Advice on upcoming dating profile...

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Honestly it's the abs. If you look good and don't put abs up you wont get far. It must be awkward to sound NT online but act autistic in real life.

I have a green dot on Okc, 'replies often'. I do get messages from guys who I just don't feel I would be attracted to, sure, but I rarely get the 'unwanted' messages from guys who are clearly incompatible. I am not their type, physically. I could make myself up and wear skimpy clothes and post a pic that makes me look like I am their type, but why would I want to do that? Just to get more hits? No thanks.


Well that's great. You want to attract the typical female, so all is well for you!

Why are you assuming that these girls are really skimpy simply because they find someone attractive based on physical attraction? You don't really know the character of someone until you get to know them and that's not something you can show straight away. I have been getting messages from intelligent women that are studying at degree or doctorate level so I can't understand why you would assume that only promiscuous women like a good appearance.

Showing a good physique is a display that you have devotion, determination, discipline and that you take care of yourself.

If you don't mind sharing, how many women have asked for a second date, Wolf? Have you met any of these women in person? Are you not having luck AFTER they meet you, or are they just not up to your standards after you've met them? I'm really curious, is all.

you will be long dead in 200 years, and no one will have a desire to dig you up and f*ck you.

you are placing much of your identity in your temporary body, and when you get old and frail, you will be without the adulation you claim you engender.

you spend all of your mental energy in the blink of a "geological time frame" eye, and you will be dust in 500 years. no abs or anything.

i guess it is good to honor the temple of your current existence, but i hope you know that the older you get, the further away from your ideal you will become.
if someone bases their identity in their body image, then they have the impossible task of maintaining their body for as long as they wish to enjoy that status.


i do not know.

and so your brain would be rotten in 200 years too, no one will desire to consult your intelligence unless you leave a significant legacy (ie. invention).

Your lecture of "wisdom" was so uncalled for.

Live and let live.

Last edited by The_Face_of_Boo on 07 Aug 2012, 12:33 pm, edited 1 time in total.

I have mentioned the professions/mentality of some the girls many times in the other thread, she's not getting they're more than looks-seekers.

Your profile is more... information-laden than the average. Women are usually horrible about including anything useful. That's good for you.

Also is that Franka Potente? I used to have a shirt that belonged to Franka. Then I gave it to a girl.

If I have said anywhere that I think the women who reply to "abs" pics are skimpy or promiscuous, please show me so I can correct it. I certainly do not belive this. Promiscuous? I've never even hinted that? I believe the abs pics are more likely to attract MORE women, as demonstrated by Boo. At the same time I believe they will attract LESS women like me, but more overall. They will probably be more "typical" women. I have no doubt whatsoever that some of them will have been to university and so forth. When I talk about wearing skimpy clothing, that's when I'm talking about ME doing the equivalent of an abs pic, which I believe will lead to more messages in my inbox, most of which I won't want, because I am not interested in the "typical" guy, typically, lol.

So I'm saying what I do works for me. I present myself in a way that attracts the kind of guys I might be interested in. And the guys who attract me (and I can only assume here, other women who are similar to me) are the ones who set up their profile in a similar way, and do not bare their chest in the main picture.

If a guy wants to attract the typical female, go ahead and show your abs, as this seems to work. All I've been saying is that I believe it also excludes a certain type of female, the type who is put off by that way of making a first impression. We are clearly the minority, so most guys probably won't care. Only the ones who I might want to talk to will care (huge exaggeration, don't quote that), so yay me!

Last edited by yellowtamarin on 07 Aug 2012, 6:42 pm, edited 1 time in total.

Right, so the "typical" guy probably gets bored and can't be bothered reading it all, hehe. Plus I think I put some slightly tricky words in there.

WHAAAAT??? Wait, did you meet Franka? I would have kept that shirt by my pillow and smelt it before I went to sleep each night, hahahaha.

And I have never said that they aren't more than looks-seekers. Maybe I don't explain myself well enough, but a few of you seem to jump to odd conclusions from what I say.

Let me make it clear also that I do not believe the "typical guy" is necessarily poorly educated or only interested in looks, either. How can they all be? They are the majority. I just think in most cases they do not have the type of mindset that suits me.

And when I said it was good for you that you are attracting the type of female you want, I wasn't being sarcastic.

No, it got passed to me from someone else. She wore the shirt in the Bourne Identity. It's this one:

[img][800:480]http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_a4UzzPsZQzU/TAKzS6NgtvI/AAAAAAAADKQ/1ijwS0P31EM/s1600/Train+d%27Enfer1.JPG[/img]

Last I heard the girl I gave it to washed it.

What is wrong with her.

Attracting the typeS I want, yellowtamarin, typeS.

Humanity is more than "typical" and "Atypical", get out of this WP BS mentality.

Again, you're stuck in the 'typical' and 'atypical' categorizing thinking, you should get rid of this lol, seriously.




You did read my profile, it was always the same context, except I had a normal pic (normally clothed with glasses), it had never worked with the "other" type (whatever it is) nor with your oh-so-atypical-type (whatever it is) because the outcome was always null (very response even), I've been on okc since 2007.

What makes you think that physically working out somehow makes me lesser in mental aspects? Working out to a disciplined routine involves mental willpower and discipline, it isn't something that somehow takes away from your intelligence. No one will care less, you're right but what matters now is the moment and feeling good in the moment so we can either roll the dice, take a gamble and chance or just sit around in some library waiting for everything to fall in our place whilst debating about our God superiority complex of pure intellect.

You seek shelter in wisdom but you won't find it, I seek shelter in simplicity and that's a more achieveable goal. I'm not out to be the next president of the United States or the next Einstein, I'm simply someone who came to these forums with the hope of bettering myself, learning and helping others, I think I have done that to some extent.

It seems that people wish to question mine and Boo's motives simply because something has worked successfully, it just goes to show if you aren't on the level of negativity as other people on this forum, they will always find something to criticize.



I have been on second dates and I have had successful meetings from the site and I am set to meet more, I have even met people from this website on a friendly basis as well. I'm open minded and I am willing to give anyone a chance on a personal level if there is a mutual attraction between us, I'm not doing anything immoral because I haven't committed to anyone. If I don't feel a physical or mental attraction, I don't have to be obligated or justify anything, I am direct and I wouldn't date someone if I didn't feel attraction towards them. If me and Boo wanted to run down Times square shirtless,I don't see how that would have any negative effect.

People seem to be judging these women as if they are not modest, typical or that they are only interested in impersonal or casual dating when that is simply not true. Women are visual, from women with doctorates to women that work in Hooters.