Aspies and kissing

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He is squeamish even if I kiss him on the cheek....Either he has serious sensory issues, or I am a horrible kisser...

I don't think it's possible to be a horrible cheek kisser.
I know how you feel, in a way. My daughter will only let me kiss her on the top of her head (the hair makes a nice barrier for her). She doesn't hug and NEVER cuddles. I know this is a completely different relationship, but still, it's hurtful and leaves me longing for her affection. I know that she loves me, but still it feels like a rejection every time she ducks and swerves from a little peck.

Yeh...I am unfortunately kinda like that with my parents....and it is in general a sensory thing mostly...the lightness of the touch makes me squeamish.
I have not ruled out that it is a sensory thing with my boyfriend.....He (as reluctant as he is to admit it, is aspie).......but it is still painful....
OR was...till I got on Prozac, and mostly got over it....don't "feel" the rejection so harshly in the pit of my "being".....

He does like the back rubs...or SEEMS to...usually....He will often barricade himself if he feels the oncoming threat of other kinds of intimacy to which is not feeling obliged to reciprocate. I have (sigh)...gotten used to this to....

pre-menopause, i liked french kissing. it was great foreplay. now that my sex drive is gone, i prefer dry kisses. lucky for me, my husband is an agreeable sort and aims to please as i aim to please him by having sex purely out of love and fairness, not out of libido.

hello kissing's a weird one for me. I like it if it's leading straight to sex if I've been with the person a while, or for longer if it's early days, but only if the other person kisses like me, no tongues inside my mouth without pressing thier lips on mine at the same time and not too far into my mouth either - "the quid" someone called it ! I have tolerated a LOT of bad kissing I think. Saliva doesn't bother me or the thought of germs as long as the other person has good hygeine.

I really don't like kisses in any other context, wet kisses on the face are the worst, I always rub my face there as soon as I think they're not looking anymore and if they're looking for ages then I kind of feign an itch or something to rub my face there.

Precisely. It was like intense, but painless electric shocks in my hands. That and having to stand quite so close to them... it felt wrong on every level.

I like kissing a lot but with the right person, of course. It can be truly amazing.

Sorry, I didnt mean to miss understand you (I suffer from dyslexia too). I'll try that again....

I do not like the texture of another persons tongue in my mouth.. The feeling of their tongue and their saliver feels alien in my mouth and i want to get rid of it fast.

Kissing is different on an intimate level to a non intermate level, and I find the more intermate i am with someone the easier it is to kiss them and enjoy their kissing, even if their tongue is rammed half way down my throat ^^;;

I hopes i interpreted it a lill better this time =)

I like it.
I've been told I'm a great kisser, actually.

I have an aversion to light touch but really love more pressure, lip-brushing kisses feel awful but intense face-sucking makeout sessions are very very nice, which my girlfriend was very very pleased to discover

I love kissing...for me, it's like the "ultimate" thing. I'm not really interested in full-on sex and whatever, but kissing is amazing.

That said, I haven't actually kissed anyone since I was 17, so yeah...

I love kissing. It's so intimate. Apparently I'm good at it too so yaaay! ^.^