Girls see me in wrong way

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Awww thank you no one ever has the time to explain the rules of grammar and punctuation to me. I was good at it once but Hooked on Phonics made it so confusing and harder to understand so I just gave up on trying to learn how to use it.

Well, I never been asked and that stuff for social hang outs and that UNTIL recently this week this Spanish girl ask me to join her to play volleyball with her boyfriend. I find that quite happy result for me. However, did came over and play. Eventually I did meet more people. Very friendly of course, and met someone nice (as I already talked about last night).

The other problem I have with girls is my lack of empathy some times for their problems I'm such a care free person nothing really bothers me it annoys them when I don't know what to say when their telling me about their problems.

matty... methinks ur being too eager... some girls get scared
can try to be more hard to get.. bit strange when your not out to get them! but if thats not you then better just keep trying as u do
mb u do something with ur eyes that they think is gf interest? not sure why u get these responses..
can try ask someone that has seen you and mb knows what it is.. hey wait a sec.. try ask 1 of the chicks this? they then know ur motives and mb it starts good friendship!! !!

Sorry, I hardly understood of what you saying here. Could you rephrase it please?

ok matty I try..
You are wanting it too much somehow.. that is what the girls think
not what you think.. so it is kinda wrong.. but from girls end they are right
so they think ur out to get them and they run.
I think it could be that you give some signal, like with eyes or dunno.. how you stand.

could be good to ask someone that sees you if you do that.. so you learn what is the cause..
wonder what happens if you ask one of those girls..

ask her this
Do I do something that makes girls think I want more than friendship?

mb she wants to help you and will answer.. this also gives her clear message that you dont want her as a gf.. so good start imo

The ways of my eyes, body language and standing is just general. I do this very much a same to everyone in equal. From families, professors, guys, women and that etc. I don't change myself in this way because it won't work.

I think its attitude problem. I mean its them, as they are young age. From 17 to 23 here at uni. I think that is the problem for them. Not understanding things properly. They get guys in wrong way, more of ummm alcohol involved. Most of social gatherings and stuff is alcohol. Alcohol get people to hang together and feel comfortable as quick as it can. So, I don't drink alcohol because its dangerous, unhealthy and its stupid thing to drink some harmful chemicals from the laboratory.

I try ask that question yes.

In other thing, instead of making another thread. I don't make this seem weird or whatever. You all know I do love to have a girlfriend, but it more of unintentional way. As in more of natural way. Not desperate, joining up dating websites and crap etc. However in this case, sometimes I feel jealous when I women in public of the way they dress it makes them look eye catching. Nice breasts, curves and that etc. It makes me feel jealous of seeing that. But, I did not trigger anything to scare them away from looking at them. I know it is wrong to stare and leer at them. I'm not dumb here.

In this point, is it normal for a guy like being 4th and final year uni student who is still single and also still look at girls nice pieces? To this extent, I would like to catch a fish one day, an attractive one, not nice looking. I think what I feeling is heterosexual. I am so curious of what life goes after this year. Heading to US? Does the women in US like a smart, nice and mature Aussie guy like me? Who knows?

Hello?

Hello

Well, Matty, looks like my earlier assumption was correct. You feel it is the girls that are the problem, and not you. With that in mind is this more of a vent, or advice thread? Because we can't make people change how they are or how they perceive things, and so we can't really give sensible advice on that. But what you can do, is figure out how the girls you do want to talk to see things, and put yourself across in a way that maintains what makes you you in a way they will see as platonic.

I would reckon so mate. It more of a place where I am. Its different to other. At my old uni, most of girls aren't like the attitudes up here. It seems getting worse and worse over time since 2010. I'm not getting worse at all. I am becoming a lot happier and happier. At same rate, the more ruder and bad attitude of them. To note this, I got mature early. I was 12 at the time (same year I was diagnosed with AS). Now I am 21, and its much more mature than other people here at colleges and the uni. Lot of people is being very cautious of me.

This is more of advice thread. I'm not venting. I just wanted to know how to solve those issues. If that the case, I would not mind any women in WP could give me an advice as well by judging their gender. In the way how they see in guys etc. I'm not sure how to figure out how the girls want really. Its so difficult to get along with them. They always judge on my personal issues, like social skills etc.

ValentineWiggin: I would not mind ask you some advice, from your point of view as being a female. I would appreciate that. Its the better I learn to know from the women's side.

Like I have said in previous post:

You say you're nice, but some of the things you say aren't very nice and that attitude might be part of your problem. You seem to be percieving yourself as perfect and everyone else as the problem. Everyone else is immature and stupid, but not you. If you feel that way about people, why would they like you? People don't appreciate it when others are rude, and if you say things like this to the girls you talk to about other people, they might wonder what you might say about them behind their backs. People like a little modesty, it is not very likeable to say bad things about everyone who doesn't behave exactly the way you want. You need to truly reflect on yourself instead of placing blame on everyone else. You are very likely to have a girlfriend one day who you can be happy with if you pay more attention to her needs instead of only your own.

McAnulty raises a very good point. Why would you want to be friends with these girls if you don't like how they react to you anyway or have jealousy at times?

I know how you feel. I've kinda had that problem, too, but it was in a different way...

AussieMatty, if you DON'T want to be perceived as looking for a girlfriend, perhaps you need to make some adjustments as to what you are projecting. for example, this thread is not in the Social Skills and Making Friends forum.... it's in the Love & Dating forum.