03 Jul 2011, 12:54 pm
nick007 wrote:
Chronos wrote:
nick007 wrote:
hale_bopp wrote:
This isn't your fault. People should stop using people to moan to. I've been guilty of this in the past, and it's perfectly reasonable for the interested party to be sick of whiners saying no-one likes them to someone who does.
It IS my fault because I should of known better than to make a move in the 1st place because it ends badly most every time I do. I'm a damned fool for thinking that someone would like me after a while because it's obvious from my experiences that they never do
Now this is just self pitying. There was nothing wrong with you making a move. It was continuing the relationship after she said she wanted to be friends, and you secretly wanted to be more.
I would of been happy being her friend but I started feeling like she may of been interested in me. because she started confiding in me more. A couple times in the past women have told me they were only wanted to be friends with me & they started confiding in me more & I had just assumed it was only friendship but when I ended up making a blog about being lonely or made a comment about liking another girl; the girl I was friends with got really upset with me because they had thought we were begging a relationship even thou she had told me she only wanted to be friends. When girls had told me they only wanted to be my friends & I respected that; it ended badly because they had assumed we were getting in a relationship when they did not tell me their feelings towards me had changed. But when that pattern repeats with another girl & I take a chance that her feelings had changed; she tells me they hadn't. How the hell can I know when a girl is serious or when a girl is playing that hard-to-get cr@p when they both have the same patterns
Well I can only claim to understand the minds of NT girls to a point. Perhaps those girls who "just wanted to be friends" and then thought a relationship was forming were ambivalent about how they felt about you.
But I think you should distance yourself from girls who "just want to be friends" who you want to date. If you are not interested in being more than friends with them, and they later want to be more than friends, then it's their problem.
I think you should just be very open on this matter with girls and tell them they have to be very direct with you because you can't read between the lines very well and trust what they tell you verbally.
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03 Jul 2011, 1:06 pm
