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no..... a relationship involves two people. some women actually do the pursuing in some or all cases, and in the situations where the man is doing the overt pursuit the women are still involved in establishing the relationship. for the second type of situation, the phrase "i chased him until he caught me" is applicable.

that is not a nice feeling, i have to say. my first instinct was ro suggest that you could cultivate friendships with other single people, but it's not like people walk around with signs around their necks.

i have that feeling in terms of employment. i am underemployed but if i had been able to continue to work in my field (i burnt out due to anxiety and AS issues) i would be earning about 60 to 100% more right now. i hope to return to the field but it is a slow uphill battle to get back to where i was before (it will take many years). right now, i am doing a job that does not require any post-secondary, so some of my coworkers are 18 or 19 years old.

i feel like all of my old friends are success stories and i am the semi-failure. so i understand partly what you mean, Boo, though it is a different area.

hyperlexian - You are not a failure of any sort. All you are proving is that you can work just as hard or better than those young adult colleagues and you can work at your own pace. Not only that but you have the wisdom and experience of life unlike them.

There's this lesbian woman I know... That was an interesting conversation.



Amazingly adept.

i think you might be basing your conclusions on personal experiences. so am i.

i have pursued many of the men (not women) that i have dated. perhaps you have not had the experience of being pursued by a woman, but that doesn't mean that women never do so.


yes, apparently it works quite well.


thank you, that is a very good point.