I "met" an aspie guy.....I need help understanding

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Yeah, . What's it mean then?

Okay, I'm just waiting for him to show up now....

It means that someone is treating you in an unfair, troubling, hurtful and/or annoying way by changing their mind a lot, being unreliable or not doing what they said they would.

Ah, he kind of does that. Doesn't respond to texts well, doesn't really initiate them, etc.

Should I not say anything to him and just talk to him whenever?

****UPDATE****

Well, unfortunate news. Prepare for wall of texts...

Things went very unexpected today. I had sent him a message asking if we could talk later because I had a few things I wanted to ask him. He didn't reply for hours and this sickness I've been feeling intensified greatly. So I told him basically, never mind, we can talk some other time. He replied, said he hadn't had his phone and then went on to telling me what he was doing. I said it was fine but that we could talk tomorrow anyway. About an hour later he tells me he's online. I get on, ask him why he got on and he says because I told him I wanted to talk. I reminded him that I said tomorrow, but he goes on to ask me multiple questions about my day, etc.

Fast forward and I decide to ask then since he was there. We go to cam and there is something immediately wrong with him. He looked very serious, even mad. I asked him what was up and he kept saying he was fine, he was fine. He was clearly not fine. I ask him if this was an aspie thing and he says he's in extreme "aspie mode" or something. He wouldn't exactly tell me what that meant, at the most he said he felt incredibly vulnerable. So, I can't ask him when he's like this. I diverted away to try to make him feel better, nothing. Eventually, he stops talking, turns off his mic and goes to another room saying that he doesn't want to talk anymore.

He goes on to looking depressed and talking about random things. We're on cam, but my throat hurts and he doesn't want to talk so we're typing to each other. I'm asking him if he wants to be alone, no. If he wants to be quiet, no. He randomly sends me walls of smilies with kissing faces or hugging bears and he begins to ask me, repetitively, what I wanted to ask him about. Things start to dawn on me and I tell him, very to the point, that I don't want to talk to him about it while he's in this state, that I need to hear his voice to properly assess what he says, and that I'm too sick feeling to even go through it. He wouldn't stop asking. I eventually told him that he was being annoying and he said that he was sorry for being an aspie. I told him that, that wasn't the problem and to just let it go and that I liked that he was an aspie. He kind of left the screen, he was there but he was lying on his back for a minute.

When he came back he kept on with the asking. I eventually just asked him a BS question about his penis to distract him from asking me. My head is literally pounding and I couldn't take it. He then stopped, said he felt hyper or something now and talked normally for about two minutes. He ASKED if I was turned on, I said NO, explicitly. He asked, almost verbatim "so now that I'm out of aspie mode what are we going to do". I said nothing sexual...He said okay. I added, "I'm sick. ", he said sorry. Then immediately said he was going to bed. I told him I was going to ask him what I needed to ask him tomorrow, he said he thought I already did and I told him I was kidding. Then I signed off.

So essentially, he became agitated by knowing that I had something to ask him, tried to manipulate me into spilling the beans by feinting interest in my day etc. etc., got tired of that and resorted to pestering, once he had thought he had what he wanted he yet again made moves only towards sexual conversation, when that wasn't happening he decided it was time for bed. At this point I don't really think I need to ask him what he wants from our relationship. It seems clear. In fact, he probably won't even text me anymore. I even asked him to text me today and he blew me off again until I messaged him. I really like him, but I guess he doesn't like me. Sorry guys. =\

You'd have to trust your gut on this one probably.

But the phrase "I want to ask you something." or something similar seems quite peculiar. I never fully understand why a girl would wait to tell me something and it sometimes will send me into a panic and/or feeling of "what could it be?". In your case I think you'd be better off trusting yourself and not moving forward if he's making you uncomfortable. You might be looking for someone more rational.

I don't feel uncomfortable. The combo of his disinterest in mostly anything but sex talk with me has to mean something. I've seen other people post here and else where about their relationship's with aspies and they never sound like this. Maybe him feeling anxious about me having to ask him something made him act weird, I think that would freak me out too. A guy I was talking to a few weeks ago said something like "I need to talk to you about something", it almost always leads to some form of a breakup. But he did in fact start to feel better and went straight for the same ole, same ole after he thought I had asked him. I know he's an aspie but I think if he was remotely interested in me outside of being a ****buddy he'd show more interest in other things. I'm not even going to say anything to him. I strongly feel like he won't seek me out.