What's your opinion on online dating?

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I am a professional Editor, therefore I recommend a "second set of eyes" for any important document, whether it be your resume, a project for school, or your dating profile.

Above and beyond that, dating is a very complex social structure with a lot of unwritten rules and assumptions. A "coach" can be very helpful in navigating these murky waters. (I speak from first-hand experience.) For example your coach might explain why certain photographs may be inappropriate/unattractive, or help you interpret an ambiguous reply from someone, or make sure you are safe when meeting them for the first time in the real world.

Ok, someone to edit spelling/grammar, I can understand. I don't think dating has to be complicated, and a neurodiverse person writing their own profile in their own neurodiverse style can help them attract someone appropriate for them...the same as anyone writing in their own personal style. The way you are describing it sounds like "how to have a more NT dating experience," which doesn't help if that is not what the date-seeker is looking for. Someone who puts up "inappropriate" photos (the site maintainer will take them down if they are egregious) is going to attract someone who is ok with those types of photos, which sounds just right.

By "inappropriate photos" I didn't mean "pornographic" but rather "inappropriate for a dating website profile" such as: outdated, unflattering angle, blurry, low-resolution, with your cats, wearing sweatpants, drunk, ex-boyfriend cropped out of the photo, etc.

Thanks for helping me clarify; I agree it was a poor choice of words.

If you are getting the desired results, then obviously no help is necessary. If you are not getting as many dates as you'd like, then the opinion of an honest and trusted friend can be very helpful. I am not talking just spelling & grammar.

I think it's wonderful. My boyfriend and I met online and have gone to see each other multiple times. I am very happy that we found each other, and we've definitely kept it going (we've been together almost three years now). It's completely possible for people to have and maintain online relationships and have them be successful.

Dating sites, nein.

Online dating, Ja.

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I was considering it at one point because I had a former friend (he was self-centered I should mention) who did it and got 5 dates on there but they would quickly break up with him. I've not wanted to do it though because it seems really uncertain as to what can be reliable but it can really go both ways. I'm just leaning more towards to end of not doing it, I still haven't dated but I'm confident I can find one in real life despite the options I currently have not being that great for me personally. When I expand my circle of friends though and people I know or knew at a point (sadly it's hard to get into contact with them but that can change. At this point I can only attempt to catch them on Facebook if they are online ) I feel it can work out.
I do understand why it's important to some people since there are people who seek a romance, doing it online just doesn't really feel like it suits me that well.

I like online dating because there is no confusion whether someone is single and looking for love.

When I meet someone in real life, I am not very good at reading the signs whether or not someone is available and interested. Sometimes at night I lie awake wondering about all the connections I might have missed in life because I did not pick up on the signals.

I get what you mean. Unfortunately, some people lie on their profiles. I found someone on Facebook, and they had a young daughter, but on their online dating profile, they said they didn't have children. It's hard to determine who is on there to find a relationship, or who is on there to get a girl/guy in bed. There are signs to know who is serious and who isn't. One guy said he is open to sex before a monogamous relationship, so that was an obvious sign! Obvious signs always help.

I also wonder if I've missed out on good signs; it seems that I've picked up on all the bad signs. I choose guys who are overly-flirtatious, and to a normal person, they'd know they're a player. I don't see it that way; I see them taking an interest in me. Now that I know that, I'm even more frustrated because my way of determining if someone likes me no longer works.