"Sweet" is now my least favorite word

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Yes, seems people run away from "too" anything, they run in the other direction. Does not mean, I can't role play or lose me. Or defend myself.

You don't sound too sweet here in the forums, not at all. It's not the impression your project here at all.

Sometimes you sound too radical and like a real ass with no sympathy.

but hey, too sweet is boring too.

Zinnel, I personally think you're overreacting a little.

If you get compliments saying that you are "sweet" and so on from females, that may well just be a compliment and not a judgement on your character. If you enjoy doing little things for others and going out of your way to do them, go ahead and do just that. Don't worry about whether it makes you "attractive" or not.

Having said that, if you want a different reaction from women, you'll need to explore other sides to your personality-try flirting with women (would help enormously if you could get a friend or family member to show you how, don't want to embarrass yourself) or generally holding back less and saying what you think more. A little bit of fun banter helps people bond and gives an impression beyond that of "generally nice person". Most people are reasonably decent human beings but have far more to them than that. I'm not saying that you should change your personality or anything like that, just try pushing yourself outside your comfort zone a little more.

Of course, it's not like I don't suffer from exactly the same problem, so I'm clarifying for myself as much as anyone else. : P

I have and all you get is 90% of guys saying it means your in the friend zone and 90% of women saying its just a complement nothing more



Now dumping someone for being "too sweet" is just silly. Obviously whom ever this was wasn't thinking, sorry it happened ValentineWiggin

I don't know how having non-mainstream IE "radical" views and discussing them precludes one from "sweetness"?
And I don't really participate in the threads where "sympathy" would be called for...

In any case.
He was put off by how painfully shy I am, as well as me being non-sexual.
I'm also very verbally-affectionate, which...is...a bad thing?

I dunno. I'm still confused over it.

I agree that it's silly, though I don't really understand it- very sorry it happens to you, too.
I was pretty head over heels for him.

I would personally trust the 90% males.

needless to say, i've never been dumped for being "too sweet"

Wouldn't women know more than men,
since the question is what women mean when they say it?

Not if you read the "Why are all men the same?" google search. They can't seem to make up they mind & I been told that too nice, too much of anything, makes people run in the other direction. Maybe it's finding someone who is not put off from too nice.

I was told i am nice and good-hearted by the last woman was interested in, that's when I really knew she already friendzoned me.

and hell, she was married with a man who was cheating on her and renting a whole apartment for his mistress for years. Ben, tant pis pour elle....

Zinnel, that may interests you:
http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt173613.html

Moral of the story: she wasn't interested because you're nice?

no, but logically, she had to get sick of players after all this and switch to a different type.....but from what i saw lately she still fancies the player-type, the obvious players.

But hey, the more she knows me the more she's discovering my 'a**hole' side, and she likes that, so maybe it isn't too late.

I think basically, inverse that picture to involve a woman, and woman speek, and I think that's basically the reason why girls don't like "Sweet" guys or "Nice" guys, at least the thought process.

but... many (most?) women DO like sweet guys and nice guys. but that isn't the ONLY thing they like about them.

there are a few women out there that are attracted to a**holes. why would anyone want to date a girl like that, especially if they have to become a jerk themselves?