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25 Sep 2012, 9:57 pm

equestriatola wrote:
Hypergamy?


Women subconsciously seek men of higher status than they are to ensure the survival of their offspring.



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25 Sep 2012, 10:04 pm

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I'm a quarter century old. My biggest problem is my social awkwardness; which has been a MAJOR impediment in my life (related to my Aspies), and why I have not had a GF.

Onward....
I ask a girl on a date, no matter where she lives, and she sees me like I am either Charlie Sheen, Casey Anthony, Jerry Sandusky, or all three (which I am neither of). Also not helping things is the impression that girls aren't friend-zoning me, they are putting bounties on my head. (Not trying to be funny, it's my personal convictions speaking.)

What I'd like:
To have a GF that understands me, nothing more. There's a few other things, but that's another story for another post.

Simply put, I am not having much luck with girls because of the social awkwardness and the aforementioned being-compared-to-maniacs. I feel sad, and I fear that time is running out for me. I could use help in this.


I feel you man. I only had gf in my life. and I regret losing her but that a never issues. Yeah women can be tough sometimes. I don't know Im not a love expert myself. try finding a women who has common interest. Maybe go after older ladies like 40. Me personaly I get along with older women.



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25 Sep 2012, 10:05 pm

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i hate how women get a free pass for lacking confidence, being insecure but men do not

Because men like sex. and they wouldn't care less



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25 Sep 2012, 10:15 pm

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How do you come off as not being desperate?


I think the best way to do this is to first accept that you want someone who makes you happy, and it's better to be alone than to settle for someone who doesn't.

Then just work with that attitude.



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25 Sep 2012, 10:19 pm

That's the same with me. I don't want to come off as desperate, but I don't want to end my senior year in HS without a girlfriend.



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26 Sep 2012, 12:39 am

Why is it that I have that irrational fear that I mentioned? Maybe it could have to do with my social skills being poor....


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26 Sep 2012, 1:07 am

RICKY5 wrote:
equestriatola wrote:
Hypergamy?


Women subconsciously seek men of higher status than they are to ensure the survival of their offspring.


yeah, it's like as if they want the man to be an overall better person quality-wise, life-wise than they are



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26 Sep 2012, 1:52 am

WantToHaveALife wrote:
RICKY5 wrote:
equestriatola wrote:
Hypergamy?


Women subconsciously seek men of higher status than they are to ensure the survival of their offspring.


yeah, it's like as if they want the man to be an overall better person quality-wise, life-wise than they are


That's it! You are starting to realize the truth. Now accept the truth and be free.



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26 Sep 2012, 2:02 am

RICKY5 wrote:
WantToHaveALife wrote:
RICKY5 wrote:
equestriatola wrote:
Hypergamy?


Women subconsciously seek men of higher status than they are to ensure the survival of their offspring.


yeah, it's like as if they want the man to be an overall better person quality-wise, life-wise than they are


That's it! You are starting to realize the truth. Now accept the truth and be free.


yeah, if its to ensure the survival of the offspring, then yeah i don't blame women at all for that, makes sense, but often times these women are not intentionally trying to get pregnant, have kids



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26 Sep 2012, 9:35 pm

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RICKY5 wrote:
WantToHaveALife wrote:
RICKY5 wrote:
equestriatola wrote:
Hypergamy?


Women subconsciously seek men of higher status than they are to ensure the survival of their offspring.


yeah, it's like as if they want the man to be an overall better person quality-wise, life-wise than they are


That's it! You are starting to realize the truth. Now accept the truth and be free.


yeah, if its to ensure the survival of the offspring, then yeah i don't blame women at all for that, makes sense, but often times these women are not intentionally trying to get pregnant, have kids


Our technology has outpaced our biology.



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27 Sep 2012, 6:59 am

lol, this is like my topic but reversed



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28 Sep 2012, 12:54 am

RICKY5 wrote:
WantToHaveALife wrote:
RICKY5 wrote:
WantToHaveALife wrote:
RICKY5 wrote:
equestriatola wrote:
Hypergamy?


Women subconsciously seek men of higher status than they are to ensure the survival of their offspring.


yeah, it's like as if they want the man to be an overall better person quality-wise, life-wise than they are


That's it! You are starting to realize the truth. Now accept the truth and be free.


yeah, if its to ensure the survival of the offspring, then yeah i don't blame women at all for that, makes sense, but often times these women are not intentionally trying to get pregnant, have kids


Our technology has outpaced our biology.


being male sucks often times



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28 Sep 2012, 12:56 am

WantToHaveALife wrote:
RICKY5 wrote:
WantToHaveALife wrote:
RICKY5 wrote:
WantToHaveALife wrote:
RICKY5 wrote:
equestriatola wrote:
Hypergamy?


Women subconsciously seek men of higher status than they are to ensure the survival of their offspring.


yeah, it's like as if they want the man to be an overall better person quality-wise, life-wise than they are


That's it! You are starting to realize the truth. Now accept the truth and be free.


yeah, if its to ensure the survival of the offspring, then yeah i don't blame women at all for that, makes sense, but often times these women are not intentionally trying to get pregnant, have kids


Our technology has outpaced our biology.


being male sucks often times


Sad but true.


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28 Sep 2012, 3:40 pm

equestriatola wrote:
WantToHaveALife wrote:
RICKY5 wrote:
WantToHaveALife wrote:
RICKY5 wrote:
WantToHaveALife wrote:
RICKY5 wrote:
equestriatola wrote:
Hypergamy?


Women subconsciously seek men of higher status than they are to ensure the survival of their offspring.


yeah, it's like as if they want the man to be an overall better person quality-wise, life-wise than they are


That's it! You are starting to realize the truth. Now accept the truth and be free.


yeah, if its to ensure the survival of the offspring, then yeah i don't blame women at all for that, makes sense, but often times these women are not intentionally trying to get pregnant, have kids


Our technology has outpaced our biology.


being male sucks often times


Sad but true.


yeah, biology kinda screwed us, but i do believe, that the way it works in just about all organisms, animals, the female picks, chooses the best, elite male, it's like, women can be beta but men have to be alpha



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05 Oct 2012, 7:41 am

The whole bounty thing bothers me, to a degree (it's in a post earlier in this thread....)...


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06 Oct 2012, 9:05 pm

equestriatola wrote:
The whole bounty thing bothers me, to a degree (it's in a post earlier in this thread....)...


yeah, makes me miss being a kid often times