"Why are you still single?"

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Then you can never win, even with the lesbians .

Use to but not so much these days. When they do I just tell them the truth, I'm not actively seeking and let's face it, I'm no diamond in the rough. Most of my relatives are already aware of my social impediments.

Because I don't make friends easily. To add to that, I don't know of a woman that I am properly attracted to that I could bond with.

I think that people assume that gays keep their relationships secret - they seem unable to fathom the idea that someone could simply be unable to find someone to be in a relationship with.

Whenever I get asked that question, I just respond with the truth: the women don't love me, and probably never will...

I get asked this at family functions a lot. It makes me feel like something is wrong with me for not being able to keep a relationship longer than a few months. My grandma says something like, "awww, I wish you could lose weight so you could have a good boyfriend for once and get married." It's like, gee thanks.

"Sure, all I have to do is shake a tree so lots of girls fall down from it and then I can pick up the one I like best, right?"

I don't believe anyone has ever really asked me this, at least not in a condescending way, and I'm 29.

I suppose part of that may be because for the past 9 years I've been in a relationship about 70% of the time.

As of ~1 week ago, though, I am single again after a nearly 3 year relationship. I still can't possibly imagine anyone asking me "why are you single?" though, it just... doesn't make sense. I don't really ever talk to anyone who would be so interested in my personal affairs.

I don't think I have ever been directly asked this. I'd probably respond with "because your lovely mother doesn't feel the need to tether me to the burden of being anything more than a f**k buddy."

I have never been asked this question. Perhaps me being single is nothing out of the ordinary...

Them "Your so sweet, why don't you have a girlfriend?"
Me, thinking to myself. "Because I have the conversation skills and personality of an African Swallow, certainly not a European swallow. I can maintain a steady air speed velocity by beating my wings forty three times every second, but the European swallow is much better at holding a steady conversation"
Me, out loud. " I don't know"

Didn't your family also talk to each other about how theres no reason why you shouldn't have a boyfriend? God, how do you cope with that sort of family pressure?

Yup. I'm young, therefore I should have a boyfriend. My mom and grandma were also already married and popping out kids by my age so they think that it's m AS that keeps me from getting a man who wants to stay. I don't think that's the case since most people can't even tell that I have it. My family is so fussy. GTFO my life, geeze. :/

As for coping, I usually bottle it up and cry in my room later or roll my eyes and tell them that times are different now and I need to be financially stable on my own before introducing any man and babies into my life.

This happened to me CONSTANTLY in my 20s. Other people would say they'd find me someone to go out with but never follow through. If someone said that to me now, I'd say something like, "I don't know, you have someone for me?"

It's utterly inappropriate, insensitive, and unhelpful for people to ask why you're single and then bring up your weight and say that must be why. I would go talk to those adults and tell them to stop doing that; they're doing more harm than good.

Average age at first marriage and first child has been rising steadily for the last 40 years or so. Women shouldn't be defined by their relationships with men either; they deserve their own identities.

Thank you. I agree completely.