AS girls (good looking to decent looking) automatically get

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Didn't happen for me man

fact is, we don't actually know if a higher percentage of AS women compared to AS men stay single - there aren't any stats.

and... as i often remind people.... an equal number of men and women will remain single (give or take a few - due to women outliving men, homosexuality, etc.). so if we decide for the sake of argument that AS men make up a number of those singles, then who are the single women to match?

Wow, guess what, AS guys who are good looking end up getting with NT girls. Who'd have thought? Doesn't generally work out long term, but it happens. Some guys with AS are stupid attractive and manly and all that cool stuff, so their prospective partners like them for that reason like them. However then the lack of emotional reciprocity destroys the relationship and they get divorced. There's just this stupid tendency on this board to equate AS with being a nerd or loser, and it's simply not so.

AS girls who are good looking, I've met a girl possibly like this (as I'm not a psychologist and my psychoanalysis of people is ameuter) they tend to be just, aloof. Like, some of them are the kind of girls you might consider stuck up. They're not. They either have emotional issues the exact same as the guys here, with the opposite sex, or, possibly more likely they've, because they're girls and are hot, have been burned in the past with relationships. So because they've been burned in the past in relationships, they simply avoid them.

I'm no feminist, but girls have to put a lot on the line in a relationship. Eventually, with sexual relations, they will have children, like they'll bear them. Yes, guys should passively be involved in this decision, but they're not forced into it by having a baby in their stomach for 9 months. They have to consider not just the fact that they're lonely, but their future. Most girls with AS probably aren't impulsive idiots, so they probably think very rationally about that fact.

I mean I'm no feminist, not by a longshot, but you gotta be realistic here.

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Note part of this comes from knowing a girl a little bit who likely has NVLD/AS/ADHD, she has too many mannerisms similar to mine to be a coincidence, and she's also been prescribed Adderall before. One possible statistic, too, like something like 70% more guys are diagnosed with AS than girls. HOWEVER, it's an almost 1:1 ratio of males to females diagnosed with nonverbal learning disorder, NVLD, like I have. Nonverbal learning disorder and AS are odd, in that they're very similar to eachother, but while AS is psychological in it's diagnosis, NVLD is neurological. There's no "guessing" whether you got it or not, IQ tests say you got it, you got it. So, lots of guys with NVLD get either diagnosed ADHD, or diagnosed AS. But yeah, to put it shortly, there's diagnostic overlap in that regard. And also, this board can be ridiculous sometimes. I've not met many people with Aspergers in my life at all. I've met 2 people I knew were diagnosed Aspergers, 2 DXed NVLD like myself. Just someone being shy or nerdy doesn't make them have Aspergers, it's much more complicated than that. Funny thing about all these people? All of the people I knew with diagnosis were actually not bad looking. So there.

Last edited by 1000Knives on 12 Nov 2011, 12:49 am, edited 1 time in total.

The math works.

I've been used and abused. I'd much rather be alone.

What age bracket are you talking about? In my age group there's 5.4% more men than women. That's not a lot, but it does put men at a disadvantage. The numbers become more or less equal only at around 35. I don't think I will have the patience to wait 14 years to have an equal chance. Luckily in 64 years I will have a choice of 3 women!

Well, this didn't alleviate my insomnia....

if you make it there

I think I'm attractive because usually men are telling me how beautiful I look.

But I also give men ''the eye'', especially if I fancy them. I like them to know that I exist, but I've learnt not to make a fool of myself. That's one social skill I have learnt.

it seems that more men are homosexual than women though... so that takes at least some of the extra men out of the pool.

also, men who date older women as opposed to the highly sought-after younger women will have more success. single women aged 30 and over are often overlooked compared to the under-30 age bracket. even dating slightly older women will increase a man's dating pool by several percentage points.

Last edited by hyperlexian on 12 Nov 2011, 12:37 pm, edited 1 time in total.

Well how does one define what good looking to decent looking means? There are quite a few people who think I am decent looking.......but I doubt I could or would want to get into a relationship with some NT guy who has money.....and usually I find the more unusual people have more intresting personalities than typical NTs.

I guess I don't see why people assume if you're female you automatically get all these benifits or whatever, I have never experianced that.

You can if you want.

As for me, I'm locking this thread, as it serves no purpose other than to be inflammatory.