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18 May 2012, 9:32 am

Having reread the first post and the following advice, I think the OPs words are fine short answer to OP = Yes, lower standards. Better results.

EDIT: gah!

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18 May 2012, 9:43 am

Okay! Supposedly good-looking individuals: send me pictures so I can verify, and give me yo' numba so that I may contact you. ;D

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18 May 2012, 9:44 am

spongy wrote:

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Another case of mods reprimanding the wrong person. I think this site needs some replacements.

Uh, seriously? Go back and read the posts again.

Anyone is free to express their views but attacking those that disagree with you isnt welcome here.

Is what I said considered an attack? If so, I apologize. I was trying to point out what I considered a failure in reading comprehension. Or perhaps just a difference in possible interpretation.

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18 May 2012, 9:45 am

JanuaryMan wrote:

Having reread the first post and the following advice, I think the OPs words are fine

short answer to OP = Yes, lower standards. Better results.

EDIT: gah!

Same advice as always.. "SETTLE, SETTLE, SETTLE!".

Granted, it is good advice to get laid, just not to form an actual healthy relationship.

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18 May 2012, 9:50 am

mv wrote:

spongy wrote:

mv wrote:

Boxman108 wrote:

Another case of mods reprimanding the wrong person. I think this site needs some replacements.

Uh, seriously? Go back and read the posts again.

Anyone is free to express their views but attacking those that disagree with you isnt welcome here.

Is what I said considered an attack? If so, I apologize. I was trying to point out what I considered a failure in reading comprehension. Or perhaps just a difference in possible interpretation.

I read it a couple times and I took what he said as explaining to boxman what happened, but that is just my interpretation

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18 May 2012, 9:54 am

rabbittss wrote:

JanuaryMan wrote:

Having reread the first post and the following advice, I think the OPs words are fine

short answer to OP = Yes, lower standards. Better results.

EDIT: gah!

Same advice as always.. "SETTLE, SETTLE, SETTLE!".

Granted, it is good advice to get laid, just not to form an actual healthy relationship.

lower standards if they are unrealistic makes sense to me, but I don't care for the terminology

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18 May 2012, 9:54 am

rabbittss wrote:

JanuaryMan wrote:

Having reread the first post and the following advice, I think the OPs words are fine

short answer to OP = Yes, lower standards. Better results.

EDIT: gah!

Same advice as always.. "SETTLE, SETTLE, SETTLE!".

Granted, it is good advice to get laid, just not to form an actual healthy relationship.

*nods*. In most cases I'll agree with that. In some cases though, if your standards are higher than what you can realistically aim for, any relationship you go into would be unhealthy anyway.

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18 May 2012, 10:01 am

How about *broader* standards?

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18 May 2012, 10:06 am

mv wrote:

spongy wrote:

mv wrote:

Boxman108 wrote:

Another case of mods reprimanding the wrong person. I think this site needs some replacements.

Uh, seriously? Go back and read the posts again.

Anyone is free to express their views but attacking those that disagree with you isnt welcome here.

Is what I said considered an attack? If so, I apologize. I was trying to point out what I considered a failure in reading comprehension. Or perhaps just a difference in possible interpretation.

No its not.

Sorry Im not sure why I quoted you(not at my best today)

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18 May 2012, 10:26 am

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So im from htown and im handsome. I have dated alot of women but most of the time my quirks and social ques ruin everything. Besides that most of the women i meet i feel are not on my level. But they are interested, theyre just not the beautiful intelligent one i think i deserve. Should i lower my standards

To be honest, it's easy to interpret your post as arrogant... Good looks aren't everything, especially in a relationship. I think it would be good, if you thought through what kind of qualities (besides beauty and brains) you are looking for exactly in a potential partner and also, what are the things/qualities that you are able to offer for the other person in a relationship.

You admit that you can be a challenging person to date, but you still talk about others not being "on your level"? I hope you could give us more details.

