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Would you date or consider entering a relationship with a smoker?
Deal breaker. Absolutely not. 49%  49%  [ 42 ]
Yes, but only if the person was really great otherwise. 24%  24%  [ 21 ]
Yes, I don't care if the person smokes. 24%  24%  [ 21 ]
Yes, I prefer smokers. 2%  2%  [ 2 ]
Total votes : 86

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17 Jun 2012, 4:44 pm

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Newsflash: You can't blame everything on sensory issues. I somehow doubt that it's Asperger's syndrome that makes you hate tobacco smell when you basically smell car exhaust in every public place (allthough you don't really notice this, as you're used to it) and when you're subconsciously bombarded by the smell of junk food, garbage or anything like that in every store. Sensory issues pretty much makes you oversensitive to every unpleasant smell, not just one specific type.

Sensory sensitivity to smell means we are aware and made uncomfortable/nauseus by the smell of car exhaust, the stink of dead fish down by the lake, the smell of armpit/halitosis/perfume/garlic/curry/cigarettes on public buses, the bilious odour from the McDonald's up the street when the wind changes......etc. etc.



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17 Jun 2012, 4:53 pm

Kurgan wrote:
Newsflash: You can't blame everything on sensory issues. I somehow doubt that it's Asperger's syndrome that makes you hate tobacco smell when you basically smell car exhaust in every public place (allthough you don't really notice this, as you're used to it) and when you're subconsciously bombarded by the smell of junk food, garbage or anything like that in every store. Sensory issues pretty much makes you oversensitive to every unpleasant smell, not just one specific type.


Every (unpleasant) smell has a different chemical composition. There might be some chemicals that overlap, but the makeups themselves are different. That being said, the sensory issue could be attributed to a particular chemical or a specific component of a chemical compound, not necessarily all unpleasant smells.



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17 Jun 2012, 4:53 pm

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Newsflash: You can't blame everything on sensory issues. I somehow doubt that it's Asperger's syndrome that makes you hate tobacco smell when you basically smell car exhaust in every public place (allthough you don't really notice this, as you're used to it) and when you're subconsciously bombarded by the smell of junk food, garbage or anything like that in every store. Sensory issues pretty much makes you oversensitive to every unpleasant smell, not just one specific type.

Sensory sensitivity to smell means we are aware and made uncomfortable/nauseus by the smell of car exhaust, the stink of dead fish down by the lake, the smell of armpit/halitosis/perfume/garlic/curry/cigarettes on public buses, the bilious odour from the McDonald's up the street when the wind changes......etc. etc.


Sensory issues can still be managed and even NTs have some of them. Clothes would for instance be a major issue if you weren't used to them, as would the diesel fumes in the city or the smell of a person's veins as a result of his/hers diet. I can almost guarantee that nobody, regardless of label can smell smoked cigarettes in a trash can when they're surrounded by other, worse smells outside. Unpleasant smells drown in more unpleasant smells.



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17 Jun 2012, 5:05 pm

Kurgan wrote:
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Newsflash: You can't blame everything on sensory issues. I somehow doubt that it's Asperger's syndrome that makes you hate tobacco smell when you basically smell car exhaust in every public place (allthough you don't really notice this, as you're used to it) and when you're subconsciously bombarded by the smell of junk food, garbage or anything like that in every store. Sensory issues pretty much makes you oversensitive to every unpleasant smell, not just one specific type.

Sensory sensitivity to smell means we are aware and made uncomfortable/nauseus by the smell of car exhaust, the stink of dead fish down by the lake, the smell of armpit/halitosis/perfume/garlic/curry/cigarettes on public buses, the bilious odour from the McDonald's up the street when the wind changes......etc. etc.


Sensory issues can still be managed and even NTs have some of them. Clothes would for instance be a major issue if you weren't used to them, as would the diesel fumes in the city or the smell of a person's veins as a result of his/hers diet. I can almost guarantee that nobody, regardless of label can smell smoked cigarettes in a trash can when they're surrounded by other, worse smells outside. Unpleasant smells drown in more unpleasant smells.


