Staying single for.. EVER?

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Thanks Christopher I sometimes wonder if I'm so used to being on my own that I probably couldn't tolerate another person anyway... but I am hanging on in there

Same here, i like the idea of being in love and having the whole kids thing going on and coming home being loved, but i think i won't be able to cope with it i love being alone too much.
i do have a passion to take care of a kid but i can always become a godfather, in your case a godmother.

I am 31 and single and plan to stay that way. Each to their own I say and don't want to have children or get married and have had relationships and dated but am not interested in sex and the problems and dramas with relationships. Most men I meet I don't connect with anyway and if I never date or be in a relationship again it won't bother me. I would rather have friends over a relationship

Trusting people always destroys my (semblance of) mental health, so hell no. But I would suck at it and destroy the other person's mental health, as well, so there's another reason in the "no" column.

When I was younger I had a craving for (the idea of) it, but it was really mostly depression, and depending on someone else for not being suicidal sucks (and for the other person as well). But I don't need much to be... well, not happy, but not being depressed after 2/3 of lifetime that way makes the most ordinary days seem like a huge gift. And, that's good enough.

Just be aware that whilst at 18 you might have a lot of close friends, by the time you are 30 they will be married with their own busy lives that doesn't include you any longer, when you get even older and family die off, you will find yourself with just the living alone part.

Yes, it's AS related for sure.

We can have periods of a very high sex drive, and periods of zero interest in sex or relationships - and either could last for any amount of time, and may or may not change in the future. Of course those are the two extremes and most of us will have ups and downs somewhere closer to the middle.

I know I've had both ups and downs regarding sex drive, but as for relationships.. while I don't currently have one, and don't have any immediate plans for one, I doubt I'll stay single forever. Other priorities first, but once I have a few more ducks in a row (not all of them, but a few more, as no one ever has all of their ducks in a row - ever.) I'll entertain the idea of a relationship. That could be in several months or a few or more years, time will tell, but I'm not set on staying single forever. I do enjoy my solitude, and I am enjoying focusing on myself, but I think I'll end up in a (gay) relationship at some point.

The kids part has already been taken care of by friends and family - I have God children and a nephew etc.

As for sex being solely for reproduction.. lol, as an ever more comfortably out homo.. I can tell you with absolute certainty that sex can be had purely for pleasure, with less than zero to do with reproduction.

I've been single for as long as I can remember...
My parents were like "You'r still young someone will find you someday."
The same thing my church friends say too, but I'm sick and tired of being alone. I just want to avoid the same thing my Aunt had- never being able to have a family someday, because she devoted her life to teaching in a catholic school.
Being forever alone was one of the fears I had since I got in the US.

Noooo! I could never stay single. I'll go to Japan if I have to to marry a nice Christian gal! I could never imagine staying single!

In that case, I'll support you then. =)

Thank you! Onto finding mrs right, shazaam!! !

I know how you feel, the women that I find cool, and have similiar interest are always married. it sucks. but at the same time, I don't mind being single, it's cool too.

Hooray for being invisible to the opposite sex. I never have to worry about being hit on by anyone. Anyone want to trade?

I've generally come to accept that chances are that me finding someone I'm actually interested in (very very very rare) and of them also liking me of being so small that its not worth looking for.

I've tried relationships and it's just not me, it's not who I am. I might change later in life but I can't stand the idea of making any commitments like that anymore. I've always been ten times more committed to my friends than to girlfriends or boyfriends. It just doesn't make sense to me.

Take it from someone who lived in Japan for years - there aren't a lot of Christian girls there, they're a tiny religious minority. You'd have better luck on that front in South Korea, which has a much stronger Christian influence (never been able to figure out why, given how similar the cultures are in so many ways...).

ところで、「日本人彼女募集中」？ちょっとキモイよ... (>.<)

I wanted to say something to that effect, but I've never lived in Japan. Just, from everything I do know or have read etc. Christianity is far from popular in Japan.