What do the rest of us do?

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I can understand that. It's illogical to accept a suggestion if you really don't think it could work. There might not be a workable solution. I guess it's frustrating for the people who get their ideas rejected........it's difficult to be honest about it without seeming ungrateful. But it's likely to happen.

Your answer to the "learn to drive" idea is interesting. You feel it's too dangerous, i.e. although it would solve your problem, that's not worth the risk to life and limb. It might help to look at the statistics for road traffic deaths. Are you significantly safer as a pedestrian? If you can quantify the risk, you can weigh up the value of the "driving" solution more effectively. Also, once we've run out of ideas, the only thing left is to pick the least evil option, and then choose between giving that a try, and giving up on your goal, at least until such time as something else turns up. If you want it enough, you'll give what it takes to get it.

its more than that, you also come here to complain about relationship status and friends and such. But you always have an excuse as to why you dont go after them. If so then why complain? Ill give you all the right to complain if you're out there trying and not succeeding. Now having excuses and complaining i dont tolerate

Statistics might help if you are just scared of driving (including being a passenger) in general but if you think or know you are a bad driver the chance of having accidents is much greater.

I obviously don't want it badly enough then, as there is no way I'm going to drive, and risk myself or others in the process.

As a "Pedestrian" where I live, I am perfectly safe for the simple reason, we have no sidewalks and no crosswalks. So, I never leave the house unless it's in a car. And I hate being a passenger also. I simply hate cars.

I'd love to live in a place with busses, trams, streetcars, skybuckets and light rail.. with easy access to airports, ferrys and Amtrak.. but it's simply not going to happen. Those places all cost money, and I simply have no marketable skills to secure employment in those locales.

Desire would seem to be outweighed by fear, in this case. I think you'll get bored sooner or later and see things differently.

Yes, quite the predicament. Don't forget the meth labs. Meth cooking is a big hobby in my area. There are a disproportionate amount of churches around here. My family are among the religious nuts. I am religious too, but not to the degree they are.

I am slightly interested in learning to drive. I have no one to teach me. My parents are so verbally abusive, I can't give them a licence to "criticize" me.

Yup, though here it's mostly not meth anymore (thanks to all the stores keeping cold pills behind the counter and strict daily purchase limits) but Hillbilly Heroin (aka lortab, Xanax, percoset, etc) which is the big thing now..

Don't get me wrong, I respect peoples beliefs, I just have had my share of people preaching AT me, and it's rather killed my interest in being preached to.

How does a person know they are a bad driver unless they have never tried? Many people on the spectrum tend to fixate and obsess but driving can help us to let go of that. You will need a car for the majority of jobs and learning is something that can greatly benefit your situation.

Sounds like you are limiting your potential and predetermining your future before it has even happened. I think you need to start taking a more positive perspective on the environment around you and yourself instead of having a self defeatist attitude, I think if you do this, you will start to see changes but not just in yourself but also in others because you will see the good in them.

rabbittss and metaldanielle, do either of you live in Oklahoma? Because you sound like you could as well be describing my hometown.

I fortunately can drive and do have a car. It took me a long time to learn and failed attempts to pass the test, but I got there.

Still running into a similar problem. I've been trying to look for groups and meet-ups, to expand my ever dwindling social network and have a better chance of making friends, and also potentially meeting a woman down the road, as opposed to being completely cut-off from everyone with no chance of ever dating (again, at least, since I succeeded somehow before). Everything I've found is either for Christian kids and teens, or if it's for adults, then apparently there are big enough groups of single moms, military wives, witches and pagans, and swingers and kinksters here for those to have groups or meetings, but nothing else, so no interest to me.

I have another different idea:

Do you have a relative in a big city and might you like to work in that city on a seasonal basis?

(I have in mind looking for work in a department store as early as July, but it could be any other kind of seasonal work. The thing I like about seasonal work is that once the season is over I can check it off as a success. )

No, but I've been to North Eastern Oklahoma before, and have nothing but sympathy for anyone living there. Euck. Talk about depressing.

No I actually am not that far from Atlanta, geographically speaking, anyway. As for my ability to go to Atlanta, or even to Athens, they might as well be on the other side of the moon.




This isn't a bad idea, but the bulk of my Family lives in the UK, not the US, and even if one of them were willing to let me stay with them for an extended period of time, the chances of me being able to get a work visa are basically nil.

This loops back to the previous quote, all my other family lives in Oklahoma, which would basically leave me in the same situation I'm in now.. except probably worse.

Not that I advise this but if I was stuck somewhere i had nothing....I'd likely pack up a few things I had, maybe some food and probably start walking...at that point I'd be willing to hitch hike. I apologize that it is hardly much help, but honestly I don't know what else I could do in that situation.

Honestly I've thought about that a few times. But I'm so risk averse I'd rather stay with what I have now than risk it trying to get something better.. since my constant and consistent failure rate reinforces my pessimistic attitude that "Nothing ventured, nothing lost" rather than 'Nothing ventured, nothing gained".

No need to apologize, it's actually a helpful thing to know that I'm not the only one who maybe has thought about that. I wouldn't hitchhike, I'd just walk the 10 miles to town and get a greyhound some place.. I just don't know where I'd go if I did such a thing, since I don't have family that lives anyplace I'd want to live.

At this point, I'm just really hoping I manage to get into UGA so then I can move to the town it's in and avail myself of their public transit, scanty as it may be.