Do you feel whole or need another to complete you?

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I'd love to find someone compatible, but I'd much rather be alone than be with someone and WISH I was alone.

My reality is very simple -- all the stuff I NEED to do -- breathe, eat, drink, sleep, read, write, etc. -- I can do perfectly fine all by myself. I don't NEED anybody for any of that. I haven't given up on the idea that maybe there's someone out there who won't try to "fix" me, but I honestly think I've got a better chance of finding a solid gold baleen whale wearing a red hat.

Now that is a big hat.

I like your new picture Shrox...

Well I feel fine being single... and i feel like i would probably be better off single anyway... just because of how i am... i get really irratable really easily without my space... and i like alot of space... But in saying that i feel like i might be missing out on something...
Like i tried a relationship not TO long ago... and it didnt make me feel any more complete then i was prior and now after... But i reckon that was under silly circumstances and the right person would make all the difference...

Let's see if i can put this into words....

The way that I feel now that my ex is my ex and I'm back to being technically single.....it's annerving. The feeling I get from all aspects of my life that has changed because of this is like nails on a chalkboard, if you get the comparison. Add to that the sudden feeling of emptiness. I still have the kids around, still have relationships with family, but there's this gaping hole. I go to work and come home and kinda exist till I go to sleep and go to work the next day. There's no meaning for me. Why am I even alive, except to help care for my kids? So in a sense, yeah, I am incomplete. I wouldn't go as far as use the halves to whole analogy, but for me, there's something about that other person....in all aspects, as a friend, as a partner, as a co-parent, and as a lover....that I need. It brings that meaning to all that I do in life. Maybe alot of you don't feel that way, and that's cool. But for me....I need that. And worse....now that it's gone, I am so socially inept that I have no clue how to get it back.

Although I managed to have two children (don't ask) I didn't find someone to have a normal, functional adult relationship with till I was 36.

When it's good, it's great - amazing!

But I find it hard living with someone, especially as I moved into his house, which made financial sense as he owned his house and I only rented mine. Living on your own is far far easier.

But we are married now and, for the most part, it is nicer than being alone, but it's also a lot more complicated than being alone.

I don't feel I needed a man to complete me, but I see it more as having a companion in life.

How do I even know if I am 'complete' or not?

I AM whole, i just need a girl who will give me a blowjob and a hug once a week.

i am who i am and other people are who they are.

i am wholly me, and i suppose they are wholly them.

but never the "twain" do meet.

i think as i do without any influence, and if someone else "foisted" themselves on me, i would be displaced and displeased severely.

i do not require some external code to complete my program of life.

i do like to share stuff sometimes, but i do not rely on anyone for my identity.

I don't need someone to complete me. It is nice to have someone to hold me, and do things with every once in a while though.

Nobody is truly "whole", because we can always add to our lives.

Relationships, wealth, and the like, are just add-ons.