Going places alone.

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I really only ever feel alone at weddings. Otherwise, I really like being alone. I think the weddings thing bothers me only because other people (couples) seem to be ... charitable toward me, like they feel bad for me. I know they mean well, I really do.

And because I usually get stuck at a table with all the other non-coupled, like a leftover thought.

I never go places alone but I live in a rural area & cant drive due to low vision so going places alone isn't really an option for me unless I get dropped off. I used to have bad anxiety being in places by myself but working in retail for 28 months(25 cleaning floors at WalMart & 3 as a custodian at a sporting goods store) helped me get over the anxiety some thou I still do have some anxiety but I can deal with it a lot better in those situations now. My girlfriend has bad anxiety issues going places by herself so it seems like we're a perfect match in that area. I usually don't feel anymore lonely by myself than I am with others thou

I tend to go a lot of places alone, out of necessity as much as anything else. I tend to get lectured about it from friends and family sometimes, though. I guess it's not always safe for single women to be out, say, hiking in the woods or at certain hours of the night, so I should probably be more careful.

I was just skimming posts, not paying close attention to what I was reading, and got excited because I thought you'd said Pennsylvania. lol. Wish we'd have a WP members' meet-up or something out here ... gets a little boring around these parts sometimes.

I'll be travelling alone today. Over 2 hours on public transit.

Go me!

Have you tried this? http://www.wrongplanet.net/posts41284-start690.html

I was able to arrange a meetup with someone from a member that barely posts thats over 1000km away so Im pretty sure that you could arrange something.

Totally! Just do it.

You never know - I'm actually courting a new client in Newtown right now, but they're playing "hard to get" - there's actually a lot of companies in my industry near Philadelphia so I go there once in a while. Maybe I'll force you to have dinner with me next time...then you can see just how bad an Aspie's table manners can actually be...

You know, there's a GRASP chapter that meets in suburban Philly, right near Newtown. If you're ever in the area, maybe we actually could organize a meet-up. I've had dinner with many an aspie and been to holiday parties where food was served ... can't imagine your table manners would phase anyone, lol.

Thanks for the suggestion, I should take a look at that.

Back to topic, I also want to arrange a WP members'meet-up in Beirut. Wow, it gonna be too crowded.

lol... You should be a comedian. You crack me up.

I know a bar called Beirut. is it there?



on topic - I love to dine alone. I generally hate talking during meals so I guess it would be weird to suddenly have company. on the other hand, when on my own I usually eat up and leave, while it might be nice to stay for a full 5-course meal and lots of wine + good conversation every now and then.

concerts, I usually go to on my own but meet the same group of people at the venue (3 of my acquaintances are avid concert photographers + their buddies). but we don't really talk, since we're all there for the music. so it's pretty much like going on my own, with a few handshakes here and there.

I hate going to the cinema alone for some reason. love to travel alone, much prefer that to being accompanied. I can't stand to go shopping with others.

company is overrated

Whenever I go out anywhere, 9 times out of 10-- maybe even more than that-- I go by myself.

In the fall of 2008, I went to two concerts-- Madonna and AC/DC. I took a friend to Madonna. The entire car ride to and from the arena was spent listening to her gripe about her mother and boyfriend, and she got angry when I wouldn't buy her a beer (I didn't want to miss the opening of the show). Then she begged $20 off of me for the ride home.

I went to AC/DC by myself. No complaining, no mooching, had a much better time.

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I'm glad you brought this up Grisha. A couple weeks ago I remember having a tangential discussion in a thread with a couple of members here about this very subject. I thought then it would be a good main topic.

I've been going to movies by myself forever. Mostly out of necessity as I see about two to three movies in the theater a week. I can't ask my limited pool of friends to keep that pace.

I've only just gotten comfortable eating at restaurants alone. This came about as I was up in Napa for about 2 1/2 months this year on a project. Napa Valley has a lot of great restaurants and I wanted to partake of them. Before my diagnosis, I might not have done this...but I've come to the same conclusion as you...I'm comfortable being that eccentric dude eating by himself because I want to enjoy the good things in life too when I can. That shouldn't be dependent on whether I'm coupled or not.

I think I'm regressing.

I'm in a fashionable Mexican restaurant in midtown (Manhattan) by myself right now and I totally feel like I don't belong here...

At least I can whine about it in real-time on WP though...