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And that's what I meant, you just took what I said to an extreme for lulz well done. As I guy, which I thought you were btw. It helps to dial things up a notch on first encounters.

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She grew it back though and I think at any length you could probably pull it off; so long as she doesn't pull a Katy Perry on moments notice and go for electric blue, turqouis, or some wacky 'essence of ocean' off a Sherwin Williams chit.

The "Guys should x" thing is kinda rubbish for some people as well though, and I find myself being a poster-boy example.

For instance my interests, my tastes, are exotic to the point of failure-to-conform; at least in the area that I live. I can be polite to people, I can be engaging, I can 'hide' that part of myself when its not being asked about but - there's no such thing in a relationship. The girls in my area actually are into those things are complete sleepers - ie. I could go to a bar and barely see a thing that would distinguish her from the next girl; there's no way I'd ever know unless I talked to her - which only takes a reasonable amount of effort if you simply get out, live life, and don't push people away.

However to try and make the attempts to even start conversation out of nowhere just because I find someone visually attractive - at best its "Raaah! Not.....my.....type....." and at worst I get them interested in me and then find out I'm not interested in them or that there are cultural differences I have that I haven't exposed them to about myself that they simply wouldn't put up with.

I think that's why I really prefer the natural acquaintence-first route, it'll feel natural and right to me, to them, it'll have social proof already built in. I know someone with supposedly such a bad losing strategy (ie. being single) shouldn't make any such remarks by so many people's standards but - I realize also its a choice. Would I rather get my teeth drilled than go on three first dates a week? check. Do I hate everything about how contrived situations feel and what kinds of results they yield? check.

The problem with me isn't due to awful strategy, or even particularly bad game or 'patter' - its that I am me to begin with. To say that though I'm likely just reiterating this that I said earlier:



Its a 'failure' of fundamental neurological conformity. We live in a neurodiverse world but one that has a very strong program of elevating conformity to the level of deity. I just get curious sometimes though what people who are on the smiting side of that cultural impulse should be doing with their lives, if they want to link up with other...say...quirkyalones... even just at the platonic level. Should it be a community in and of itself? Should quirkyalones build safe havens in society where they can congregate?

It would be a good start. As an example where I live, there is a small gay community that's almost completely exclusive. There are known gay friendly shops, clubs and even work places, but it's like an underground thing.

Sounds edgy.

I had a friend show me this last weekend, f'ing hillarious show but who knows...maybe I need to move to Portland, fall in love with a coffee-shop or music store clerk with black & red hair who looks like she got hit in the face with a tacklebox. Perhaps I've been denying and surpressing my inner hipster

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AVmq9dq6Nsg[/youtube]

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That is a glorious, glorious city, and that show really is spot on about so much of it..

I could have a lot of fun, and I'd probably feel as free as an uncaged bird but - I'd need one of those Men In Black memory wands to swipe in front of people's eyes if the cat got out of the bag that I'm Republican.

I'm told that Northern Ireland is somewhat behind on the acceptance of homosexuality compared to the rest of the United Kingdom. I take it this is correct?

Surprisingly.. I found that the bulk of the people living in "Little Beirut" aka Portland.. were Ron Paul supporting Libertarians.. Which is really strange considering they all love their public transit and pedestrianization of the city.

I'd almost say they were some sort of bastard hybrid.. Libertarian-socialist or something.. Whatever they are.. it isn't easy to nail down precisely..

I guess it is, they don't want to have to deal with homophobia. I'm sure Aspieness has its stigma and its haters, too. It's all new to me, I only found out was AS was this year.

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Depends if by UK, you compare it Brixton or Glasgow.

While this stuff is cute and charming for a minute though it would probably start activating the misanthrope in me after much more than a couple months:
[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0XM3vWJmpfo[/youtube]

Oh right, I just meant the hidden community part of it. Who knows, maybe aspies need some type of icon or glyph, to designate safe zones. I'd be neat, but clearly it would take common sense that if you're in a rough part of town being lead down an alleyway something may well be amiss.

well it isn't all like that.. and if you need time away from the twee of the alphabet or pearl.. just go to grim and gritty Gresham and have your fill of ramshackle projects and meth labs..