Boyfriend left me at the mall by myself

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I do this all the time. My husband told me when we first met, we walk into Borders and I just leave him there and do my own thing. I don't mean I literally left the store without him, I left him in the store and did my own thing in the store. My mother and I do this all the time when we go out. We leave each other.

That guy pretending to be your boyfriend sucks!

Aren't you kind of young to have a "boyfriend"? This is really not about the mall - it's about the fact that your so-called boyfriend isn't a gentleman at all. That was rude of him and also rude of his friend. Deep down inside you know this. Instead of getting mad at him. You blamed the mall. The mall is simply what it is - a busy, bustling place. Your boyfriend and his friend are very selfish - don't be surprised if he and his friend hooked up with two other girls after you left. Break it off! Learn to see people for what they really are and don't settle for the fantasy of what you think they are. I "STRONGLY" suggest that you let your Mom read this post and sit and talk with you about what happened to you...and what you were REALLY feeling. At your age, "boyfriends" are absolutely useless. If you continue to tolerate this kind of treatment from boys, the only thing you will learn is how to be a doormat. You need to cultivate good friendships with other good girls or just stay with good relatives that are your age. What about your plans for the future and your education. If your idiot boyfriends are part of your plans, YOU WILL MOST CERTAINLY FAIL. Boys are not a solution - they ARE A BIG PART of the problem and the future problems that you will have if you tolerate this sort of disrespect. Concentrate on yourself. Girls your age have this impression that boyfriends make you more interesting to others - BUT at what price?! If your family can afford counseling, NOW is the time to get it. You have the next decade to be the best that you can be by education and/or some sort of training to prepare you to be a self-supporting adult. You can and will eventually fall in love WHEN YOU ARE STABILIZED as an adult and on your own. When you break it off with that jerk, be polite but make sure you drive your point - don't even mention the mall - simply tell him that he just too "mediocre" for you. Assure him that he'll meet someone that's right for him but drive your point that he is clearly NOT for you. If he tries to twist it around and make you look like the bad guy or try to weaken your confidence, stand your ground and say "well, what you just said may be true but regardless - I still want to break up." The whole idea is to dump him. His opinions of you don't even matter. Nobody cares what the hell he has to say. Now, the HARDEST part: Have you had sex with him? If so, that's what he's using you for. Sorry. Aspies get used more often and for longer periods of time because it readily doesn't dawn on them. They don't have the social circle to go to for comfort or to go to for advice. I've heard of aspie girls getting treated like this even AFTER their boyfriends married other people. Are you understanding this? Once I saw a cartoon in a magazine of a couple leaving a church after being married and a lone woman approaching the groom to ask "I'd like to know where our relationship is going?" A lot of people expect you to figure it out but blatant disrespect is usually a hint. Learn now while you are still young because if you don't learn, later on, guys will start taking your hard-earned money along with using your body as well. Learn from this and NEVER forget.

Don't give that kid false hope, [personal insult removed by hyperlexian. and yes, number2 - LeagueGirl is very nice]

I am NT with an aspie boyf. He hates shopping centres/malls pretty much most of the the time. Its not uncommon for us, when out shopping, for him to take himself off to the toilet for about twenty minutes, where he will sit in the cubicle to have some quiet time alone. He then comes back to join me and continue shopping... he seems to need that 'time out' when in busy places. I have learnt to understand that and live with it, although sometimes it does annoy me. I am so sorry your boyf left you alone and you found it difficult. xx