So my mom asked me when am I going to get a girlfriend...

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One must separate liking/disliking the person from liking/disliking the circumstance, while also being proactive about controlling one's own circumstance. Then again, choosing whom you're with is part of your circumstance, so maybe these can't be fully decoupled.

I don't think I'm "paying interest on trouble before its due" on things that I already know I don't like. You're not being defensive about being told that dog poop is gross just because you have a dog, are you?

I don't know and I'm not interested in finding out. I'm especially not interested in finding out the hard way.

My family don't give a crap whether I have a BF. Why does it matter? It shouldn't. In fact it's the opposite. My mother says "Be picky. It's better to be single forever than date people willy nilly".

Whether my sister and her boyfriend ever thought I was gay I do not know, but they always talk about me to each other, but they've never said anything. They should know I'm not by now.

My mother certainly knows I'm not gay, as I always go on about boys I liked to her.

My family has known it all along and accepted it.

People used to joke around like that with me. Sometimes it wasnt as much of a joke. At some point they stopped asking because it probably seemed too pointed to them.

I sorted it out in my 20s and I now have more experience than several of the people who kidded me back then. Where you are at 19 is not the final product.

Father does the same sometimes. just replace the word girlfriend with 'wife'.

Been a member of this club, before.
Basically "You're so weak you cannot get a job. Or a girlfriend.."
When I (finally) did get a girlfriend, my mother was terrified of her. And my step-father tried to break us up.

Sincerely,
Matt

My grandmother used to pry me about this stuff all the time when I was a bit younger. She'd say "you're not ugly" and "any girl would be happy to have someone like you, just go out and talk to one", or similar things.

Obvious lies.

After I got a bit older, she'd probably figured out that there was no hope in trying to convince me, so she stopped talking to me about things like that.

I think parents usually ask that question to find out if their kid is gay or a shoe fetishist or anything else that would cause them to never have grandchildren. Just tell them what they want to hear. "I'm heterosexual mom, just so you know, there is nothing wrong with me in that regard, I just haven't found the right girl yet, now can we please change the subject".

I think it's funny how many fathers AND mothers want and expect their sons to become Don Juans once they're teenagers yet they often don't teach them the required skills to be any close of that, they just say stupid things like "women will surely throw themselves at him".

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I get asked sometimes but they know the answer to it and I am trying to get myself out there.

It sucks that the places I go either have old people/young people or same sex get togethers....

I also find it funny that parents are desperately trying to protect their daughters form hormone-driven boys who only want one thing, while the same parents are bursting with pride when their equally hormone-driven son brings a girlfriend home and tells them he's going to "study" with her in his room

That's my parents.

If I so much as MENTION a girls name (I have a few female friends) it's instantly "So when is she going to come over for dinner? Can we meet her? What's she like?" ad infinitum.

that's always my problem.. people seem to think because I take care of myself that I have no trouble getting dates.. In fact the opposite is true.. people who look way worse than I do have no problem getting dates and I can't even get one. Granted my standards are a bit high.. but I'm not that picky.. I don't think it's to much to ask to be able to have intelligent conversation with her, and also be able to stand the sight of her..

and yeah yeah, I can hear it all now, big girls need love to and all that.. that's fine.. if that turns you on.. or doesn't turn you off.. more power to you.. but to me.. any one who outweighs me by more than 40lbs is out of the question.

My parents always ask me when I will get a boyfriend or if I will get married. Same with friends. I also get the "there is someone out there for you" crap all the time. I've learned to just laugh it off. Even my 9 year old sister called me loser when I said that I most likely wouldn't get married. What has become of this world? I'm a failure to a little kid just because I'm not getting married? I think not.

I've never been asked when I'm going to "get" a boyfriend. My folks are old-fashioned enough that they don't expect me to go out and look, so the question on its face is ridiculous and they both know it.