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13 May 2012, 11:24 pm

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another possibility is it took her four dates to assess your income/resources and moved on to fatter pickings.

It happens.

that is really unlikely, seeing as how most women are not golddiggers.


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13 May 2012, 11:37 pm

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JosefK, i think she was expecting to get hit on sexually when she invited you over to her house. the fact that she explicitly told you that she will be alone made me think of that. hard to be certain though.

This was what came to my mind also. And I thought 'I don't know if this is the way it's supposed to go' might have meant that it wasn't going at the pace she expected.



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13 May 2012, 11:48 pm

hyperlexian wrote:
Dantac wrote:
another possibility is it took her four dates to assess your income/resources and moved on to fatter pickings.

It happens.

that is really unlikely, seeing as how most women are not golddiggers.


I'm not saying gold digger I'm saying just a comparison of what she could get vs whatever other guys she may have in mind about going out with.



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13 May 2012, 11:50 pm

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hyperlexian wrote:
Dantac wrote:
another possibility is it took her four dates to assess your income/resources and moved on to fatter pickings.

It happens.

that is really unlikely, seeing as how most women are not golddiggers.


I'm not saying gold digger I'm saying just a comparison of what she could get vs whatever other guys she may have in mind about going out with.

that would be a golddiger. most women don't assess men according to the financial status.


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14 May 2012, 12:20 am

hyperlexian wrote:
Dantac wrote:
hyperlexian wrote:
Dantac wrote:
another possibility is it took her four dates to assess your income/resources and moved on to fatter pickings.

It happens.

that is really unlikely, seeing as how most women are not golddiggers.


I'm not saying gold digger I'm saying just a comparison of what she could get vs whatever other guys she may have in mind about going out with.

that would be a golddiger. most women don't assess men according to the financial status.


As commonly as men not assessing women due to physical attributes :P

Gold-digger in my view is one that actively seeks wealth .. I'm not reffering to that. I'm saying its the 'hey theres two+ guys I like but this one is not as well off as the other... ' type situation.



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14 May 2012, 12:24 am

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hyperlexian wrote:
Dantac wrote:
hyperlexian wrote:
Dantac wrote:
another possibility is it took her four dates to assess your income/resources and moved on to fatter pickings.

It happens.

that is really unlikely, seeing as how most women are not golddiggers.


I'm not saying gold digger I'm saying just a comparison of what she could get vs whatever other guys she may have in mind about going out with.

that would be a golddiger. most women don't assess men according to the financial status.


As commonly as men not assessing women due to physical attributes :P

Gold-digger in my view is one that actively seeks wealth .. I'm not reffering to that. I'm saying its the 'hey theres two+ guys I like but this one is not as well off as the other... ' type situation.

people don't do that really. it's not like they sit down with a checklist and compare the stats of all of the potential mates in their life, with money or looks coming out ahead.


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14 May 2012, 12:34 am

hyperlexian wrote:
Dantac wrote:
hyperlexian wrote:
Dantac wrote:
hyperlexian wrote:
Dantac wrote:
another possibility is it took her four dates to assess your income/resources and moved on to fatter pickings.

It happens.

that is really unlikely, seeing as how most women are not golddiggers.


I'm not saying gold digger I'm saying just a comparison of what she could get vs whatever other guys she may have in mind about going out with.

that would be a golddiger. most women don't assess men according to the financial status.


As commonly as men not assessing women due to physical attributes :P

Gold-digger in my view is one that actively seeks wealth .. I'm not reffering to that. I'm saying its the 'hey theres two+ guys I like but this one is not as well off as the other... ' type situation.

people don't do that really. it's not like they sit down with a checklist and compare the stats of all of the potential mates in their life, with money or looks coming out ahead.


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14 May 2012, 12:38 am

^^^lol exactly.


aside: Togepi is my favourite ^_^


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14 May 2012, 12:40 am

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^^^lol exactly.


aside: Togepi is my favourite ^_^


It was surprisingly hard to find pokemon statistic like that, only one I found through google search. I would probably go with gengar, maybe haunter


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14 May 2012, 1:25 am

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The second date was even greater, and we made out. She immediately texted me after the second date, asking me to come over to her house that week, because she was home alone. So I went over to her place and we had another great date.


Did you have sex? If not, this could have been why she didn't want to see you again. Women are very sexual creatures, as are men, but even more-so. The AS thing doesn't mean sh**. You don't dislike someone based on a diagnosis, and she already had an opinion of you formed. Intimacy, both emotional and physical is crucially important to all relationships. If not for this reason, then I'm sure she had her own reasons. Keep in mind that a reason that makes sense to her is not necessarily a reason that makes sense to you.



Wrong, people can change their minds instantly about someone if they find out something they don't like, especially in such early stage.



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14 May 2012, 1:48 am

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The second date was even greater, and we made out. She immediately texted me after the second date, asking me to come over to her house that week, because she was home alone. So I went over to her place and we had another great date.


Did you have sex? If not, this could have been why she didn't want to see you again. Women are very sexual creatures, as are men, but even more-so. The AS thing doesn't mean sh**. You don't dislike someone based on a diagnosis, and she already had an opinion of you formed. Intimacy, both emotional and physical is crucially important to all relationships. If not for this reason, then I'm sure she had her own reasons. Keep in mind that a reason that makes sense to her is not necessarily a reason that makes sense to you.



