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Pyrite
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16 Apr 2012, 3:15 pm

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Sometimes it's just a recognition of fact, if your genes are such that you have a 100% chance of passing on Huntington's it would be objectively unfortunate for someone to have you as a parent and hardly reflects on your ancestors as individuals.


It does not reflect on them, it's your opinion of them. They went to all the effort of passing on their genes, and rather than accepting them, you just decide that they aren't good enough.


I guess I don't see it that way because I've never looked at my parents as being simply the sum of their genetic material at the time of their conception but only knew them as the people they subsequently became.



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16 Apr 2012, 5:00 pm

Evinceo wrote:
Pyrite wrote:
Sometimes it's just a recognition of fact, if your genes are such that you have a 100% chance of passing on Huntington's it would be objectively unfortunate for someone to have you as a parent and hardly reflects on your ancestors as individuals.


It does not reflect on them, it's your opinion of them. They went to all the effort of passing on their genes, and rather than accepting them, you just decide that they aren't good enough.


The desire to survive and f*ck isn't some noble, conscious pursuit passed down via philosophy-
it's physiological.

Although it's not a "fact" that living with this or that condition isn't preferable to never existing- it's opinion.
Some horrible one where you live a short life of abject agony? Perhaps.
But Autism, especially HFA? Meh. Not so much.


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17 Apr 2012, 5:22 am

That makes a lot of sense to me Space. I'd rather not have kids for lots of reasons including my AS & some genetic physical disabilities that could potentially be passed on. I faced lots of problems in my life as a result not just from my family not understanding what I was dealing with but society & the world in general. It would be very painful for me to have a kid & watch him going through life facing lots of the problems I had from living in an NT world especially if he was depressed & suicidal from being bullied & feeling like he doesn't belong in the world he lives in. parents can not change the world to fit their kids special needs or uniqueness.


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