My crush doesn't want me.

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I'd like very much to hope that that's not necessarily true. I'm attracted to all genders and non-genders, but I would still like to be friends with people who exist without using them to vent or considering them sex meat. Maybe it's different because I'm male or Autistic or both or something. At least cut lesbians some slack.

I do, however, consider venting an important part of friendships. People seem to like me because I'm easy to talk to and let them vent without judgement (unless, of course, they're having some kind of bigotry-based vent, in which case they can go f**k themselves). Maybe you're being too careful about this.

We (me and you and the 30s like us) are not the norm.

It's abuse to write why you don't want to be with someone in your journal...but perfectly ok to read someones private thoughts in the journal without their knowledge and then confront them on it?

This^ if you had to violate her privacy to find out, she wasn't gossiping. Having her own opinion on a situation that affects her is not stabbing anyone in the back. Sometimes people we like aren't attracted to us, that can hurt, but we move on without throwing a hissyfit or disparaging their character for the crime of being creeped out by an unwanted advance.
Not everyone is confrontational, surely as autistics we can understand how hard it can be to approach someone directly especially with a delicate social concern.
No one deserves to be vilified for working through their feelings/thoughts in a journal.

This. I fall hard for my special interests, I fall hard for my crushes. It's just the way Aspies usually are. Many women will be put off by the obsessive devotion of an Aspie, some might find it sweet. Still waiting for one to have the latter reaction, to be honest.

I've never 'stalked' a girl, but I have been rather...persistent and forward with crushes in the past. Until I finally get the hint she isn't interested, and move on. Which can take me a while.

Yeah. As you said earlier, we're hardly the most emotionally-blossomed 30 y.os on the planet.

Yeah, I probably haven't, in all honesty, tried hard enough. I have had a few crushes and 'one itises', but I focus on them too much to the exclusion of other girls, and always end up in their 'friend zone'.

I've had my fare share of trying to get some people to like me for either friendships or dates. See you because of the social nostalgia and lack of proper social structure in most public schools, this is how one will mostly feel in the dark. Even online I still couldn't make friends yet cyber date a lot. Some of these people that I tried to make friends with or like were jerks. Smart-asses, etc. My list of these typical online an offline persona could expand across the universe nearly. But because of my isolated intentions in wanting to see some good coming forth out of these situations all it did in return caused cyber-bullying and pure social ignorance. These people online or off wouldn't give a care of I commit suicide. Got back at them, or even moved on with my life. This is the sort of thing that never prepares us mentally for the real challenges outside of the real world. Life has been more a bit wits rather then remember your abc's, certain biology classes, being college and work ready.