Now I know why us aspies can't get any girls!

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Funny thing this. I've done some tests and apparently I would be excellent with the ladies, if it weren't for my lack of social skills. But I remain positive, saying that the fact I have undeveloped social skills only makes the rewards take more work, and turn out to be better.

Am I the only one who thought that this post may have just been sarcastic and/or satirical?

Well I wrote a post and it broke the internet, so here goes again...

That would be a really bad thing to do on an AS forum. Plus satire always confuses me.

If I could pick up on flirting I'd be set. I've realized that girls have been flirting with me and I've been missing it.

It starts out with threatening, glaring eye contact. Then it goes into them acting really nice to you, and also acting out of character. Then it turns into them being really mean to you. And this is flirting.

You've got to catch it before it turns into being really mean, because that means they have lost interest.

I just actually read this topic after replying to the orignal poster. And this is quite hilarious. And should most likely be deleted. As should a few of the people who posted. Maybe even me.

Dude, that was so me.

Seriously, that was so me.

I call it "White Knight Complex." They see you as the white knight, so they act like they're the damsel in distress, and you frantically play along and don the white armour.

You shouldn't have to put on armour to be with somebody. You shouldn't have to gallop in with your sword slicing through the air at her demons.

Let me guess: you would become a good friend to them, and you would pour the empathy on because of all the craziness they were undergoing, and after a suspiciously short interval they would proclaim "you're the only one who hasn't abandoned me, you're the only one who cares/understands, your the best man I've ever met, I want to be with you forever...." And you would fall for it... again!

I don't mean to dog on you or anything, but you and I were very much alike.

Keep those types at arm's length. Even being too close of a friend can get you burned.

I am worried that this is the only type of person who will date me. I have scared off all the single women on this site by talking about this.

Tim

Wow I've had the same worries, I seem to continually draw this sort of person..

However I think a huge part of it is my fault, in the past I thought something was wrong with me, or I was broken in certain ways. So I would try to "fix" girls with problems..

Turns out (as I should have known) that one can only help themself, and every few days the current one despises me for loving her in the first place..

I find it insane that someone can say they love you, and pour out the feelings, then the next day claim they despise you, and you only deserve pain..

It blows my mind..

And they think our brains are scrambled!

I can't find any aspies in my school. I wish I knew who they were so i could communticate with them, I only know 1 guy whos any aspie but hes my friend and i'm not gay.

Sarcasm? Where? Who sarcastic??? When???

Damnit, you look for one type of person you're seriously going to limit your options.

Surely even some aspie girls are horrible, surely some NT girls are wonderful?

Are you saying that we go out with sex maniac degenerates who we CAN'T relate to??

Jimmy, in a lot of cases its not even just straightening out social skill issues but straightening out conformity of attitude and personality problems as well. Good luck with it, just that if you hit a point after 6 years of giving it your all that your body literally will not give you what you want out of yourself, despite how much you know or understand, don't give up on yourself - just find a way to make your life worth living without those kinds of relationships and if something still comes along great, otherwise just know that this world is just a really f'd up place, its not logical, was never really meant to be just because the realities of what really governs reproduction tends to be extremely biased and closed-minded and it exerts itself on everyones instincts more than most people want to realize.

The issue with aspie women is the fact Asperger's is predominantly male. Making them less common obviously.