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16 May 2011, 1:28 pm

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I like your avatar. Good show.


Thank you, I can relate because I have gotten lost walking across the street before. I don't know if having no sense of direction is an AS trait or not, but I've ended up crossing state lines (several times) on a simple drive to the store.

P.S. : I like your screen name. Good show. Commander Riker should have been Captain, though.


Riker should have become a Captain, but not of the Enterprise. I <3 Picard too much for that. :-D

I got lost once in a neighborhood I had lived in for over a year. My husband found me sobbing at the side of the road in the opposite direction I was supposed to have gone. :oops:


I learned to drive, at the age of 36 (and no, I'm not a very good driver) and my bitter half was terrified I'd be found dead by the side of the road when I had to drive to another state for some family think or other. I won't say I didn't get lost, several times, on the way, but I left HOURS before I said I would, precisely because I knew such a thing was certain to happen. Makes her crazy, or at least crazier, every time we go anywhere, since she can tell I'm more or less clueless as to where we are. I can describe certain - at least to me - "obvious" landmarks to help me get around, but cannot communicate them when I'm trying to give directions.



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16 May 2011, 1:31 pm

I haven't learned to drive yet. It scares me for a multitude of reasons. One being my sense of direction. People keep telling me it'll improve once I'm behind the wheel, but they said the same thing when I started taking public transit as a teen.


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16 May 2011, 2:18 pm

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I haven't learned to drive yet. It scares me for a multitude of reasons. One being my sense of direction. People keep telling me it'll improve once I'm behind the wheel, but they said the same thing when I started taking public transit as a teen.


I'll tell you what has helped me was I took a gig delivering pizzas in town. VERY, VERY hard the first week or so, but I developed (or compelled myself to develop) an interest in maps, and the rest, as they say, is history. I know ever street and alley and sub-division in this town and in the surrounding area.

Just don't ask me for directions. "When you head south, you'll come to an intersection with a bar on the left and what looks like it used to be a barbecue joint on the right. Anyway, when you see that, you've gone too far, so turn around and take your first left at the house with the overgrown plum trees, then it's about two blocks down, just before you get to that big lot where the bluebonnets always come up in march."



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16 May 2011, 2:24 pm

:lmao: That's exactly how I give directions.


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16 May 2011, 3:21 pm

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I guess I'm screwed then. It takes at least a month if not more (more often it will take years) of knowing someone to even develop feelings for her at all. Before that point, I won't have any attraction. From there it just steadily builds over time.


Someone could fall for you at first sight.


Yes, but I think Toad's point is that the girl will get tired of waiting for him to make a move before Toad feels any romantic attraction towards her.


No she wouldn't, she would just think "Look at that hottie." and then jump him.


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16 May 2011, 3:23 pm

TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
:lmao: That's exactly how I give directions.


I like to draw a map for them. I also like maps drawn for me too if I am trying to get somewhere.


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16 May 2011, 5:43 pm

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:lmao: That's exactly how I give directions.


I like to draw a map for them. I also like maps drawn for me too if I am trying to get somewhere.


I have problems reading maps. :oops:


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16 May 2011, 6:59 pm

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:lmao: That's exactly how I give directions.


I like to draw a map for them. I also like maps drawn for me too if I am trying to get somewhere.


I have problems reading maps. :oops:


I have problems remembering instructions. I always have to write them down. I like maps as they are a visual representation of what I would be doing. I also like diagrams.


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16 May 2011, 7:50 pm

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Someone could fall for you at first sight.


Yes, but I think Toad's point is that the girl will get tired of waiting for him to make a move before Toad feels any romantic attraction towards her.


No she wouldn't, she would just think "Look at that hottie." and then jump him.

If a woman thought my fat unemployed ass was hot, i'd be running away. Because you have to be certifiably insane to think i'm hot...



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16 May 2011, 9:23 pm

Well I am a bit overweight, and only part time employed. I wouldnt think someone who thought I was hot was insane though. I admit I would probably be a little sceptical at first in some ways. But you never know what people can see in others.


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17 May 2011, 1:19 am

Metis wrote:
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I haven't learned to drive yet. It scares me for a multitude of reasons. One being my sense of direction. People keep telling me it'll improve once I'm behind the wheel, but they said the same thing when I started taking public transit as a teen.


I'll tell you what has helped me was I took a gig delivering pizzas in town. VERY, VERY hard the first week or so, but I developed (or compelled myself to develop) an interest in maps, and the rest, as they say, is history. I know ever street and alley and sub-division in this town and in the surrounding area.

Just don't ask me for directions. "When you head south, you'll come to an intersection with a bar on the left and what looks like it used to be a barbecue joint on the right. Anyway, when you see that, you've gone too far, so turn around and take your first left at the house with the overgrown plum trees, then it's about two blocks down, just before you get to that big lot where the bluebonnets always come up in march."


Why not just tell them the street names?



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17 May 2011, 6:38 am

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I haven't learned to drive yet. It scares me for a multitude of reasons. One being my sense of direction. People keep telling me it'll improve once I'm behind the wheel, but they said the same thing when I started taking public transit as a teen.


I'll tell you what has helped me was I took a gig delivering pizzas in town. VERY, VERY hard the first week or so, but I developed (or compelled myself to develop) an interest in maps, and the rest, as they say, is history. I know ever street and alley and sub-division in this town and in the surrounding area.

Just don't ask me for directions. "When you head south, you'll come to an intersection with a bar on the left and what looks like it used to be a barbecue joint on the right. Anyway, when you see that, you've gone too far, so turn around and take your first left at the house with the overgrown plum trees, then it's about two blocks down, just before you get to that big lot where the bluebonnets always come up in march."


Why not just tell them the street names?


Because they're not posted at every intersection, might be obstructed by other vehicles in other lanes, and aren't within sight until you're pretty much PASSING the intersection in question, and that's presuming the type is large enough to be read from that distance at all.



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17 May 2011, 11:56 am

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Well I am a bit overweight, and only part time employed. I wouldnt think someone who thought I was hot was insane though.
Probably because you're a better looker than I am...



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17 May 2011, 1:01 pm

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I haven't learned to drive yet. It scares me for a multitude of reasons. One being my sense of direction. People keep telling me it'll improve once I'm behind the wheel, but they said the same thing when I started taking public transit as a teen.


I'll tell you what has helped me was I took a gig delivering pizzas in town. VERY, VERY hard the first week or so, but I developed (or compelled myself to develop) an interest in maps, and the rest, as they say, is history. I know ever street and alley and sub-division in this town and in the surrounding area.

Just don't ask me for directions. "When you head south, you'll come to an intersection with a bar on the left and what looks like it used to be a barbecue joint on the right. Anyway, when you see that, you've gone too far, so turn around and take your first left at the house with the overgrown plum trees, then it's about two blocks down, just before you get to that big lot where the bluebonnets always come up in march."


Why not just tell them the street names?


I can never remember street names.


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17 May 2011, 2:34 pm

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Well I am a bit overweight, and only part time employed. I wouldnt think someone who thought I was hot was insane though.
Probably because you're a better looker than I am...


I dont know how good looking I am or arent. That is a subjective thing. But seriously, you need to back yourself more.


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20 May 2011, 3:33 pm

Well, my girlfriend and I were in the "friend zone" for four years before we got together, if that means anything to you.