What is love?

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10 Jul 2012, 3:57 am

I think Love is the process in finding what is best for you in a partner, someone who brings out the better traits inside yourself, someone that is selfless for the greater good of the relationship, someone who has a mutual understanding with you and is able to understand how you are in your most difficult times and no matter what, someone that is willing to face and overcome obstacles with you. I think that is love or at least my idea of love.

Although that would be in a naive perfect world and that is not the world we live in.

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10 Jul 2012, 4:47 am

Love is a very broad concept, there are different types of love

Eros
a passionate physical and emotional love based on aesthetic enjoyment; stereotype of romantic love

Ludus
a love that is played as a game or sport; conquest; may have multiple partners at once

Storge
an affectionate love that slowly develops from friendship, based on similarity

Pragma
love that is driven by the head, not the heart

Mania
obsessive love; experience great emotional highs and lows; very possessive and often jealous lovers

Agape
selfless altruistic love; spiritual;

I almost sometimes think love feels very similar to how it feels (for me) to have my special interest, like that's the level of engagement.

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10 Jul 2012, 5:03 am

DogsWithoutHorses wrote:

Eros
a passionate physical and emotional love based on aesthetic enjoyment; stereotype of romantic love

Agape
selfless altruistic love; spiritual;

I guess a cross between Agape and Eros would be the best with a little bit of logic and rationality when necessary.

Oh yeah and for you, guys being tall is a requirement for love as you have said in other threads

I'm 6'2 but just saying.

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10 Jul 2012, 5:32 am

Wolfheart wrote:

DogsWithoutHorses wrote:

Eros
a passionate physical and emotional love based on aesthetic enjoyment; stereotype of romantic love

Agape
selfless altruistic love; spiritual;

I'm 6'2 but just saying.

I think different things work for different people. And that that's a good thing.

Eh, height isn't a requirement.
I've cited it twice, once as an easy to spot, quantifiable, lie in online dating and and once as an advantage for men and disadvantage for women (which is broadly true).
But my posting history and what you extrapolate from that in regards to my physical preferences isn't even close to being on topic, just saying

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10 Jul 2012, 9:32 am

DogsWithoutHorses wrote:

I'm actually kinda glad you brought this up. Makes me wonder if the strongest of relationships will have a fusion of every style (although I could do without Ludus, personally).

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11 Jul 2012, 3:52 am

DogsWithoutHorses wrote:

Good list but there are actualy 7, not 6.

The one you are missing: Philia - means friendship or affectionate love in modern Greek. It is a dispassionate virtuous love, a concept developed by Aristotle. It includes loyalty to friends, family, and community, and requires virtue, equality and familiarity. In ancient texts, philos denoted a general type of love, used for love between family, between friends, a desire or enjoyment of an activity, as well as between lovers.

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11 Jul 2012, 6:29 am

Kjas wrote:

DogsWithoutHorses wrote:

Thank you!
that was a big omission

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11 Jul 2012, 9:51 pm

ReaperKnight wrote:

MisterSpock wrote:

It has been said by some "professionals", or people who've studied it, that some people with ASD do have reduced emotional response, or lack of emotional competence.

I say bullsh*t to that.

Coincidentally or perhaps ironically, love is about a lot of BS.

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