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18 May 2012, 10:30 am

Kinme wrote:

Okay! Supposedly good-looking individuals: send me pictures so I can verify, and give me yo' numba so that I may contact you. ;D

I don't quite know how to tell you this, but I was being totally sarcastic when I said I'm stunningly attractive with a great personality.

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18 May 2012, 10:37 am

ToughDiamond wrote:

Kinme wrote:

Okay! Supposedly good-looking individuals: send me pictures so I can verify, and give me yo' numba so that I may contact you. ;D

I don't quite know how to tell you this, but I was being totally sarcastic when I said I'm stunningly attractive with a great personality.

;p... If you have a nice personality, then you'll be stunningly attractive, right?

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18 May 2012, 11:01 am

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I am 5"8 which makes me considerably shorter than most of the younger guys in my city. It's something I've long gotten over so feel free to comment on it.

Interesting.....I'm about the same height, but I've never let it get me down ever. It just seems so silly to me that a woman of any worth could possibly care so much about such a trivial matter, that she wouldn't give me a chance..........after a serious relationship or two, I think the brighter people realise that height doesn't really have much to do with it. I'll see them when they get there...........

http://research.similarminds.com/romant ... -women/227

Apparently we're within the preferred height range for short and medium-height women anyways, so just keep away from the beanpoles and all should be well.

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@ToughDiamond perhaps his views aren't all that bad but the way it was communicated across will look very different in the eyes of women. To me it reads "I'm so great why won't these stupid girls date me".

I agree. I guess most women wouldn't stop to think that it might have been said in an unguarded moment brought on by years of frustration. And it does smack of a sense of entitlement. If he were female, I'd probably date her once at least, just to see what she was really like, but I'd be ready to pull the plug if her attitude turned out to be more than just a bit of venting.

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18 May 2012, 11:19 am

May I suggest that the better-looking prospects have more to choose from and are thus less likely to approach anyone. The less attractive are, for lack of a better term, more "desperate" and more likely to approach people to get some lovin'.

That's certainly been my experience as well. And we Aspies might not catch the suble cues by the attractive normies, and only catch the obvious blows to the head by those more willing to make their interest known.

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18 May 2012, 11:33 am

Kinme wrote:

ToughDiamond wrote:

Kinme wrote:

Okay! Supposedly good-looking individuals: send me pictures so I can verify, and give me yo' numba so that I may contact you. ;D

I don't quite know how to tell you this, but I was being totally sarcastic when I said I'm stunningly attractive with a great personality.

;p... If you have a nice personality, then you'll be stunningly attractive, right?

Yep, handsome is as handsome does. And last time I had the hots for a lady, I was actually being told that I was more attractive than usual, though I hadn't bothered to pretty myself up any more than ever, as I hardly ever saw the wench. Pheremones, maybe?

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18 May 2012, 11:59 am

RightGalaxy wrote:

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This is really the best kind of response anyone could make to the OP.

No! It isn't.

Maybe not, but I'm glad you quoted it anyway

And for the record, we don't know how attractive the OP supposedly is. We have only their word to go by.
I'd honestly aim lower, OP. How we see ourselves, and how others see ourselves .. well, difference right there. Also, how you behave or move in public might not always compliment one's looks. Someone could look amazing but have a very funny walk, or have terrible smiling / happy faces :lol:

and looks are only the ice breaker in most cases, if the words coming out your mouth were vulgar, or other negative things .. again could put women off. And if any girls you were interested in read your OP you can forget about dating them any time soon lol

OMG...still another... hiss,hiss, rear,rear! I don't think the original OP meant anything bad at all. It's YOU. What is your problem? Is that your picture? You are way too handsome to have this sort of attitude with the OP! man, loosen up, and don't read so much into it. The dating world is VERY superficial. You look like you might be short. How does that make you feel? Do you see how superficial things are? If I could go back in time and were given a photo of you (provided that the pic is your's) I would not call you because you look like you're short. You probably wouldn't call me either based upon a face pic because I would appear fat when actually I''m very tall and thin but my face is full enough to make people think I'm actually obese...costly dinner date!

lol a short-people hater.

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