31 Jul 2011, 12:05 pm
31 Jul 2011, 12:08 pm
hyperlexian wrote:
yeah but from my perspective it's kind of a good way to see his personality a little bit, or get a better idea of his family and interests...
The other point is that there might be far more of this stuff than you might care to look through. I mean, would you want to look through 11,000 posts of mine on here just so you might be able to determine what you think of my writings and whether you would identify with me as a person?
Besides beer we don't seem to have any special interests in any case.
Right-wing conservative classical liberal v socialist feminist left doesn't mix.
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it's sort of a snapshot.
The Internet may provide more than a snapshot. I don't have a Facebook account but there's a lot more to me than simple Facemong.
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a phone number is like a big unknown
I would never contact someone over the phone anyway. I would prefer e-mail. I have a separate e-mail address for such enquiries.
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i'd rather have the buffer of an online profile than a phone number
It also depends on where you are too. If you live in a small town, it's much easier to get information out of people easier than if you live in a big city where you're not that well known.
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maybe it's just me but I'd rather exchange numbers and meet in person at the next possible occasion than have the guy stalk the crap out of my facebook profile looking for clues of what I might want to hear. plus, it always freaks me out when people irl mention something they read on my fb wall that I wasn't really expecting them to notice.
Or even just Googling someone. You can find quite a bit about people sometimes through that, so you can.
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perhaps my sense of humour or politics annoys them, for example, and i'd rather get that sorted ahead of time.
People generally won't like me and I'm an asocial git at the best of times. No point in having Faceache.
And again, political differences are jarring. I wouldn't want to go out with a Trotskyist fruitcake, for instance.
31 Jul 2011, 12:11 pm
Jonsi wrote:
OneStepBeyond wrote:
five, i don't have facebook and peoples shocked reactions to this bombshell are embarrassing
The only thing I really have is a tumblr... I don't even have an operational cell phone. Or even a computer of my own.
My cellphone is a pay-per-minute and I don't have my own computer even.
31 Jul 2011, 12:19 pm
Tequila wrote:
And again, political differences are jarring. I wouldn't want to go out with a Trotskyist fruitcake, for instance.
only if you're really serious about them (as you obviously are). I'm more in the center and not that serious/kinda relativist about it so I get along equally badly with every political option
31 Jul 2011, 12:35 pm
anna-banana wrote:
only if you're really serious about them (as you obviously are). I'm more in the center and not that serious/kinda relativist about it so I get along equally badly with every political option
It's not that, we'd just have so many arguments about it that it just is not worth the hassle.
31 Jul 2011, 12:37 pm
Tequila wrote:
The other point is that there might be far more of this stuff than you might care to look through. I mean, would you want to look through 11,000 posts of mine on here just so you might be able to determine what you think of my writings and whether you would identify with me as a person?
bwahahahaa do you think i haven't done that? selectively - i don't read every post, and not to you, specifically. i am a very fast reader - i had a job for a chain of restaurants once where i audited roll after roll of cash register tapes looking for irregularities. WP history is a cinch. and i think other people quietly do this to a degree as well.
Tequila wrote:
Besides beer we don't seem to have any special interests in any case.
Right-wing conservative classical liberal v socialist feminist left doesn't mix.
Right-wing conservative classical liberal v socialist feminist left doesn't mix.
hah, maybe not.
Tequila wrote:
The Internet may provide more than a snapshot. I don't have a Facebook account but there's a lot more to me than simple Facemong.
yes.
Tequila wrote:
I would never contact someone over the phone anyway. I would prefer e-mail. I have a separate e-mail address for such enquiries.
good idea.
Tequila wrote:
It also depends on where you are too. If you live in a small town, it's much easier to get information out of people easier than if you live in a big city where you're not that well known.
agree completely. that is an excellent point. in a smaller town at least you might be aware of a person through their family or friends, but in the city we are mostly strangers.
Tequila wrote:
People generally won't like me and I'm an asocial git at the best of times. No point in having Faceache.
i agree with you that Facebook isn't the only way. if a person completely lacked an online presence i would react with caution, and at the very least i'd know that they are not suited to me.
Tequila wrote:
And again, political differences are jarring. I wouldn't want to go out with a Trotskyist fruitcake, for instance.
i like my fruitcake marinated in dark rum. my Trotskyism? not so much.
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31 Jul 2011, 12:38 pm
anna-banana wrote:
you know that date rapists or serial killers don't put that information on their facebook profiles though right?
As far as Im concerned they dont tell you that stuff on the phone either so either way dating a stranger is mainly taking the risk of giving someone you dont know a chance and hope that things dont turn out to ugly.
I have trouble asking someone for their facebook(dont know how to ask/afraid of rejection......)so I try to give "subtle" hints that I´d like to add someone on facebook.Usually its something along the lines you wont believe what I just read on fb, it works fine most of the times.
Oddly enough I have a smaller issue asking for a phone number but thats because I have developed a procedure of arranging an after uni/work meeting and asking for the number just in case either of us cant make it. Pretty sure I wouldnt be able to do it with a stranger though.
31 Jul 2011, 12:38 pm
31 Jul 2011, 12:49 pm
hyperlexian wrote:
bwahahahaa do you think i haven't done that?
