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30 Jan 2012, 10:49 pm

Have you thought about going to university in a different area?



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31 Jan 2012, 8:28 am

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Have you thought about going to university in a different area?


yeah, i've thought about it. unfortunalty there are none. looked all over, the internet, among other resuorces.

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I first of all, I never said, I'd lose my opinoin in an relationship. I simply meant that in a loving relationshp two people must share the same opinoins.


Wrong. That's reason one why you're not ready.

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and the fact is most people do find their true love while there still in high school, or collage in some cases.


Wrong, that's reason one why you're unhappy.

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And 18 is not "super young" most people don't live past 50, well, most people don't even live that long. so my live is already half over.


Wrong, again. You will see when you get older just how young it is.



you do realise that yo make lttlie sense when you try to tell me I'm still "young"
in case you never noticed, 18 is the first stage of old. meaning that like I already said, my life is half over. And if a person doesn't find love before they get too old, then they never will.

and quit telling me i'm wrong, it's not helping me feel any better about myself.



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31 Jan 2012, 8:38 am

your life is half... over... at age 18? wow, i guess you may as well reserve a spot in the nursing home and buy a walker if you're going to be dead by 36. :lol: but seriously, if you want people to make you feel better without pointing out the glaringly massive errors in your reasoning, then perhaps this thread should be moved to the Haven. but even in the Haven i can't promise people will take you too seriously when you call 18 ''old''.


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31 Jan 2012, 10:12 am

transformingcar wrote:
and quit telling me i'm wrong, it's not helping me feel any better about myself.

You came to the wrong forum to fish for good feelings.

It is your presumptions that are wrong.

You are not the only Aspie who feels, and unless you intend to die at the age of 36, your life is not half-over.

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31 Jan 2012, 4:10 pm

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are not the only Aspie who feels, and unless you intend to die at the age of 36, your life is not half-over



if this keeps up I might have to die sooner, seeing as no one has a heart these days. I guess I was wrong to think that Aspie's are any more likely to have the capacity for kindness or compassion then so called "normal people". strange though, I used to think Aspergers could make a you a better person. apearantly I was wrong about that too... well, then... I guess theres no point in seeking comfort around other Aspie's. but then theres no one else to turn to either...



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31 Jan 2012, 4:48 pm

As far as I can see everyone here has been saying all the right kind of things. Yes, we're all sympathetic but just what is it you're looking for here? Because you seem to be rejecting all the helpful advice and support.

I'll repeat that 18 years is nothing at all. You've barely begun on your life. Time is on your side.



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31 Jan 2012, 5:10 pm

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...seeing as no one has a heart these days.


This is so true. People behave very mechanically these days and do the same actions every day. People having no other emotions other than to going to work for many hours every day and making a lot of money.

I wonder if people really have unique personalities anymore or are rather just some part of a twisted socially engineered, eternally repeating mechanism of working, producing, making money, eating and reproducing.



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31 Jan 2012, 5:13 pm

I didnt go on a proper date that I initiated until I was 22. You are developmentally delayed, not hopeless.



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31 Jan 2012, 10:48 pm

transformingcar wrote:
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are not the only Aspie who feels, and unless you intend to die at the age of 36, your life is not half-over



if this keeps up I might have to die sooner, seeing as no one has a heart these days. I guess I was wrong to think that Aspie's are any more likely to have the capacity for kindness or compassion then so called "normal people". strange though, I used to think Aspergers could make a you a better person. apearantly I was wrong about that too... well, then... I guess theres no point in seeking comfort around other Aspie's. but then theres no one else to turn to either...


Just ignore this page. The conversation had started to make progress, or at least I thought so, and then a poster responded to your older stuff ... don't let that send you back. You can make a choice to not do that, to look at a response and go, "oh, that was to an earlier post, the conversation has moved on" and, thus, not be negatively affected by it.

Also, it is important to realize that just because someone bluntly corrects a misconception, does not mean they are trying to be unkind. While it would be great if they could do it in a more sympathetic way, it also isn't a kindness to allow you to live with false assumptions, especially when those false assumptions depress you and keep you from moving forward towards the things you want.

