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Would you rather live alone or with someone else?
Alone 55%  55%  [ 26 ]
I would rather live with someone. 28%  28%  [ 13 ]
Just let me see the results. 17%  17%  [ 8 ]
Total votes : 47

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11 Nov 2011, 4:19 am

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Congratulations on figuring out a solution to that invasion. Have you thought about getting watchdogs?

thanks. we did a radio interview and were in a tiny local paper. watchdogs are a good idea, but i couldn't stand to have someone get hurt. watchdogs would attack wouldn't they?


I think of them as a deterrent. I don't have them, but someone in my family does. They should be kept in a fenced in yard that is escape proof. Most who would otherwise invade your house would be deterred rather than risk getting bitten. I wouldn't want them, but if they would help you feel safe, they might be worth it. I suppose the only scenario I could see of an invader being attacked, would be if he were psychotic enough to invade your home despite hearing the dogs barking.

you are probably right. i had a big GSD/husky cross and a smaller dog at the time, but they were not trained to care about intruders so they cowered and shook.

i don't think i'll make the leap to living alone - at least, i think i will always have roommates. i didn't like sleeping alone in a house even before it happened. when i had roomies as a young adult, if they were out late i could not sleep.


Maybe a better idea than dogs (or in addition) would be the metal barriers for your windows that roll up and down like a curtain. You might get a reduction on your home owner's insurance.

I wish I could think of something to help. That must be an awful feeling.



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11 Nov 2011, 4:57 am

Pros:

No one to leave crumbs on the counter
No one to leave their clothes in the bathroom
No one to have their coat hanging on the chair
No baby crying or waking you up or taking your time for you to feed him or giving him a bath and chasing him when he gets into things he isn't supposed to
Going naked
Not having to hide your embarrassing behavior


Cons:

No one to cook you food when you are too lazy to get up to eat something or decide on what to eat and because you eat the same foods all the time or hardly eat any because you are too lazy to make yourself something

No on to pay the bills for you

No one to share your fetish with and role play with

No one to give you an extra income

No one to take care of you



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11 Nov 2011, 10:42 am

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Maybe a better idea than dogs (or in addition) would be the metal barriers for your windows that roll up and down like a curtain. You might get a reduction on your home owner's insurance.

I wish I could think of something to help. That must be an awful feeling.

you are kind to think of ideas in the first place! didn't mean to turn the thread into a giant downer :oops:. it's just this subject is something that hits me on a certain level. don't worry about me. maybe my therapy will help me become less scared.



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11 Nov 2011, 12:43 pm

being that everybody else and his brother said everything i woulda said, the only thing i can add, is that it is far better to be alone in the wilderness, than to be amongst civilization but be unwanted by people therein. :hmph:



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11 Nov 2011, 7:44 pm

I would love to live by myself, but being a college student in a terrible economy prevents that from happening so I can't live on my own. So really, the pros would obviously be the independence and privacy and the cons would be the financial burden.


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12 Nov 2011, 1:24 am

League_Girl wrote:
Pros:

No one to leave crumbs on the counter
No one to leave their clothes in the bathroom
No one to have their coat hanging on the chair
No baby crying or waking you up or taking your time for you to feed him or giving him a bath and chasing him when he gets into things he isn't supposed to
Going naked
Not having to hide your embarrassing behavior


Cons:

No one to cook you food when you are too lazy to get up to eat something or decide on what to eat and because you eat the same foods all the time or hardly eat any because you are too lazy to make yourself something

No on to pay the bills for you

No one to share your fetish with and role play with

No one to give you an extra income

No one to take care of you


Your pro's and con's were pretty even. Do you mind if I ask which way you voted?



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12 Nov 2011, 1:28 am

hyperlexian wrote:
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Maybe a better idea than dogs (or in addition) would be the metal barriers for your windows that roll up and down like a curtain. You might get a reduction on your home owner's insurance.

I wish I could think of something to help. That must be an awful feeling.

you are kind to think of ideas in the first place! didn't mean to turn the thread into a giant downer :oops:. it's just this subject is something that hits me on a certain level. don't worry about me. maybe my therapy will help me become less scared.


Isn't it great how people responded to your call for help on the web?



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12 Nov 2011, 1:32 am

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being that everybody else and his brother said everything i woulda said, the only thing i can add, is that it is far better to be alone in the wilderness, than to be amongst civilization but be unwanted by people therein. :hmph:


I have been on extended visits to the wilderness, hiking and camping that eventually made me crave some human interaction. I like my current lifestyle in which I interact during the day and decompress at night alone in my "man cave."



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12 Nov 2011, 1:32 am

Rocky wrote:
hyperlexian wrote:
Rocky wrote:
Maybe a better idea than dogs (or in addition) would be the metal barriers for your windows that roll up and down like a curtain. You might get a reduction on your home owner's insurance.

I wish I could think of something to help. That must be an awful feeling.

you are kind to think of ideas in the first place! didn't mean to turn the thread into a giant downer :oops:. it's just this subject is something that hits me on a certain level. don't worry about me. maybe my therapy will help me become less scared.


Isn't it great how people responded to your call for help on the web?

yeah it gave me a very warm feeling, like people really cared. i feel like that on WP quite a bit too, though other people have mixed feelings from what i've seen.



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19 Nov 2011, 11:33 am

I'll always prefer to live with a partner, but unfortunately that's where the problem always starts. I've never ever had a girlfriend that was happy to leave me for a few hours just to pursue my own interests. I think you should always be able to co-exist for a while and then meet up later to do whatever. I even got grief once for slipping headphones on for half an hour when nothing else was going on.

Now I know why I get stressed when I can't do my own stuff and that a lot of it was obviously down to the way I am. Maybe a fellow aspie is the way ahead!



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19 Nov 2011, 11:36 am

I'm quite liking living alone so far. If I get lonely, I've got family I can go bother.


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19 Nov 2011, 11:15 pm

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20 Nov 2011, 4:30 am

Pros:
- Not having to worry about roommates unexpected guests.
- No more pretend....if i walked in before without saying hi...some people would take it as unfriendly, weird, or me being mean
- Don't have to deal with issues like who left a dish in the sink and confronting roommates about unpaid electricity bills
- I can work and do whatever I want with no disruptions

Cons:
- Sometimes it gets lonely
- Nobody to listen to my problems or sometimes make me laugh
- Less of a social life than before