Wrong, people can change their minds instantly about someone if they find out something they don't like, especially in such early stage.


EXACTLY!

And I don't buy into the golddigger theory.



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14 May 2012, 2:02 am

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another possibility is it took her four dates to assess your income/resources and moved on to fatter pickings.

It happens.


non-anecdotal proof or it didn't happen
I swear this junk comes out of left field every time here no matter what the specific topic is. Like wait wait, we haven't made an unfounded and unflattering statement about the behavior / romantic motivations of women and presented it as fact yet...thread not complete.


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14 May 2012, 2:04 am

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The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
SoulPower wrote:
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The second date was even greater, and we made out. She immediately texted me after the second date, asking me to come over to her house that week, because she was home alone. So I went over to her place and we had another great date.


Did you have sex? If not, this could have been why she didn't want to see you again. Women are very sexual creatures, as are men, but even more-so. The AS thing doesn't mean sh**. You don't dislike someone based on a diagnosis, and she already had an opinion of you formed. Intimacy, both emotional and physical is crucially important to all relationships. If not for this reason, then I'm sure she had her own reasons. Keep in mind that a reason that makes sense to her is not necessarily a reason that makes sense to you.



Wrong, people can change their minds instantly about someone if they find out something they don't like, especially in such early stage.


EXACTLY!

And I don't buy into the golddigger theory.


no, the OP didn't mention anything about it.


Off-topic: when a girl asks me directly "How much is your salary?" on a first meetup (Yup, right,it was that direct, literally) - is it wrong to assume she's a strong potential golddigger.



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14 May 2012, 2:04 am

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IlovemyAspie wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
SoulPower wrote:
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The second date was even greater, and we made out. She immediately texted me after the second date, asking me to come over to her house that week, because she was home alone. So I went over to her place and we had another great date.


Did you have sex? If not, this could have been why she didn't want to see you again. Women are very sexual creatures, as are men, but even more-so. The AS thing doesn't mean sh**. You don't dislike someone based on a diagnosis, and she already had an opinion of you formed. Intimacy, both emotional and physical is crucially important to all relationships. If not for this reason, then I'm sure she had her own reasons. Keep in mind that a reason that makes sense to her is not necessarily a reason that makes sense to you.



Wrong, people can change their minds instantly about someone if they find out something they don't like, especially in such early stage.


EXACTLY!

And I don't buy into the golddigger theory.


no, the OP didn't mention anything about it.


Off-topic: when a girl asks me directly "How much is your salary" (Yup, right,it was that direct, literally) - is it wrong to assume she's a strong potential golddigger.

you don't live in the western/northern world, so i can't speak about the culture there.


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14 May 2012, 2:09 am

hyperlexian wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
IlovemyAspie wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
SoulPower wrote:
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The second date was even greater, and we made out. She immediately texted me after the second date, asking me to come over to her house that week, because she was home alone. So I went over to her place and we had another great date.


Did you have sex? If not, this could have been why she didn't want to see you again. Women are very sexual creatures, as are men, but even more-so. The AS thing doesn't mean sh**. You don't dislike someone based on a diagnosis, and she already had an opinion of you formed. Intimacy, both emotional and physical is crucially important to all relationships. If not for this reason, then I'm sure she had her own reasons. Keep in mind that a reason that makes sense to her is not necessarily a reason that makes sense to you.



Wrong, people can change their minds instantly about someone if they find out something they don't like, especially in such early stage.


EXACTLY!

And I don't buy into the golddigger theory.


no, the OP didn't mention anything about it.


Off-topic: when a girl asks me directly "How much is your salary" (Yup, right,it was that direct, literally) - is it wrong to assume she's a strong potential golddigger.

you don't live in the western/northern world, so i can't speak about the culture there.


oh, and when i answered her question she was like "you're supposed to earn more at your age" with a disappoint stare.

Lollolol.

Not sure how common is this here but i think this girl was exceptionally blunt and maybe even rude.



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14 May 2012, 2:29 am

hyperlexian wrote:
Dantac wrote:
hyperlexian wrote:
Dantac wrote:
hyperlexian wrote:
Dantac wrote:
another possibility is it took her four dates to assess your income/resources and moved on to fatter pickings.

It happens.

that is really unlikely, seeing as how most women are not golddiggers.


I'm not saying gold digger I'm saying just a comparison of what she could get vs whatever other guys she may have in mind about going out with.

that would be a golddiger. most women don't assess men according to the financial status.


As commonly as men not assessing women due to physical attributes :P

Gold-digger in my view is one that actively seeks wealth .. I'm not reffering to that. I'm saying its the 'hey theres two+ guys I like but this one is not as well off as the other... ' type situation.

people don't do that really. it's not like they sit down with a checklist and compare the stats of all of the potential mates in their life, with money or looks coming out ahead.


I have witnessed four girls assessing potential suitors for one them, they were not holding papers but they were doing it orally (ie "this guy x works as ...., guy y is more outgoing..."), yes they were comparing them side-by-side.