Can we just get rid of this forum?

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Having Aspergers can definitely make relationships much harder.

Personally, I don't think I am built to be in a long term relationship but I'm not opposed to trying if the person is worth it.

Loner has a username that is kinda self fulfilling and wishes to project that on to other WP lonely harts.

His views have considerable intellectual merit, and are very controversy worthy, though many of us here want to live in hope of finding love.

While Loner may appear to revel in destroying hope, he may in fact be purely pragmatic, as his Scandinavian culture dictates. (you said dick)

I do remember a year a go, when Loner Mutant put forth this premise..... that nature has not equipped aspies to breed.....as nature does not want aspies to breed...... This may or may not be true.

However, it could IN FACT be that current world powers do not want aspies to breed, as the presiding evil warlords and demons on Earth would become weaker and finally wither under righteous aspie rule.

So, as a bully hurts you to prevent you from breeding with the females and tainting the herd, the UN would rather have you jerk off into a cup, than fill the world with honesty, free thought and aspie sensibilities


Roses are red
Violets are blue
Loners got a boner
But he's not aiming it at you


Your heart may be true
But degenerated aristocracy
Limits you

I might be inclined to agree with the "nature doesn't want aspies to breed" theory, personally, because I find the idea of reproduction repulsive for myself and not at all an inherent part of having a relationship. Nature definately does not want me to have children. It is a 100% unnatural concept to me and, frankly, gives me the willies.

But there are plenty of aspies who have reproduced sucessfully so the question whether that disproves the theory or these people do it in spite of nature remains unanswered.

Not sure about the genetic part, but part of who we are is genetics, biology and of course, environment, that said, I am inclined to think that dating and having a relationship is not for everyone, wether they want it or not, for whatever reason, so it seems true that related stuff is not for everybody, which is kinda of a relief, though, it would be worse to think you are the only one. And the ones who can't get anything, well, at least there are alternatives or substitutes, given that it isn't a life and death need, thankfully :p

About the L&D forum, well, in one way it can be looked as a joke, I mean, one thing, in general, aspie men and women *with issues* are discussing dating and related stuff, which can put off some users, on the other hand, maybe we need to explicitly describe the place to be about aspies and love and dating, rather than romance in general, which is how it's described: "Whether you're a smooth-talking Adonis or a lonely heart, this forum can be used for discussing relationships and romance.".

Wether is useful, I don't know. I know I can't get out anything for me other than perhaps some entertainment, and that's it, so I just don't have to care, curiously, adult oriented forums seem to be more useful to me for some reason.

Why is this forum still here?

The mods must not have seen the request. Damned bureaucracy!

I thought the key to finding true love was to stop looking for it? Or was it 'true love is selfless and non-posessive'? I always get those two mixed up.

Is this a joke that went over my head?

Look!! It's a bird..... it's a plane , No it's.....



















SUPER JOKE!! !

True love, if it does exist, it would be "selfless and non-possesive".

Rather than "getting rid of this forum", I think this is better:
http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt177710.html
http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt178466.html

What I mean is that, looking at the possitive aspects of being alone, and the encouragment of not persuing relationships, because it makes life easier, etc. seems a good thing to do, specially here, as the title from one of the threads suggests "A Different Perspective On The "Need" For Relation", seems to be a positive thing in one way.

there is room for both perspectives. i don't think people should be pushed one way or the other and should not be made to feel bad for their choices. i definitely don't want to discourage anyone who desires to make a go of it, nor would i want to pressure people who are not interested.

for people who don't want to have any Love or Dating in their lives... well, i'm not positive why they'd visit this part of the forum any more than a non-parent would visit the Parenting forum (or someone who doesn't care for politics visiting PPR), but of course they are welcome wherever.

lonermutant ftw! see i wasent making this up her really says this stuff!

I agree that this is largely true, however not entirely. It's true my acquisition of some basic social skills has not resulted more friendships nor has it significantly lessened my level of social isolation. And it's true I'm far more resilient to being alone than most NTs, and even need to be alone more than most. I would be a fairly ideal person to send to Mars provided I had something to occupy myself with on the way there.

However there are many individuals with AS, who, while they tolerate being alone, don't really want to be alone. They still have that genetic component that makes them want to be able to interact with other people, and want to have intimate relationships.



True, however I believe this forum serves to help them better understand what relationships entail and how to navigate them on occasions. I think some individuals do benefit from it.

Chronos, what is your purpose on this forum? I've read posts on this forum as a guest for a long time and it seems that every time some guy on here makes a thread criticizing women you lash out and start attacking them. Is it your life's mission to defend women against valid criticism? That's all I see you do on here. The more you do it the more I can tell you seem to be very egotistical and biased.

She isnt attacking anyone she is providing a counter-opinion if what she does is considered an attack there´d be no members left on PPR because thats all they do.

This criticism may be valid but one should be allowed to defend themselves from those attacks.

If you have an issue with that I suggest you try to find a forum thats more suitable for your needs because her income at this board is much apprecitated by most members.