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14 Dec 2011, 8:25 pm

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. . . that's what i like about being her closest male friend is that im her only male friend she treats that way because im different and she likes that . . .

Seems almost like a wondrous middle ages type of love relationship. Of course, in the years to come both of you will grow in unpredictable ways and that's a good thing for adds texture and color to life.

Please do know the laws for your state.



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14 Dec 2011, 8:33 pm

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. . . learned about NTs, by watching my friends relationships is that NTs love drama in their love lives . . .

I have observed this, too!



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14 Dec 2011, 11:47 pm

AardvarkGoodSwimmer wrote:
TheKing wrote:
. . . that's what i like about being her closest male friend is that im her only male friend she treats that way because im different and she likes that . . .

Seems almost like a wondrous middle ages type of love relationship. Of course, in the years to come both of you will grow in unpredictable ways and that's a good thing for adds texture and color to life.

Please do know the laws for your state.


me and Lexi have never cared about laws her family absolutely adores me and we are just friends besides i met Lexi through smoking weed so there lots of not to particularly legal things we do


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14 Dec 2011, 11:52 pm

AardvarkGoodSwimmer wrote:
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. . . learned about NTs, by watching my friends relationships is that NTs love drama in their love lives . . .

I have observed this, too!


that's a big reason i don't even care about dating is because i don't want drama in my life but most girls do


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15 Dec 2011, 5:32 pm

TheKing wrote:
AardvarkGoodSwimmer wrote:
TheKing wrote:
. . . learned about NTs, by watching my friends relationships is that NTs love drama in their love lives . . .

I have observed this, too!


that's a big reason i don't even care about dating is because i don't want drama in my life but most girls do

I think many young people end up trying to clumsily duplicate what they think an "adult" relationship is or what they've seen in movies or what they've seen in their families, instead of pursuing what authentically means something to them, and with that ping-pong back and forth of communication (and this second part has been very helpful to me).

Some, but not all. There are less conformist young people.

You know, in thinking about it, you might be in a pretty good place. A friendship, but still an open field where you can meet other people. How about something like community theater or paramedics class at a local community colllege? One, so that your high school is not your one and only social venue. And then, either more artistically minded people, or seriously-minded young people who are sometimes surprisingly less conformist than the 'popularity'-minded students. Still, the luck of the draw aspect.



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15 Dec 2011, 5:49 pm

AardvarkGoodSwimmer wrote:
TheKing wrote:
AardvarkGoodSwimmer wrote:
TheKing wrote:
. . . learned about NTs, by watching my friends relationships is that NTs love drama in their love lives . . .

I have observed this, too!


that's a big reason i don't even care about dating is because i don't want drama in my life but most girls do

I think many young people end up trying to clumsily duplicate what they think an "adult" relationship is or what they've seen in movies or what they've seen in their families, instead of pursuing what authentically means something to them, and with that ping-pong back and forth of communication (and this second part has been very helpful to me).

Some, but not all. There are less conformist young people.

You know, in thinking about it, you might be in a pretty good place. A friendship, but still an open field where you can meet other people. How about something like community theater or paramedics class at a local community colllege? One, so that your high school is not your one and only social venue. And then, either more artistically minded people, or seriously-minded young people who are sometimes surprisingly less conformist than the 'popularity'-minded students. Still, the luck of the draw aspect.


i am artistically challenged and i hate meeting new people


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16 Dec 2011, 3:52 pm

What if it's a group or organization that could actually use and welcome the help? (and realistically, maybe only one out of eight groups work this well)



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16 Dec 2011, 4:00 pm

Yes, perhaps impossible.



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17 Dec 2011, 1:01 pm

And then it happens at unexpected times, like a butterfly coming to rest on a person's hand.



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17 Dec 2011, 1:13 pm

AardvarkGoodSwimmer wrote:
And then it happens at unexpected times, like a butterfly coming to rest on a person's hand.
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