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Have you seen the pictures of hale_bopp, en_una_isla and Berta? Do they look like dudes?

Well, AS is much more common in boys and there is that theory that autism is an extreme version of the male brain, so I guess it's not surprising that having AS and being a straight female don't go together very often.

I don't know about that. I've talked to a number of fairly 'butch' types that are attracted to men.

I also talk to probably a fair number more of 'femme' types that are lesbian


So if you buy into that you can have a 'male' or 'female' brain, it doesn't seem to have much to do with gender preferance. Though it is a pretty popular belief.

If there is any relation, it's probably that most of the so called straight people are so caught up in 'acting straight' because to do otherwise is socially inappropriate that it looks like there's a relationship.

Hey now. I'm an aspie chick and I've been told that I'm pretty damn attractive. (Whether I agree or not is a different story entirely) Also, Danielle on here (Bacidefarfalla) is pretty. >(

Even if I don't really... align perfectly with all of femininity, still... I'm not totally butch.


And yeah, I'm rather queer. And by rather I mean totally.

I wish b-cuz i dont think any girl in this school likes me (but i'm not turned on by men)

As far as I go? I have a preference that's largely in favour of girls, but does include guys from time to time.

Not that I'd ever come out of my shell long enough to expose my vulnerable underbelly, of course...

I'm a girl and I just started noticing I was attracted to other girls two or so weeks ago. That was kind of a shock.

At first it felt kind of like finding out about AS: exhilaration, finally finding my true identity (or whatever)... And now I feel just like I did with AS too: how can I be sure, but I think men's faces are usually better-looking, so might I be bisexual... And then the realization of what that means, and all the problems it's going to bring me in the future (even though I won't force myself to be straight or NT!).

So I guess I'm a lesbian, or bisexual; but definitely queer and more on the lesbian side of the spectrum.

Today is my one-week anniversary of coming out to my friends.

I'm a bi female aspie, and I've been out for about a year.

As for the whole attractiveness/looks like a guy issue, I've been told that I'm attractive, but I do have self-esteem issues so I don't always believe that. I don't think I look masculine, but I don't look femme either. I used to dress all femme-y in high school, but around junior year I stopped because it was getting to be time-consuming. Now I don't pay much attention to my clothes, and I really don't wear makeup. So for me I think it's more of a comfort issue than an actual identity one, but I do have long hair, but that's because I really don't look good in short hair, so I guess I'm still trying to figure that all out. I'm not exactly immune to the idea of cross-dressing, however.

And as for the whole male-brain thing, I was actually wondering about that myself, and what exactly the link was between AS and being queer. It certainly is interesting to think about.

I think some of us ASpie guys have such trouble talking to, and interacting with the opposite sex, that we give up, and say 'I must be gay". I've had gay guys 'come onto' me. I was shocked, to say the least. Not interested, thank you very much. But some ASpies have SO much trouble connecting with the opposite sex, they give up.

As for the male brain thing, I've always identified with the female brain. The whole creative, colors, textures, love animals thing. Oddly enough, I've had one of my wife's female friends flirt with me because I love animals so much ! ! She told me, that if anything happened, and I was single, she'd marry me ! !! (I almost dropped my dentures!! !) (See Random Forum for pic, and you'll get the idea I'm no handsome dude.)

It could just be, you know... General homosexuality... Latest studies suggest 10.5% of people are bisexual or homosexual.

I'm gay. My boyfriend (soon fiancé ) has AS as well, it's great 'cause we just get on brilliantly, like I tend to with most ASpies. By the way, Prof_Pretorius, there's no way you just give up on talking to the opposite sex and become gay, there IS a genetic disorder which causes homosexuality. It has been shown to be beneficial to the species as well, the same gene gives women higher fertility rates which is why it's survived. There was an article in New Scientist some time ago, and it's in Nature somewhere as well.

You're talking as though I'm never going to read this.


Anyway, yes, I'm also gay and almost engaged to this guy. We both have AS but if anything it helps us get on because we have very similar personality types in many ways.

And um... I don't think anyone who'se straight could be knocked into thinking they're gay because girls aren't interested in them. Most adolescents who identify as being gay do so because they have very real same-sex attractions, and while a small number go on to be straight as adults, it's rarely a phase.

Also, I've read a study (can't remember where, I'd have to dig it out) which said there's a small correlation between autistic spectrum disorders and the incidence of bisexuality and homosexuality. Whereas most psychologists and sociologists would agree that around 10% of the general public is gay or bi, some studies have suggested that as many as 20-25% of people with ASDs are gay or bisexual.