested in the first place, and the date besing successful is not necessarily the best indicator of whether she is really interested. which sucks. i think most people who have gone on dates have experiencd a situation like this (or even several dates), where it seems like the other person is interested at first but it turns out they weren't "feeling it".

if she was waffling or had doubts, his persistence could have been be offputting. but really, the persistence is not as much the issue as the joke, as it shows that there is some negativity already brewing. someone who gets irritated with me that fast is not the person for me, because apparently i already annoy them after only one date!

it sounds to me like she had a great time on the date, and hopefully she will contact him again based on that experience. it's hard to predict what would happen next as a great date doesn't mean that both people are going to want anything more to come out of it.

She asked me how i was !

Basically i put my adult face on and just said " that i apologise for this morning regarding the phone comment, i meant no offence , the fact that my head was hurting alot and i was not thinking straight " As she knew i was hurting. Hence my anger here today aswell, should've said something!

So there we go i apologised

Her reply

" it's ok i didn't take any offence, i just hate talking on the phone "

And we went on like that :p

Yay.

I think i'll find someone else...

If she knew i was calling and told me " it was being charged ", but then telling me she hates talking on the phone, you can't go through life ignoring it...

I had asked a family member for advice on this from another woman basically , the signs were not good... Is she hiding something?, does she not want to talk in front of someone?, how long will she go through without talking to me on the phone?

I had an ex like that, would never talk on the phone found out she didn't like to talk incase she was drunk out of her head!

Oh. Gah! I really don't know about these things. Too messy.

Good luck trying again.

Oh darn it! What are you doing now? The reason was revealed by her (she hates phones.period) yet you're persisting that it's something bad.

Stop overthinking ...stop!!

It was a family member that told me that

Sometimes, the family members give the worst advices.