For the guys, what catches your interest?

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Q: What catches my interest?
A: A cute face, big tits, nice legs and a round butt.

(Note: the question was not "What are you looking for in a potential girlfriend")

A girl who can cook. Really. It shows they're self motivated and won't need me to baby them through every little thing ever. Discounting cooking, skillfulness in...stuff. Shows dedication, drive, willingness to think. Willingness to think, and not just react like a human robot based only on your feelings, or what's been programmed into you.

I tend to either go for girls who seem to be like, identical to me, or girls who are entirely the opposite of me. Basically, someone super empathetic, loving, all those fun things, as I see myself as very cold and distant and all that stuff. So if a girl is warm and loving, and likes me and appreciates me, then to me I'm like defenseless.

Oh, specifically Polish/Eastern European girls are the hottest. Then Asian chicks. Or maybe Asian chicks are the hottest, then Eastern European girls? Depends on the day. Basically I love foreign girls, and they seem to like or be more accepting of me, too.

My point still stands, if you can cook, and look reasonably attractive (ie aren't 300 pounds) you'll probably get any guy in the entire universe.

I've found foreign women to be more thoughtful and value intellectual conversation rather than sarcasm. They tend to be more literal, direct and definitely seem to be more suited to men that have AS. They are also raised very traditional in the sense that they can cook and also tend to be very family orientated.

everyone has different tastes as far as what they are looking for in a potential mate.

personally, i like it when a girl is not complacent all the time. i like it when she says 'this is what i want', or other things of that nature. oh, and i absolutely hate it when girls tell me the latest gossip. i tune out when that happens lol. i'd rather hear IDEAS and THEORIES and random stuff like that over 'then sally said this and we were like "who do you think you are!?"'.

i think most people would prefer a girl that was healthy, about as smart as them (or at least wouldnt gloat about being smarter), had a sense of humor, wasnt 'mean-spirited' in all definitions of the word, and someone who doesnt lie to them or lead them on.

oh, and if you just try to make them smile a lot, and smile when they do, that goes a long ways. oh, and try to touch him (however way you can, but dont be super awkward lol possibly google ideas on how to do this). touching it something that i think naturally escalates relationships well. pretty sure its scientifically proven, too

You could try the extreme physical fitness approach. This will draw in just about all types of guys tough.

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For me to desire them as a person, not just sex:

- Honesty!! I don't like having to guess whether people are serious or not all the time, or whether they're lying in an attempt to spare my feelings. 99% of the time, if you say something I don't want to hear, you gain more in honesty than you lose in whatever it is I didn't want to hear.
- Has some knowledge of autism spectrum disorders, or sympathy for AS behavior whether they realize it's called that or not. Alternately, has Asperger's or is autistic herself.
- Plays video games, even if none of the games I play. I can always learn your games.
- Appreciates math and logic. You don't have to be good at it yourself; just don't be writing it off as "stupid."
- Able to handle direct questions about feelings. I can't always pick up on your little signs... also, even NT's don't get those perfect every time.

Proper boundaries. Acceptance.

To allow someone to be the way they are is a tremendous gift.

in order of attraction to my brain-

*geekiness
*kindness
*thighs/hips/booty
*slenderness

in order of attraction to my body-

*slenderness
*thighs/hips/booty
*kindness
*geekiness

my body would feel most excited around a kind geek who was also bootylicious, and my brain would feel most comfortable around a bootylicious babe who was also a kind geek.

I'm attracted by special women. I don't know why but regular women are totally uninteresting to me.
It's funny, I also prefer special looking women to the ones who are beautiful by the stereotype of what's beautiful.
Women who are interested in arts, music etc. also attract me very much.
I couldn't really get happy with a woman who is rather unintelligent but I would rather fall in love with an unintelligent woman than with a woman who is a slave of authority and blindly obeys to what persons of authority say. Independent women who think for themselves attract me the most.

I don't care about superficial things but I would hardly ever be satisfied with the rest.

I like a woman who loves to eat a lot.

I agree.

College chicks, especially the ones living with their parents, are usually still hypnotized.



Me too. They have fewer suitors and therefore are more likely to like me.

*shifty gaze*

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*exists dark alley*

The topic-title specifically says "What catches your interest?", whilst in your post you mention what we "try to find in a woman".
For me, these are two different things. Kinda.
I'm obviously looking for a woman with an interesting personality, but what catches my interest is almost always exclusively looks.
Specifically an attractive face. I can ignore the body (at least to a degree) if I find a woman has an attractive face. But I prefer slimmer women before portlier ones.
This may sound very shallow, but if I didn't write this, I'd be lying.

I've done this before, but a good example of a woman that catches my interest and also fulfills my needs as far as an interesting personality goes (based on what I know of her);



Melody Gardot - jazz/blues/pop singer and musician.

Edit: As for what kind of personality I'm looking for, specifically, I'm not really sure. I haven't done enough soul searching to answer that completely. But I know that I tend to be attracted to hipster-types, as I am a bit of a hipster myself. And obviously I prefer somewhat introvert people as opposed to outrovert ones (being that I'm an aspie), but I still think I prefer people who are slightly more outrovert than me.

What I personally look for is probably clouded by numerous bad experiences and layer after layer of insecurity, so bear with me on this one. ^_^' Oh yeah, my taste in women is a bit strange anyway, so I'm not sure how much help I can be...hope it helps, anyhow.

Since I'm painfully insecure about social interaction, if I feel comfortable and 'at ease' with her that's usually the main problem solved. The female friends I currently have are my friends because I'm able to talk openly and honestly with them, and there's a mutual understanding that neither of us will poke fun out of the other. Sure, physical appearance IS a factor in this, but I've long since learned that reality is a mixture of both if you want any sort of long term relationship (platonic or otherwise). It's a difficult concept to put into words - basically, I recognise this sort of person when I see her - but a sense of open honesty and warmth is what draws me to someone.

I'm also a strong believer in people who have similar interests and outlooks get on well together - opposites don't necessarily attract in other words. Using my own preferences as an example, I find extroverts hard to get along with and actually intimidating in everyday situations...so I guess that means I go for the quiet, geeky girls.

Here's the amusing irony: the less attention she draws to herself, the more likely I am to notice her!

Speaking as a formerly-single guy: beauty always caught my interest, but brains is what kept that interest and allowed us to forge deep bonds. So, knowledge and wisdom is what really sold me on the girls I was interested in.