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13 Sep 2011, 2:57 pm

I don't know, but I'm an NT and that was the first thing that my bf told me.

and...

I didn't really believe him at first either. He's very popular and has lots
of friends. He is also very comfortable in social situations.


I was glad he told me right away, though. There have been some
situations lately that, if I didn't know he was an Aspie, I probably
would have broken up with him.

In other words, by him telling me before we even went out on our first
date, I knew what to expect.

Also, I am EXTREMELY happy.

Hope this helps you. Good Luck!!



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13 Sep 2011, 4:50 pm

TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
should one reveal their spectrum issues?


When you come out the shower and light refracts through your body into a rainbow on the wall. Generally speaking most people don't have that issue so it might need some explaining before they ring up Mulder and Scully to come and figure you out.


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14 Sep 2011, 7:15 am

TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
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I am very open with the fact i am Autistic. So any potential partner would know i was well in advance of me dating them. Also I don't Date.


I don't 'date' either.


My ex hated when I would tell people we didn't date. I just never liked the word. I thought we just hung out together until I made a move then we were in a relationship. It seemed we didn't make formal arrangements for dinners or movies.

@ Tea, Do you have feelings for this guy? Is this the same one who kept asking if you were going to sleep together or another one? Sorry if I haven't been keeping up.



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14 Sep 2011, 10:58 am

Laz wrote:
TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
should one reveal their spectrum issues?


When you come out the shower and light refracts through your body into a rainbow on the wall. Generally speaking most people don't have that issue so it might need some explaining before they ring up Mulder and Scully to come and figure you out.


I had that happen once. I think Scully was trying to get fresh with me at one point. :oops:


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14 Sep 2011, 11:01 am

curlyfry wrote:
TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
Humperdinck wrote:
I am very open with the fact i am Autistic. So any potential partner would know i was well in advance of me dating them. Also I don't Date.


I don't 'date' either.


My ex hated when I would tell people we didn't date. I just never liked the word. I thought we just hung out together until I made a move then we were in a relationship. It seemed we didn't make formal arrangements for dinners or movies.

@ Tea, Do you have feelings for this guy? Is this the same one who kept asking if you were going to sleep together or another one? Sorry if I haven't been keeping up.


If there's no formal arrangement, it's not a date.

No, I don't have feelings for this guy. And no, not the same dude. Ah... I guess I was defaulting to my logic based thoughts when it comes to relationships. I decide if someone is compatible or not, then go from there.

I'm such a romantic. :P


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14 Sep 2011, 11:02 am

TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
Laz wrote:
TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
should one reveal their spectrum issues?


When you come out the shower and light refracts through your body into a rainbow on the wall. Generally speaking most people don't have that issue so it might need some explaining before they ring up Mulder and Scully to come and figure you out.


I had that happen once. I think Scully was trying to get fresh with me at one point. :oops:


NOOOOO....

I saw her first!



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14 Sep 2011, 11:05 am

Grisha wrote:
TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
Laz wrote:
TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
should one reveal their spectrum issues?


When you come out the shower and light refracts through your body into a rainbow on the wall. Generally speaking most people don't have that issue so it might need some explaining before they ring up Mulder and Scully to come and figure you out.


I had that happen once. I think Scully was trying to get fresh with me at one point. :oops:


NOOOOO....

I saw her first!


Could I persuade you to agree to joint-custody? I could have her on Mondays and Thursdays. Those are my 'frisky' days.


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14 Sep 2011, 12:34 pm

TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
Ah... I guess I was defaulting to my logic based thoughts when it comes to relationships. I decide if someone is compatible or not, then go from there.


Wait...there's a different way we're supposed to do this?

:wink:



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14 Sep 2011, 1:07 pm

mv wrote:
TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
Ah... I guess I was defaulting to my logic based thoughts when it comes to relationships. I decide if someone is compatible or not, then go from there.


Wait...there's a different way we're supposed to do this?

:wink:


So I've been told! I still can't believe it myself! 8O


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14 Sep 2011, 1:08 pm

TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
Grisha wrote:
TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
Laz wrote:
TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
should one reveal their spectrum issues?


When you come out the shower and light refracts through your body into a rainbow on the wall. Generally speaking most people don't have that issue so it might need some explaining before they ring up Mulder and Scully to come and figure you out.


I had that happen once. I think Scully was trying to get fresh with me at one point. :oops:


NOOOOO....

I saw her first!


Could I persuade you to agree to joint-custody? I could have her on Mondays and
Thursdays. Those are my 'frisky' days.


Deal :D



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14 Sep 2011, 1:09 pm

Sweeeet...


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14 Sep 2011, 3:16 pm

mv wrote:
TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
Ah... I guess I was defaulting to my logic based thoughts when it comes to relationships. I decide if someone is compatible or not, then go from there.


Wait...there's a different way we're supposed to do this?

:wink:


Actually, compatible is what I hear from my siblings who are married. So I'm going to stick to that logic. At least I'll be happy and not feel I have to pretend to be something else to please someone.



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15 Sep 2011, 8:50 pm

Laz wrote:
TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
should one reveal their spectrum issues?


When you come out the shower and light refracts through your body into a rainbow on the wall. Generally speaking most people don't have that issue so it might need some explaining before they ring up Mulder and Scully to come and figure you out.


Foursome fun. :D