On the previous page, I tried to post some things that might help you move forward. Focus on comments like that.


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25 Mar 2012, 2:01 am

hale_bopp wrote:
cinbad wrote:
By the way, I am also one of the rare aspies who feels. However, I have the ability to "shut myself off". Sometimes it gets too much for me.


That's completely not true. The whole emotionless aspie thing is a complete, and might I add, utterly ridiculous stereotype.


Um, yeah. If you don't have emotions you aint no Aspie, you are a Sociopath. STRONGLY recommend go and give your shrink a good discussing with ASAP!



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25 Mar 2012, 2:16 pm

transformingcar wrote:
honestly, I'm becoming increasingly desperate to find a girl friend. but I never got to meet anyone and i'm already 18, soon to be 19 and i've never met a girl who actually liked me. is it so hard to find someone?

My mom convinced me to use match.com, but it's not working.


ok, so I have my fantasies, and i'm not proud of it at all. problem is it all gets worse the longer I live all alone. by that I mean, I often lose my self crying about it. then I get very angry and this leads to all kinds of issues.

One of these days, I'll probally just kill myself, seeing as my life has no meaning or purpose. I'm just so lonley, and it's tearing me apart.

I don't know what to do, I can honestly say if A girl would ever care for me, I'd do anything for her. but no one seems to care about that, and everyone always thinks of me as some kind a freak just becuase of the Asperger's thing.

I'm just not sure how I can ever find someone special, i don't know what to do, no one wants me.


Hey, you are 18, not 80. You still have a whole life ahead of you. Do you really want to quit right after you barely started the race? That's having a very low tolerance to failure... if you trip and fall down, you don't kill yourself, you get up and keep going. Why should you make it easier for others (if you quit, they have less competition)?



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25 Mar 2012, 2:24 pm

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ok, so, I just realised I forgot to mention something important, I live in a town where there is very little to do and no where to meet people.
there also the fact that all my life people have purposly held me back form sociailiation. no one ever let me do all the things my sister gets too, she has more freinds then most could count. and she never had to go thought the kind of suffering I have but that's not the point

And I have seen my parents fight, alot actully, so much so that I feel they don't love each other they wat they try to make it look.

but anyway, I suppose I'd have better chances if I could live somewhere where the people aren't the cruel, hatefull way they are in sunbury.
I'll never understand why they are so cruel in this town I'm forced to call home.

well, I noticed that the issues I live with are getting increaingly worse. and it's mostly about the lonlyness I feel. well that and the fact that everyone I know keeps screwing me over. I mean I always try to do the right thing, then afterwards some idiot backstabs me.

I good example would be the guy I once called "friend" well, I dropped everything for him whenever he needed or wanted me to show up.
then one day, he takes some of my stuff, I never see him again. and a few weeks alter I asked his mom where he was. she lied to me, then yelled Like a lunatic when I came back to say I couldn't find him, I swear he was in the house the whole time.
don't know whats wrong with the people in this town. of course I don't really like to hang out with other guys. It makes me uncomfortable
but then, I got along well with that one girl before she moved to florida and started dating someone who I'll never know who he his.
she once asked me if I would have liked her to be my girlfriend, but by then she was already in florida.

I guess what I'm triyng to say, is, that I just feel more accepted when a girl wants to be around me.

but, hey, I suppose it's not all bad, at least not when I can dream about the freinds who only exist inside my mind... but, anyway. not sure what else to say at this point.

well, I can say that I do appreciate the advice and all. just, some of it hasn't helped.

this lonlyness is killing me inside.


Hmmm, maybe it's time for you to leave town and go elsewhere. Start a new life, so to speak. 18 is a pretty good age for doing that. If you were already over 30 and already had an established career, friends and family, it certainly would be far more difficult to leave behind what took you several years to get, but that's not your case. What you've been seeking all this time may just be waiting for you at some other place. What ties do you currently have that won't allow you to leave town? Studying? Working? Or none at all?