Males: do you consider yourself physically attractive?

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My Mom tells me all the time that I'm attractive.

In High School I got 7 offers for sex from women I barely knew, but I had to work really damn hard to get a date and friends, so I guess I must be pretty but have a horrible personality. BTW I only accepted the 7th offer after despairing at forming some sort of emotional connection first.

It may have changed after I grew my hair out long and grew a beard.

That's my real face in my profile picture. You can behold its sexiness for yourself.

I'm thinking maybe autistic people are more attractive than average because it is harder for them to make friends and socialize, so they didn't reproduce as well if they didn't have something going for them like their looks or their intelligence. Maybe autism is just a lack of normal emotional responses and the intelligence (or good looks, but this is just a wild guess and I have no idea if it's true or not) that goes along with it is a consequence of everybody else being a bunch of buttheads who wouldn't let them get in their pants.

I think I look better than most other guys I see.

If I had to point the least attractive man on Earth, it will be me.

People around say that's not true, but I don't believe them

I think I'm ugly, but I'm probably less ugly than I think I am.

Some of the time to some women.

I look my best mid summer once I developed my tan and lost the winter weight. I've been told that I have nice eyes which I agree with but only when they correctly identify the colour of my eyes.

Apparently I am very attractive. I hadn't thought about it that much.. But I have been told by a few people that I am very attractive, one person is a girl I talk with frequently

Yes, in a slightly androgynous way that girls right now dig.

Lets see:
Good things:
-I get compliments on my eyes rather frequently and a female asked about them last week(it wasnt much of a flirting thing since she was just wondering why my eyes changed color through the day, but it still counts right?)

-I had a period where I was obsessed with going to the gym to the point of fracturing my hip because of putting it under too much pressure and while Ive sorta been avoiding the gym since(three months on clutches was no fun) Im still in good shape.
Just so you have an idea I told my friends I wanted to stay away from sugary drinks for a while last year and after hearing my weight they encouraged me to drink twice as much sugary drinks and Im not underweight.

Bad things:
-Ive had issues with my hair since I was 12. It runs in the family blah, blah, when you have been hearing people making jokes about it for about half of your life it gets to you.

Also I was at a meeting with people that have read a lot about finding a partner... and the only thing that they mentioned was that my posture looked unwelcoming and I was reluctant to touch(one of them tried to put a friendly arm around my shoulder just as we met, no thanks)

So Id say that Im average looking perhaps slightly above/under but I dont think that looks are whats getting in the way

My head tells me there's no such thing as global attractiveness, that it's all horses for courses, that especially with men a lot of attractiveness is in interpersonal style rather than body parameters, and that we should all focus on attracting the individual we want a relationship with and nobody else instead of swanning about trying to get the crowd horny.

My heart seems to mainly understand that message but still struggles with archaic programming........it's one thing to renounce sexual capitalism, it's another thing to render yourself penniless, though of course as we age, we'd best have learned to be dependent on something more enduring for our self-esteem. I wouldn't mind betting most of the primping I do is barely noticed by the opposite sex. I tend to get caught in this Aspie trap of thinking that if what I see in the mirror pleases me, then it'll please women too. So I spent my first few years after puberty looking rather like a girl. I got more of a handle on things later, which is just as well, or I'd never have believed bald men can be sexy, and I'd have been finished.

As a gut reaction, I usually find random photos of myself to be absolutely revolting and videos are even worse. If it weren't for the women I've had relationships with, I would think everybody saw me as I do.

So I don't consider myself particularly physically attractive or unattractive (logic), but there's a residual self-loathing that sometimes still makes me feel ugly and occasionally fools me into thinking that global attractiveness is important.