Fair enough, but if you have a sharp sense of smell and are taking someone who smokes out on a date, chances are you're gonna notice it, since you're gonna be at a restaurants, where you'll be more surrounded by good smells than bad ones.



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17 Jun 2012, 5:14 pm

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Kurgan wrote:
singularity wrote:
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Newsflash: You can't blame everything on sensory issues. I somehow doubt that it's Asperger's syndrome that makes you hate tobacco smell when you basically smell car exhaust in every public place (allthough you don't really notice this, as you're used to it) and when you're subconsciously bombarded by the smell of junk food, garbage or anything like that in every store. Sensory issues pretty much makes you oversensitive to every unpleasant smell, not just one specific type.

Sensory sensitivity to smell means we are aware and made uncomfortable/nauseus by the smell of car exhaust, the stink of dead fish down by the lake, the smell of armpit/halitosis/perfume/garlic/curry/cigarettes on public buses, the bilious odour from the McDonald's up the street when the wind changes......etc. etc.


Sensory issues can still be managed and even NTs have some of them. Clothes would for instance be a major issue if you weren't used to them, as would the diesel fumes in the city or the smell of a person's veins as a result of his/hers diet. I can almost guarantee that nobody, regardless of label can smell smoked cigarettes in a trash can when they're surrounded by other, worse smells outside. Unpleasant smells drown in more unpleasant smells.


Fair enough, but if you have a sharp sense of smell and are taking someone who smokes out on a date, chances are you're gonna notice it, since you're gonna be at a restaurants, where you'll be more surrounded by good smells than bad ones.


I never notice a smoker's breath until i kiss her and even then, the almost faded smell of cigarettes is better than the smell of unhealthy food, sulfur and so on that is found in the mouths of other people.

At a restaurant, I'm more likely to notice the smell of the food or the smell of the floor polish. Actually, almost eery room in every building smells like floor polsh to a certain degree.



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18 Jun 2012, 11:17 am

Cigarettes would definitely be a turn-off. I find the smell disgusting.

Cigars and weed are acceptable.



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18 Jun 2012, 11:20 am

It reeks.


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18 Jun 2012, 12:42 pm

There are other reasons apart from the smell and/or sensitivity to smoke, I'm happily married, so this is academic, but one thing that I do not find attractive in a man is a disrespect for his own body. I don't need him to be an Adonis gym fanatic. But, if he purposefully and unnecessarily inhales carcinogenic substances, in my mind that means he really doesn't mind dying young of an unpleasant death too. I'd prefer for my man to at least want to grow old with me.


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18 Jun 2012, 2:40 pm

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Cigarettes would definitely be a turn-off. I find the smell disgusting.

Cigars and weed are acceptable.


A strong, well-maintained cannabis plant has a pretty distinctive odor.



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18 Jun 2012, 4:34 pm

maybe listen to your fealing instead of breaking your neck about if someone smokes or not.



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18 Jun 2012, 7:42 pm

thedaywalker wrote:
maybe listen to your fealing instead of breaking your neck about if someone smokes or not.


Quoted for maturity and level headed attitude on the topic :)



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19 Jun 2012, 12:46 am

I agree, I rarely drink, I don't smoke or do drugs and I would expect the same in a partner. I would expect my partner to follow a strict diet or routine and make a concious effort to be the best they can be and to look the best they can.



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19 Jun 2012, 4:43 pm

I smoke, so in all honesty I don't really give a s**t if she smokes. It would be hypocritical for me to say otherwise.



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19 Jun 2012, 5:19 pm

Depends, cigarettes no, crack cocaine yes.



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19 Jun 2012, 6:36 pm

Indeed.......tobacco was never stipulated as the said combustible. Tobacco has serious health implications but much depends on the quantity. Cannabis has the legal difficulty in many countries, though otherwise that wouldn't worry me anything like as much as tobacco.....no proven cancer risk for the former, so as long they're not getting ridiculously bombed out on the stuff all the time, I don't think I'd be too concerned. Crack cocaine, no. Softens the brain....it's Class A isn't it? :shameonyou:

I bet the OP just meant tobacco.



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19 Jun 2012, 7:38 pm

I have bad sinus problems sometimes & being around smoke makes me feel bad so Yes


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