How can you say, "I love you!" too early?

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24 Aug 2011, 10:08 am

When I was younger, I ended a lot of relationship because they said 'I love you' too soon, but that was because I have always viewed love as a permanent thing. If I say 'I love you' it translates to 'I think I might spend the rest of my life with you and it'd be cool if we produced offspring.'

In high school, everyone I dated said that they loved me within two weeks, which prompted me to freak out and dump them.
The only one that said it super early and got to stay was my fiance. He said he loved me after three days of knowing me, but I said it back because we have a spark I've never experienced with anyone else.

Commitment is very scary for some people, and I think that's why relationships end when 'I love you' comes too soon.

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24 Aug 2011, 6:06 pm

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24 Aug 2011, 8:24 pm

OddFiction wrote:

Theory:
The initial stages of a relationship are all about getting to know the basics of each other: personality quirks, social comfort, etc, etc. As the relationship progresses, there is revelation of other informations: interests, family dynamics, past events, etc, etc (and all the stuff people call "emotional baggage").

I don't get how you could be in a relationship and not know that stuff already...what made you want to be with them, if not those basic things?
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24 Aug 2011, 9:04 pm

I use "I love you!" early.
In fact I use it as a pickup line.
That way the breakup precedes the relationship itself.
It's more efficient that way.

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29 Aug 2011, 5:13 pm

Why is "I Love You" such a dirty phrase? Why does it have to imply smothering and possessiveness? People need love. I need to feel loved, and if I love someone, I need to be able to express it...otherwise I just feel rotten. Also, it is not a singular incident. It is possible to love more than one person....To me, it means to hold someone in high esteem...to like/respect/appreciate them for who they are...Maybe it is a bad word because it is confusing and means different things to different people...Perhaps I need to find some alternate phrasing for the feelings I have in particular for my boyfriend..who is extremely uncomfortable with the phrase, and yet does not seem to want to do away with our relationship...blah blah..I am redundant on the issue.... :roll: I need to get over it...it is just stupid words...

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