Do you prefer NT partner

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Yep. Although I suspect that I probably have a few undiagnosed friends...

Bison

Same here, one of my best friend's g/f really seems like an aspie to me. She's super antisocial and moody at times, just like most of us can be. Even he thinks she is. I know he has mentioned to her how much we have in common when it comes to stuff like that. I don't know if he has ever formally mentioned Asperger's Syndrome to her or not though. Plus she has Lupus so I dare not worry her with another "imperfection".

Indeed.

For me, I don't really think I'd prefer an "NT" partner, but I'd prefer a girl without excessive self esteem issues and social anxiety. I have enough problems with that sorta stuff with myself, and as a guy, I'd have to take my partner's problems upon me, not just emotionally, but tangibly as well. So, as far as a girl being NT or AS, I wouldn't care, if she was, say, obsessed with trains, but I would want her to be able to keep herself as composed as I am in public. Basically, I don't think it fair to expect MORE from a girl than I am, but at the same time, I don't want less, either.

But yeah, I don't want a girl with significant anxiety and other self esteem issues that I'd have to bare the burden for, that's basically my thing. AS or NT isn't really part of the equation, but that is.

Who gives a sh**? I've known NTs who are as dumb as sh**. He seems confident and smart? Yes in cultures "confidence" plays a huge role but I wouldn't necessarily call it smart. If so, you'll have to define what being "smart" means to you.

well he came from a solid family where his parents were great support, he had lots of friends, social connections, he was good in talking and assertive
all this is minus in me weak family, no touch with family, no social connections, poor verbal and body language.

Sorry to come off harsh like that. Perhaps I'm self projecting. I've often felt the same way though my sister and screwed up dad who got sober helped me in some of these areas. I may never be able to be "socialy perfect" but at least I learned and tried. As far as relationships are concerned, I'm still single and probably for some of the reasons you've brought up will always be. We all have our "defaults" though sometimes in this day and age I feel like people do. Not sure what to say except conform or find a middle path so to speak. Most of us can never find total satisfaction in ourselves or other people... at least not in my personal experiences.

I prefer NTs, no offense, but I don't want Aspie kids which I most likely will get if I marry an Aspie.

Because the only way to have Aspie kids is for both the parents to be Aspie?

The probability gets lower at least.

Not necessarily.

I would actually prefer a partner like that because I'm extremity emotionally supportive. I think an NT like that would be my ideal because my personality in a relationship is opposite of the stereotypical Aspie's in a relationship. My 2nd girlfriend was kind of an extreme version of the stereotypical Aspie girl & she broke up with me claiming that she was too withdrawn & independent to handle a relationship with anyone & that I was too clingy, needy & deponent. I have bad luck trying to get in relationship with NTs thou partly due to my Aspie issues & sense my relationship personality is opposite of the stereotypical Aspie's; I have a much smaller chance of finding someone. I'm basically looking for a girl who is willing to give me a chance & will try to make a relationship work with me. My Aspie girl did not try & she took charge of our relationship & our relationship was very one-sided as a result. I'm basically searching for someone who will try to be my equal partner be it NT or Aspie or something else

No, when NT genes mix with Aspie genes, the probability should be 50%.

My X used to tell me that if we were to get a baby, she hoped it would be as handsome and smart as me and having her social skills..

Genetic science isn't that simple...

I've only had 1 NON-NT boyfriend (He's a little bit psycho/socio according to my parents), so I much prefer the NT boys (: It DOES take longer to find a connection with them and they need patience with your limitations, but it seems to be working out for me I found my soulmate (an NT Aussie) online, and he's very patient with my difficulties and is being a great help in overcoming them.

Best of luck to all still stuck between trying to find a like-wired or not person

Also, on the whole thing about having Aspie children: Sure, when you mix AA you'll probably get the same outcome, but if you mix Ab or even Aa (using general biology comparisons, A/a/B/b could be any condition) you'll still run that risk. But from what I understand, Asperger's isn't entirely a genetically passed-on thing. The risk runs of those slightly altered or damaged genes occurring again, but it IS possible to lower the risk of passing on your AS if you take the right steps. It's as much nature as nurture in this case. Teratogens in the first 4-5 months can negatively impact a developing child, and AS could be one of those things that happens. But if you avoid these environmental factors (nature) you can still potentially have perfectly normally-wired children or mentally unstable kids whether you have an AS, NT, or mentally deranged partner.

just putting in my two cents.