16 Jun 2011, 9:57 am
16 Jun 2011, 10:04 am
16 Jun 2011, 10:29 am
mv wrote:
This kind of relationship sounds ideal for my needs (43, female, two children under 8 years old), but I wonder how one could pull it off, practically. For example, what if I'm in one of my "need space" phases and he's in a "need companionship" phase? Or vice versa? Or if I'd like him to accompany me to some occasional social activity (a party, a play, whatever) and he's not into it? How do you take the good without fostering resentment during the non-meshy times?
I'm extraordinarily independent, which is why I think I need to govern what happens when I do surrender some of that independence (in the form of companionship-on-demand). Does that make sense? I think this is why I'm alone. Too autonomous.
I'm extraordinarily independent, which is why I think I need to govern what happens when I do surrender some of that independence (in the form of companionship-on-demand). Does that make sense? I think this is why I'm alone. Too autonomous.
Me too, almost word-for-word.
In regards to being "out-of-phase", my answer is that this inevitable occurance is not a big deal to non-dependent people to begin with: sh*t happens...
Those kind of things are more a problem for whiny hyper-dependent drama queens (AKA NTs)
