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10 Oct 2011, 1:14 am

The key to making female friends is to try and make their interests your interests even if you are not the slightest bit interested in the things they like its always the thought that counts :wink:



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10 Oct 2011, 2:08 am

magnetite wrote:
Recently I've been thinking about the whole dating thing. Not sure why. Anyways, I have never dated in my life and I somehow feel kind of left out. There are guys out there with girlfriends or wives my age and I'm not sure if it's just social fear, but I'm not sure if dating someone has to be all serious or whether you can just be friends with them?

A few family members of mine have advised me a few times that dating someone would be "complicated" for someone like me. If I have an interest in having a female as a friend, but not anything too serious (eg. marriage, or girlfriend), then what would be the best way to go about this?

Also wanted to add that when I was growing up, I really didn't have any friends, but this is probably typical of people with Aspergers. I sure hope I'm not doomed into being single or alone my whole life. :oops:


You might find mixed gender group activities to be a good start. You might meet someone to date that way. I found a promising web site that I just signed up on:

www.meetup.com

Many different interests, some of which are specific to singles. The signup was quick and not too problematic in terms of privacy issues.



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10 Oct 2011, 4:24 pm

hyperlexian wrote:
SadAspy wrote:
As for my pic, "fine" and "nice" are not exactly glowing compliments. Might as well just be ugly.

uhhh no... fine is a major compliment. it's all about the emphasis, which understandably you cannot hear on the internet.

frankly you look handsome in that picture but that is too much of a personal compliment to give to a n00b (as you were at the time).


I just have too many negative experiences to think that could be the case. I know you want to say my social skills are the problem and they may be to some extent, but I think if a woman were truly attracted to me, she would overlook something so nebulous. Despite all the negative things I've said about women here, I don't think they are irrational.