I already know what you think of me, wench.
No; I didn't mean that at all. What I meant was that if you were interested in someone and thought of meeting them perhaps for a drink would you go and skim through 11,000 posts on here, or thousands of his Flickr photos, or postings on other websites, or his blogs (I had more than one!) from five years ago that was full of illiterate crap?
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selectively - i don't read every post, and not to you, specifically.
I think everyone does, don't they?
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WP history is a cinch. and i think other people quietly do this to a degree as well.
I wouldn't really expect them not to.
I'll answer the rest later... at the moment I have this...
...to attend to.
31 Jul 2011, 12:53 pm
31 Jul 2011, 1:08 pm
Tequila wrote:
I already know what you think of me, wench.
okay that made me LOL!! ! just because you have impeccable taste in brewed beverages, you now have special permission to refer to me as wench. somehow, it fits perfectly. perhaps we don't agree, but that doesn't mean we can't get along.
Tequila wrote:
No; I didn't mean that at all. What I meant was that if you were interested in someone and thought of meeting them perhaps for a drink would you go and skim through 11,000 posts on here, or thousands of his Flickr photos, or postings on other websites, or his blogs (I had more than one!) from five years ago that was full of illiterate crap?
yes. what i was getting at is that i would do it for less reason than that.
Tequila wrote:
I'll answer the rest later... at the moment I have this...
...to attend to.
...to attend to.
dammit that looks fine... it's 12:07 p.m. here.
31 Jul 2011, 1:10 pm
31 Jul 2011, 1:23 pm
hyperlexian wrote:
Tequila wrote:
I already know what you think of me, wench.
okay that made me LOL!! ! just because you have impeccable taste in brewed beverages, you now have special permission to refer to me as wench.
You'll just have to imagine the stale beer breath, the fact that I smell like I haven't washed for a week, the empty packets of pork scratchings strewn about the place, and the beer stains on my T-shirt.
hyperlexian wrote:
perhaps we don't agree, but that doesn't mean we can't get along.
Fair enough. And yes, I agree there.
Bottle of Aspall's Premier Cru Dry Suffolk Cyder (7%) here. No photo though.
hyperlexian wrote:
yes.
That frightens me a bit and would probably mean I'd get an instant refusal.
hyperlexian wrote:
dammit that looks fine... it's 12:07 p.m. here.
Well, we've had dinner here so I'm just starting on it. My third bottle so far - first was Batemans XXXB (4.8%).
31 Jul 2011, 1:24 pm
31 Jul 2011, 1:30 pm
Tequila wrote:
You'll just have to imagine the stale beer breath, the fact that I smell like I haven't washed for a week, the empty packets of pork scratchings strewn about the place, and the beer stains on my T-shirt.
wow, you make yourself sound like such a catch.
don't worry, i am not fixing to board a jet to come over and steal your beer. no hyperlexian-bane required.Tequila wrote:
Bottle of Aspall's Premier Cru Dry Suffolk Cyder (7%) here. No photo though.
....now where is my boarding pass?
Tequila wrote:
That frightens me a bit and would probably mean I'd get an instant refusal.
not all women are as creepy-stalkerish as me. rest easy on that one.
Tequila wrote:
This is very true. I feel almost as though if I were to get a girlfriend, I'd have to date someone outside my town due to my aloof, creepy reputation I've gained here.
you just gave yourself some awesome advice.
31 Jul 2011, 1:40 pm
hyperlexian wrote:
wow, you make yourself sound like such a catch. don't worry, i am not fixing to board a jet to come over and steal your beer. no hyperlexian-bane required.
don't worry, i am not fixing to board a jet to come over and steal your beer. no hyperlexian-bane required.You're allowed one. In a half-pint glass. And hold it with both hands. And go and sit outside with it, you'll spill it! Be careful!
(Incidentally, none of those above things apply. Last time I ate pork scratchings was last week; I bathed this morning and put some glorious deodorant on, I smell very lovely. So I'm told. I just look like Billy Bunter.
hyperlexian wrote:
....now where is my boarding pass?
On the table, where you left it. Sure, flights to the UK aren't that expensive. Although it did cost a few quid when I went to Toronto that year.
They had some cheap deals at the Morrisons I visited today. Weston's Special Reserve - 2010 Edition - cider (8.2%) for £1.26 (C$1.98) a bottle. I bought one for my mum. 8.2% is the strongest a cider can go and still be cider here in the UK due to tax regulations - any cider stronger than that gets taxed as wine.
(Usually that cider is usually more like £1.70 (C$2.65) a bottle.
hyperlexian wrote:
not all women are as creepy-stalkerish as me. rest easy on that one.
If you were as creepy stalkerish as you say, you'd go out with me anyway whilst telling me all the postings I made on the Internet, like silly, bigoted one I made three or four years ago in a temper, or just other random stuff. It's that that would scare me.
hyperlexian wrote:
you just gave yourself some awesome advice.
Yes, I know. I feel that outside my own town I can interact with people a lot better. In a small town, if a few people think you're creepy, that's it. Game over. Done and dusted. Might as well be that Breivik bloke.
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