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rabbittss
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21 Jun 2012, 7:17 am

Wolfheart wrote:
Those events you mentioned are more suited towards groups that are already acquainted with each other or couples that are engaged in a relationship. Try finding activities for single people such as something towards a specific interest, that would be your best bet. Another thing you could try is working in a charity shop or a hostel if you have any nearby, a hostel can be a good way to meet foreign girls and be tour or party guide for them.


There is nothing like that around here. The Charity shops are only run by old ladies, and when I've volunteered I always get stuck in the back with the people who have to do court ordered community service.

Basically, we have nothing even remotely like what you are talking about, outside of church or religious activities. But since I'm not christian, that kind of rules that out.


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Someone who you only do physical stuff with is a f**k-buddy, not a romantic partner.


I'm not arguing with you, but I'd be perfectly happy to have one of those for right now.



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21 Jun 2012, 1:35 pm

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I don't go out to eat, I don't go to the movies, I don't go skating, bowling or to sporting events. I have no desire to go to these places alone, and I have no one to go with. I pretty much go to the grocery store, and home, if school is on, I go to class, then to the lobby and sit and wait on my next class. Hopefully once I can find a job, I can add that to the list also.


Those events you mentioned are more suited towards groups that are already acquainted with each other or couples that are engaged in a relationship. Try finding activities for single people such as something towards a specific interest, that would be your best bet. Another thing you could try is working in a charity shop or a hostel if you have any nearby, a hostel can be a good way to meet foreign girls and be tour or party guide for them.


Many places don't have an active culture for volunteering like you describe. My section of the USA is a desolate wasteland socially. If you aren't in to bars, churches, or clubs then there isn't much to do. If you want to meet people by taking classes after work, you find it is an excellent way to meet married people.



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22 Jun 2012, 3:49 am

rabbittss wrote:
Who_Am_I wrote:

Someone who you only do physical stuff with is a f**k-buddy, not a romantic partner.


I'm not arguing with you, but I'd be perfectly happy to have one of those for right now.


I see the advantage, but you could be holding yourself back if you go that way. If a proper romantic possibility happens by and they see what you're doing, well most people looking for the real deal would probably run a mile. In fact I'd be suspicious of them if they didn't. I guess it makes sense if you're absolutely convinced the romantic thing isn't possible, e.g. if the fully-fledged intimacy thing always blows up in your face and after years of trying nothing's improved. Things have improved in my case, so I'm saving myself for the right lady. :mrgreen:



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22 Jun 2012, 5:17 am

rabbittss wrote:
Wolfheart wrote:
Those events you mentioned are more suited towards groups that are already acquainted with each other or couples that are engaged in a relationship. Try finding activities for single people such as something towards a specific interest, that would be your best bet. Another thing you could try is working in a charity shop or a hostel if you have any nearby, a hostel can be a good way to meet foreign girls and be tour or party guide for them.


There is nothing like that around here. The Charity shops are only run by old ladies, and when I've volunteered I always get stuck in the back with the people who have to do court ordered community service.

Basically, we have nothing even remotely like what you are talking about, outside of church or religious activities. But since I'm not christian, that kind of rules that out.


Who_Am_I wrote:

Someone who you only do physical stuff with is a f**k-buddy, not a romantic partner.


I'm not arguing with you, but I'd be perfectly happy to have one of those for right now.


Fair enough.


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