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The_Face_of_Boo
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05 Jan 2012, 3:23 am

Well not much related to the topic.

But I've came across a lot of girls irl and online claiming they don't like muscular guys yet you can see them drooling over a hunky later on; the same girls.

Of course, most guys do the same when it comes to curvy girls.

Just saying.



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05 Jan 2012, 6:39 am

Wolfheart wrote:
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Though personally what makes me feel bad is not when ones above me get people, as that is expected, but when ones really far down low from myself get plenty of women. That one completely destroys me on what do they have that i dont and whatnot.


What makes you feel that they are low down? What defines them that makes them worse? Looks and money certainly aren't an indicator of character and don't necessarily define as a person, having better features or a better body doesn't make anyone a better or worse person. Perhaps they are better in terms of being able to reciprocate to women or create an emotional response? Perhaps they are better at selling themselves or have more appealing characteristics? Maybe they are just fun guys that make girls laugh or feel a sense of security, maybe they don't act as if their looks give them a sense of entitlement. There are many determining factors in what makes someone appear attractive to another person and to rely on looks alone won't get you very far, if anywhere at all.


Because they are people who i know are the exact same ones who are going to fill up lists of why men are pigs. You know, the type that is texting another girl while hugging his girlfriend, the type that in all honesty is probably why so many of us have issues with women. Thats what makes them lower than me. So before you jump to conclusions you may want to chill the f**k down



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05 Jan 2012, 8:27 am

I don't approach men, I normally expect them to approach me, a lot of the time It freaks guys out if a strong independent woman comes up to them and says hey sexy wanna go on a date :P so they tend not to do it, and also a lot of the time they don't really need to because guys are coming up to them first.



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05 Jan 2012, 10:14 am

MXH wrote:
Because they are people who i know are the exact same ones who are going to fill up lists of why men are pigs. You know, the type that is texting another girl while hugging his girlfriend, the type that in all honesty is probably why so many of us have issues with women. Thats what makes them lower than me. So before you jump to conclusions you may want to chill the f**k down


Fair enough, I thought you were putting the emphasis on looks, not character and dishonesty. I think there are many factors when it comes to attracting a partner or a relationship, I believe that people on the spectrum have more trouble in the initial stages of a relationship but in the long run, I think many people on the spectrum can be very good and loyal partners in relationship.

I agree however, trust and honesty are very important in a relationship, however I think that in modern society, values, responsibility, trust, character and principles aren't as important as other factors such as status, appeal, attention or money and I think that could be a reason why more relationships fail and broken homes exist, people don't take into consideration every factor and aspect.