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02 Dec 2011, 12:12 pm

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Grisha, are you a dendrology geek? The only reason I know the term is my younger brother was once the US dendrology champion. I think he missed 1/2 a point for a misspelling but otherwise 100% correct. When we'd walk through the woods he would point and label. I would smile and nod. :P


Sadly, no - FoS was kidding...



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02 Dec 2011, 3:10 pm

I think that if a conversation by phone reaches the stage where neither of you have anything left to say, it might be better to just say thanks and end the conversation, especially if she's the one calling and it's costing her. With face to face conversations, there's no need for this. It's not costing her anything to leave a silence hanging, and if you two are really close it shouldn't matter if you don't always feel like talking.

I wouldn't describe you as boring. Cautious, perhaps, and tend to be conservative in how you express yourself. I wonder whether you hold back what you're really thinking sometimes. Whether someone is "boring" is highly subjective. If she didn't find you boring to begin with, it's unlikely that will change unless you put no effort into the relationship at all. Not being extroverted and gregarious is not the same thing as being dull.

Just my two cents. Honestly, it's not something you need to worry about.


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03 Dec 2011, 4:24 am

i get that way too when im on the phone...with well anyone!!

i like the way u put it, "I feel like I need to be at least mildly entertaining 100% of the time"

the funny thing is and i can only say this for one of my friends

is she says she feels the exact same way on the phone too

so in a weird way im happy that at least when her and i are talking on the phone were both panicing about what to say to the other to keep the conversation going and keep it interesting


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03 Dec 2011, 5:05 am

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I talk to my GF on the phone a lot, but sometimes I run out of things to say and I sort of panic - I feel like I need to be at least mildly entertaining 100% of the time, but some times I just can't manage it and it makes me feel like a failure - it even scares me a little bit.

What do you say when you don't have anything interesting/stupid/clever/boring to say?

Or is is OK to say nothing?


You should not always do all of the talking. In my opinion, people who are secure with each other in their relationship can not share moments of quite together sometimes and be fine with it.



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03 Dec 2011, 5:09 am

f**ck phones



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03 Dec 2011, 5:51 am

I think boring is how everybody both on here and IRL see me.



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03 Dec 2011, 6:54 am

ManicMinx wrote:
f**ck phones


That's my normal sentiment exactly, but in the present case I seem to have made a dramatic exception...



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03 Dec 2011, 8:20 am

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^^ 100K a year, smudge, 100K!!


What's that in? Pounds, dollars, yo-yos... Lebanese pounds?


$ of course.



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03 Dec 2011, 8:22 am

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.. but then I just imagine rolling around naked in his piles of cash, and I remember why I like him. :roll:


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03 Dec 2011, 9:06 am

Grisha wrote:
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Grisha, are you a dendrology geek? The only reason I know the term is my younger brother was once the US dendrology champion. I think he missed 1/2 a point for a misspelling but otherwise 100% correct. When we'd walk through the woods he would point and label. I would smile and nod. :P


Sadly, no - FoS was kidding...

You mean *gasp* she was being FoS?
Just kidding. :)


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03 Dec 2011, 9:54 am

Sorry to say this Grisha...but posting all these threads wanting reassurance...do you really want to appear that way to someone you want to impress?



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03 Dec 2011, 10:01 am

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Sorry to say this Grisha...but posting all these threads wanting reassurance...do you really want to appear that way to someone you want to impress?


...and he has IP licenses - cash machine.



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03 Dec 2011, 11:06 am

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Sorry to say this Grisha...but posting all these threads wanting reassurance...do you really want to appear that way to someone you want to impress?


I certainly understand what you're saying, but I am who I am - if I need to conceal my thoughts/feelings in order to impress someone, then they simply aren't who I'm looking for...



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03 Dec 2011, 11:28 am

Grisha wrote:
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Sorry to say this Grisha...but posting all these threads wanting reassurance...do you really want to appear that way to someone you want to impress?


I certainly understand what you're saying, but I am who I am - if I need to conceal my thoughts/feelings in order to impress someone, then they simply aren't who I'm looking for...


I'll bet if she started posting threads like this - you'd run.



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03 Dec 2011, 11:52 am

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Sorry to say this Grisha...but posting all these threads wanting reassurance...do you really want to appear that way to someone you want to impress?


I certainly understand what you're saying, but I am who I am - if I need to conceal my thoughts/feelings in order to impress someone, then they simply aren't who I'm looking for...


I'll bet if she started posting threads like this - you'd run.


Really? I tell my boyfriend all my crazy (not saying you're crazy, Grisha :lol:) and he hasn't run yet. He just accepts it's part of who I am.



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03 Dec 2011, 11:57 am

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Sorry to say this Grisha...but posting all these threads wanting reassurance...do you really want to appear that way to someone you want to impress?


I certainly understand what you're saying, but I am who I am - if I need to conceal my thoughts/feelings in order to impress someone, then they simply aren't who I'm looking for...


I'll bet if she started posting threads like this - you'd run.


You'd definitely lose that bet: I'd read, not run...